Girlfriend called me beta

BadBoyProgrammer · 2018-09-27T10:06:10+00:00

Did you talk about the redpill or the ideas discussed here?

Speaking is silver. Silence is gold.

Looks like she was testing you. Your frame is still weak. That is why it feels like a train wrecking you.

wanker7171 · 2018-09-27T10:58:39+00:00

That hit me hard as a train

because you're insecure and she knows it. I have a story that's similar to this but I caught myself before I fucked up.

So I've been inserting RP ideas into my friend group for a while now and my closest friend whose also the best ladies' man I know said that amused mastery just seems a bit try hard. Anyway fast forward to me talking to this girl with absolutely gorgeous tits, I make a joke about something she says and she replies with "I just feel like you're trying way too hard" just as I was about to get all in my head because my friend had said this too, my mind screamed "SHE ALMOST GOT YOU!" I used the pause to tilt my head and incredulously ask "Am I the first guy you've ever talked to?" she started blushing and I ended up sleeping with her that night. Understand your insecurities and fight against them.

redhawkes · 2018-09-27T11:06:46+00:00

-You dont need to do pretend this alpha shit with me.

-Pretend? Alpha shit? Than what do you think i am?

She's right, since you're seeking her approval/validation.

Second, FRAME. You've skipped that chapter. She knew the former you, hence the shit testing to see if you pretend or you're the real deal.

Third, using RP for bloop ideals. You did all this shit just to get with her. You see her as the prize not vice versa.

Shit test failed. Revisit the sidebar.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-09-27T13:09:47+00:00

She found a crack in your armor. She got under your skin. The soy leaked out and you lost your frame.

From this point on she is gonna amplify it . youll be made beta if u werent already.

jambaslev · 2018-09-27T10:05:00+00:00

Dont budge, shes just tryna break your frame and attitude.

2ndcunuck · 2018-09-27T10:09:14+00:00

You’re insecure and it’s driving holes in your frame. You need to stop caring what your gf says and learn to not take her so seriously.

BigBallsJamesHunt · 2018-09-27T12:40:09+00:00

If that's all it takes to shatter your frame I guess she was right

Philippe93 · 2018-09-27T10:37:38+00:00

I would probably ignore her...and then fuck her.

RedHoodhandles · 2018-09-27T12:43:56+00:00

Sounds like a keeper...

You know there are shit tests and there is plain disrespect. You don't need to A&A every bullshit that she is spewing out of her face. You're not a clown.

See that's the problem when you LTR girls whom you've chased too long because she perceived the SMV difference as too small. She perceived hers as even higher in the beginning. Now the frame is that she is the price and she is doing you a favour for being together with you. It could be that or just banter. We don't know the dynamic between you.

My first instinct would have been to A&A and fuck her hard. But then you would reward her bad behaviour with sex.

Acting unfased and an immediate soft next would be my solution for this kind of disrespect. Being unfased would be even better.

Bruchibre · 2018-09-27T12:28:48+00:00

Looks like bad news... She rejected you a while ago, then is with you but thinks you're a beta... You're not in a comfortable position here, she sees herself as on top of the food chain. Be wary of more red flags.

https://i.redd.it/zlbsntyda9k11.jpg

TheRedPillMonkey · 2018-09-27T11:58:36+00:00

Wow, you not only failed that shit test, you didn't even realize it was one.

Maybe she's right. Because an alpha would have said, "ill show alpha", turned her over, and ravaged her. You had her arms pinned. That turned her on and she wanted to poke the bear so she got attacked and kept going.

The only reason I'm starting to agree with her is because here you are whining about it instead of doing something about it.

MisplacedSanityP · 2018-09-27T15:05:28+00:00

Is she still sucking your dick whenever you want? Is she doing all the things a good LTR should do? If so, there's no problem here. She just found a crack in your armor and apparently ripped it apart. Note our insecurities always have some truth to them. Now does she do this shit a lot? If so, you may have a problem.

MattyAnon · 2018-09-27T15:45:47+00:00

Any advice?

Commitment = beta

isteppedinsjw · 2018-09-27T17:34:07+00:00

Why are you still with her if she rejected you and called beta

redvelvet_oreo · 2018-09-27T18:08:22+00:00

Im not gonna repeat what everyone else here said cause its all valid. Your frame sucks. My LTR likes to think she is the Alpha and says it all the time. One time she was like "your my beta" I just chuckled as I picked her up threw her on her bed. She was choking on my cock 3 minutes later.

What she says and feels are two different things. Never take what a women says at face value. Most of the time she feels the opposite of what she is saying or is trying test your frame.

