Guys 25 and under, do you feel like social media is a must have when it comes to dating?

SpinPlates · 2018-09-24T10:08:50+00:00

I've said this before on here a ton. No social media is better than low social media.

Don't bother playing the Instagram angle if you have 40 followers and pictures of food, and your stock F-150.

If you have 1,000+ followers and interesting pictures it's a huge advantage

BadBoyProgrammer · 2018-09-24T08:19:13+00:00

Not under 25, 30+ here...

I don't use social media.

Have come accross a few girls who also do not use any social media (to protect reputation and avoid drama I assume).

I do consider texting to be a 'sickness' and value face-to-face contact. I refuse to use text for anything more then quick logistics and even then I prefer a phone call.

Some people make a problem out of it. Not my problem however.

sorryforthelifestory · 2018-09-24T05:36:36+00:00

I'm somewhere between 18-22 and live in a big city. In my experience it would just be impossible to be socially connected in a mainstream way without at least a Snapchat and probably an Instagram. It's just a normal part of life for young people. Obviously you could still pull girls and shit without it, but it's something that dramatically deviates you from the rest of the herd. You talk about having no social proof, which is why you don't have social media. Anyone with any social proof in our admittedly fucked up youth culture is going to have social media. But at the end of the day, you can pursue what is important to you.

satanicpriest13 · 2018-09-24T11:27:47+00:00

Not a must at all. Completely off everything, and it works in favour of my game. I meet girls through events I go to, gym, and parties. It adds to the mystery when people find out I have no social media. It also keeps me focused on my own stuff. Nothing to distract you, and when I'm seeing a girl, all the drama of liking her pictures etc is avoided with a valid reason.

Sure it's easier when you have tinder, but I'd rather be out doing things and women being the secondary outcomes rather than constantly creating an online persona to beat the algorithms of (((dating apps))).

captaintrippay · 2018-09-24T04:50:38+00:00

It’s not a must.

You gotta ask yourself first, do you want an IG or Twitter? If yes, why? Is it to up your chances with the ladies, keep in touch with family, or for your own reference later on?

You’re over thinking it brother either you want one or not, and if you ever meet a girl who rejects you solely because you don’t have one, let us know so I can call you a fucking liar.

[deleted] · 2018-09-24T10:15:43+00:00

Depends what kind of girl you're trying to date. I once went out with a girl who didn't have a single social media account and it was the most refreshing thing. She didn't pull out her phone once while we were together.

Tousen71 · 2018-09-24T07:04:00+00:00

Socia media is good for personal branding. If you’re living an interesting life, I don’t see the harm in a post every now and then (once every few months or so).

Wouldn’t use it to get girls though. That probably won’t happen. However, if you’re curating your content well, it’ll demonstrate a high potential SMV for girls when/if they try to inevitably stalk you.

You’re good without it as well. My advice is to just not spend too much time on it and stick to twitter or Instagram. You missed the wave on Snapchat and to be honest it’s more of a girls/narcissists app anyways.

Couer_De_Lion · 2018-09-24T07:06:05+00:00

I hate social media so i'll preface with that, I hate the culture and the thirst posting, the validation seeking behavior. I've had clout before (back in the FB days) so this isn't from a position of jealousy either

i've only got an old fb acc from high school and an insta I use occasionally for memes, which has made chicks second guess me tbh.

Leaves you culturally disconnected as well, even old people feen social media these days, so being under 25 and not highlights you as a weird cunt, like pretty much the only people without social media are social pariahs, which course makes sense. Not particularly attractive

Still hasn't persuaded me to make one, I'm a perfectionist and having an acc with a low following wouldn't be acceptable to me

So yeah after that ramble, summary is its almost vital but you can get by w/o it, just gonna miss some opportunities, but if u have no clout anyways........

king_kay_ · 2018-09-24T09:22:20+00:00

It's a tool. If you want to display your high SMV, it is very easy to do and heard great stuff can come out of it.

However, I prefer to remain mysterious and let them find out my SMV the hard way. It's more rewarding and surprising to them.

If anything, I find Social Media a waste of time and a slippery slope to procrastination. It tends to feed narcissism rather than self development.

I only have instagram for my photography endeavours, which isn't even the best medium for it.

metallica11 · 2018-09-24T13:29:32+00:00

I have better things to do than maintain my social media presence. I have a snapchat, facebook, and instagram, but only use them to connect with people, not to exert effort into increasing likes/followers.

as such, sometimes women will be weirded out that I only have "15 likes" on my instagram photos.

Those women are usually the ones with the most validation and daddy issues anyways.

PerplexingPegasus_ · 2018-09-24T20:01:00+00:00

Snapchat most definitely. Instagram is a women’s world and you will never beat a women when it comes to unnecessary validation. If you have little social proof, IG is not your friend. If your SMV is good and lifestyle is interesting, use your IG.

If you don’t have either, they’ll assume you’re some type of hermit. Best bet is to use snap for logistics and snap occasional cool things you’re doing on your story.

Bedtimeshine · 2018-09-24T05:27:27+00:00

Social media is for kids, clowns, and insecure attention seekers... not masculine grown men. If you don’t haven the value and smv to walk into a room and get women... that’s where your attention should be... never social media or tinder.

person8445 · 2018-09-24T06:51:03+00:00

You really don't need it

gaki123 · 2018-09-24T17:35:38+00:00

For people saying that does not matter: Are you actually 25 or younger? Preferably 23 and younger If so, do you pull hot'ish (say 7.5 or above) girls?

Because from what I SEE (that is, what kind of guys are pulling the most amount of tail) social media is a fucking must. Thinking that is not is meme I fell for and regret hugely and I am still recovering, that is trying to rebuild a social media presence

darkdarkDog · 2018-09-24T08:40:20+00:00

I just use social media for memories, I post there so I can look back the days of my friends and I.

theromanshcheezit · 2018-09-24T14:37:10+00:00

Lol this is an AskMen-esque question.

I’m 19, and social media doesn’t really make that much of a difference. Social media is only really good for branding yourself and launching a business or creating a clientele. It’s makes no real difference in dating.

mchilds83 · 2018-09-24T11:29:46+00:00

I'm 35 and have come to realize it helps immensely. I share interesting photos from trips and women seem to eat it up. It sparks their interest and makes them decide to contact me and ask about my life. I reluctantly started using Snapchat, and made my FB more interesting. Still holding out on using IG though.

IG seems totally narcissistic and Snapchat is where they send me frequent sexy selfies and talk about hooking up. It's an unfaithful woman's dream, being able to flirt with or hit on guys and without having to own the shame of deleting their conversation history since it does that automatically.

I use WhatsApp in place of long distance phone calls or to send good quality attachments via mobile.

[deleted] · 2018-09-24T11:30:24+00:00

Nope. Just unplugged from all social media like a couple of weeks back (except Reddit, which will be soon). Best decision I ever made. It's such a sinkhole and a waste of time way to give beta attention. I'd rather do my life. Also adds to mystery when we're dating, doesn't give we all the data points in my life immediately. It is difficult, but it forces you to live in the real world.

[deleted] · 2018-09-24T12:44:12+00:00

I’ll be 26 in a few days so I barely made it. I made my first Facebook post the other day in two years. It was about a human trafficking problem in my small town. Aside from that, the only social media I use is LinkedIn and Reddit. FB, instagram, Twitter and all the other shit are massive time sinks. You’re letting absolute strangers know what mundane and mostly ordinary things you do. It just seems rather strange to be so public about your day to day to life.

willbrown72 · 2018-09-24T15:07:04+00:00

I would say Snapchat is a must because it’s basically just texting and I know people that will ask for you snap quicker than a phone number

mcr00sterdota · 2018-09-24T15:08:20+00:00

24 year old here. I've got a Facebook account that I use for events, trade and messenger. Don't have time for taking selfies and dumb wall posts. Have never added any girls that I want to fuck in the past 2 years and it works well, interestingly adding girls on Facebook always ends up in the friendzone for me.