As for the people who think i am a pussy in bed and a doormat in general: -we have a dynamic, 50-50 relationship, which i have no problem with. She is charismatic, tendentios and i dont want it any other way. I want a strong woman (yeah i know, booo right?) beside myself, who has her own ambition and intrests, not a clingy bitch. Someone who is an equal to me, and dare to challange my views, but at the same time has no problem if i do the same. -for the sex. great. (been together with a nymphomaniac girlfriend for 2 years 5 times/day so i think i know a thing or two)

Based on how you sound and describe her you sound like your still putting this bitch on a pedestal. You probably really are still beta. Start acting like a man for christ sake. Have you not read anything on here? Equals? Your the fucking prize. Your suppose to be the higher value person here or should be trying to be. She wont respect you otherwise. There is no such thing as equals in this game dude. Sorry you are still a PUSSY!

My TRP Spider Sense is telling me you will be tasting chads cum pretty soon.

Psychological_Radish · 2018-09-27T18:16:10+00:00

I agree with the shit test assessment, as well as the point about you still being insecure (otherwise you wouldn't be here asking for advice). And yeah, should have given her rough sex after that little comment.

But here is another point that needs to be addressed:

Someone who is an equal to me

No. You might want that, but she doesn't. Girls don't want their equal; they want their superior. Maybe she'll settle for a guy of equal status, but she would ultimately prefer to marry up instead of across.

Dispense with this notion of equality within relationships. Men and women are not equivalent and never will be. We both have our inherent strengths and weaknesses. As Rollo says, men and women are complementary.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2018-09-27T16:41:13+00:00

Woulda laughed, said "I'll show you beta" pulled her across my lap and gave her a playful spanking. Then any time after if she said it again I'd just say she was trying to get another spanking.

The fact you took it personally instead of funny shows she isn't wrong.

finnabustanuut · 2018-09-27T10:46:08+00:00

Sidebar

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2018-09-27T14:38:48+00:00

You’re her bitch. She can see right through you. Women can smell the odor of doormat men.

She rejected you previously. Thus, you accepting her as your girlfriend AFTER that sets the tone. She calls the shots. Ever get a blowjob from her? A great one?

kwp312 · 2018-09-27T14:54:11+00:00

Sounds like a test

SoulRedemption · 2018-09-27T15:03:56+00:00

Did you break rule #1?

daytonbull90 · 2018-09-27T15:12:46+00:00

She's your gf

She rejected you in the past

She tested and you failed

You are beta, my friend. You could have ended that with silence, dread, anything... Why are you with her in the first place?

csawyer86 · 2018-09-27T15:24:28+00:00

Instead of letting that comment get to you, you should have pinned her even harder and ripped her clothes off, fucked her good and slapped her ass when you were done.

yesbuthereswhy · 2018-09-27T15:57:16+00:00

i broke out the friendzone and we are together for a year now.

Advice is to never do this again. You don’t hang out with women as friends. You orbit plain and simple. You made the mistake of getting with a woman you orbited and now you expect her to think you’re alpha. She knows your not alpha because you broke up with her and then got back together.

DiscordantMonk · 2018-09-27T16:10:01+00:00

These kinds of shit tests are prime for instantly leading to caveman sex! "Oh yeah?" Said with a smirk as I hold her down and rip her clothes off.

Zanford · 2018-09-27T18:04:44+00:00

Than she said jokingly:-You dont need to do pretend this alpha shit with me.-Pretend? Alpha shit? Than what do you think i am?-You more like a beta.

After her first comment, your voice or face was butthurt. If you'd been nonreactive, it would've ended there.

omeone who is an equal to me, and dare to challange my views, but at the same time has no problem if i do the same.

Yeaaaaaah guys who say this tend to be doormats who are rationalizing

'Challenges your views', huh? How has she made you smarter or wiser? She teach you Kepler's laws of motion or something?

-for the sex. great. (been together with a nymphomaniac girlfriend for 2 years 5 times/day so i think i know a thing or two)

How are the BJs and anal?

snowmoose1 · 2018-09-27T21:05:12+00:00

you better just dump her

ChadFromColumbus · 2018-09-27T11:31:20+00:00

How much blatant disrespect are you willing to take?

assholeofthesky · 2018-09-27T16:03:51+00:00

Ha, fucking beta.

Now become the alpha you need to be faggot and get back on the path. she clearly knows

Shtafoo · 2018-09-27T12:16:17+00:00

Could've been a comfort test, no worries she still got you

Title	Girlfriend called me beta
Author	Dante_HUN
Upvotes	11
Comments	44
Date	September 27, 2018 9:56 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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