YTBR · 2018-09-24T15:58:59+00:00

I've got over 100k followers and it's definitely useful. I get free products, paid to use things, and get 50-80 messages a day. Have met many cool guys and cute girls. The people here who say social media is worthless don't understand how drastically it can help your life. It's easy to say something sucks when you aren't succeeding at it, but the truth is, it's the best thing I've ever done for myself.

FriendlyNeighburrito · 2018-09-24T16:40:35+00:00

im under 25, and no i do not think that

Peter_B_Long · 2018-09-24T19:22:25+00:00

24YO here.

I'd say that having at least an instagram should be necessary.

Make sure that you put some investment in it at first. Just watch some youtube videos on how to get some IG followers. If you want to learn the game part of IG, look up "christian gray pua instagram" on google. He lays out what girls find attractive on guys pages. You only need to stay invested in it for a week or 2, then just post a pic every few weeks to keep it fresh.

I'd suggest not DM'ing girls on IG. I did that for months and got a few plates / dates out of it but the investment was huge.

Get good professional photos taken. I'm sure you can find someone who will do them for free if they just want to work on their portfolio. Just buy them a beer or something.

Again, you need to want to put some effort into this. If you're not really invested then you're just wasting your time.

dobbekz · 2018-09-24T20:31:17+00:00

Instagram is great for certain things such as pre game, if you're traveling soon you can use insta to talk to different girls and set things up before you get there. Social media is definetely a meme but not to girls and that is who we are trying to get to, of course I put 0 value on social media but I should still use it to get more access to a higher amount of good looking girls. And I'm not advising wasting time sitting around on Facebook and looking into peoples lives. What I'd do is just make an instagram account post a couple different kind of pictures mostly ones that show you in a good light though like after a work out or shirtless at the beach something like that. Once you have that just use your insta profile to dm girls.

58021 · 2018-09-24T21:49:24+00:00

i get laid off it every once in a while

coldwhipzx · 2018-10-03T05:40:59+00:00

If you look good enough you don’t need anything.

If you don’t look good enough, every little thing can either help you, or hurt you

JamesTakingNames · 2018-09-24T13:12:15+00:00

Yes.

It's a good way to keep tabs on the other person if you're dating them. For all you know, you can be dating this girl and she can be on snapchat/instagram taking pictures with other guys and you wouldn't even know it. She'll take advantage of it.

Social media is a good way to show your accomplishments. If the girl is interested in you, she'll ask about your accomplishments without you having to tell her. "I was looking at your profile and saw this picture of you at so and so place, blah blah blah". You can say you did this or whatever but you have no proof; If you don't have proof then nobody gives af

If you can't get past 100 followers on anything, then don't make one. Girls care about that stuff a lot

Auxfite · 2018-09-24T16:48:01+00:00

Alpha males should avoid social media. Women like mystery and social media exposes everything about yourself.. in my opinion social media is for men with low SMV. I just use Snapchat but don’t post stories more to talk to friends.. now if you’re a celebrity social media works not just for women but for marketing purposes.. average dude? Waste of time. I deleted my ig at 1.5k followers was getting 100-150 likes a pic.. but that’s irrelevant. Been 4 months without my ig and I’ve been pulling way more girls. Get rid of a useless dopamine

Tldr- leave social media to beta males and celebrities

thesquarerootof1 · 2018-09-24T15:08:07+00:00

I hate social media. However, I met my ex on Facebook (a random friend request). I never had an Instagram or Snapchat and don't plan to. I deactivated my FB account as well and I feel great. I just can't handle the narcissism and people trying to one-up each other all the time. I am 26 by the way. I hope I can find a girl like me who has the same views

riskitit · 2018-09-24T17:09:34+00:00

18M. No, better gals use social media less in my experience

Title	Guys 25 and under, do you feel like social media is a must have when it comes to dating?
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Date	September 24, 2018 4:27 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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