Help needed

Governor_Humphries · 2019-01-18T23:28:18+00:00

You don't want to kill yourself; you want to kill the current, shitty version of yourself. You can do it, too. Almost nobody ends up staying the same way they were at 17; almost everybody ends up much better. But it takes time and discipline.

Ask yourself two questions: What can I get better at? (Almost everything) What do I have control over? (Not as much at 17 as you will at 20 or 25 or 30, but more than you think.)

Is your living space tidy? That's something simple that you have direct control over.

Are you improving your physique? Your back problems aren't completely debilitating. You can probably do something like planks. You can use YouTube to learn yoga.

Are you watching porn? Stop. Seriously.

Are you feeding yourself well? At 17 you are still somewhat at the mercy of what Mom puts on the table, but you can eat better at school and avoid shitty snacks. You can stop drinking soda.

Are you feeding your brain? You absolutely have control over this. Read. Books, not Twitter.

Are you sleeping badly? So many bad thoughts come from lack of good sleep. Do something during the day that tires you out physically and go to bed earlier.

This stuff is simple. It's not easy, but it's not that fucking hard, either. It won't solve your problems overnight. It will get you moving in the right direction.

Good habits compound on themselves. So do bad ones.

If you can summon the wherewithal to say "Fuck it, imma kill myself" you also have the wherewithal to say "Fuck it, imma clean my room and go walk a mile."

You have the ability to make decisions that start turning yourself into someone better. But you gotta build that base, bro. It doesn't just happen.

misls · 2019-01-18T23:02:07+00:00

These years are supposed to be your best years

Wrong, these are supposed to be your learning years. You'll need to go through hell to become a man. Men are made, not born. Lifting isn't the only thing that matters, you'll just need to find a way to overcome adversity. Once you realize that adversity is a blessing in disguise, you'll learn from hardships and mistakes which in return will make you into who you want to be.

I was raised by a single mother as well, you have the potential to be much more than most men for that simple fact. Once you learn the ways of becoming an Alpha male, you'll have both the mindset of females and men which will ultimately be extremely useful.

Trposh · 2019-01-18T22:38:35+00:00

there was another thread earlier today called feeling suicidal with lots of good advice check it out

essie1623 · 2019-01-18T23:30:12+00:00

Life is hard and it will always knock people down. Lucky for you, you are experiencing trials and tribulations in high school. Honestly, this can be a blessing in disguise. I know a lot of people who lived that "fun, exciting, social" life in high school and have their life all messed up in their 30's. This current experience can help you become a successful, wise person, granted you put some work in the positive direction. I remember spending lunchtime/ recess by myself during high school, or alone in my car. It was truly a sad feeling at the time. But looking back, it helped make me the person I am today. You can pull yourself out of this and have a wonderful life!

I don't know exactly what you are going through but you have to get out of your own head. You won't "analyze" your way out of this. Gotta take some action.

Think about what things you have done in your life that make you feel good AFTER doing them...and challenge yourself to do those things. Some things that worked for me was saying hi to everyone. You could force yourself to say hi to strangers you interact with no matter how awkward it may come out...ask people how their day is going and try your hardest to listen intently. Find the good in people somehow someway....Look people in the eye even if it is uncomfortable. Go walk 5 miles. Try to learn a new instrument. Try stretching and/ or yoga...read some good books about what your going through (search amazon). Spend more time outside with your feet in the ground...get sunlight. Listen to positive music even it is hard to relate to it....Breathe deeply. Write down what you are grateful for everyday and sit down and ponder it...Limit electronics and other addictions the best you can... But most of all never give up! Every day is a new beginning. Baby steps. You got this man! You got a good life ahead of you...you just have a gray cloud over your life right now but the darkest of clouds lead to the brightest of days....

MindlessCalendar · 2019-01-18T23:30:23+00:00

I can't lift because of back problems.

Maybe you can still do legs and some exercises for other muscle groups which don't effect your back

I don't know how useful advice is going to be for someone that's suicidal, but these aren't your best years. Far from it. It's tough to be lonely, not have girls, etc. But you have some good years ahead of you if you are actually willing to put in the work. You are only 17 years old and have Red Pill knowledge. You have a huge advantage against a lot of people. But again, you have to be willing to put in the work to improve yourself, your value and your life.

You need something better than just girls. You need to find something that you like doing. Something which makes you excited to wake up for in the morning. You need purpose. And believe me, you won't find that in girls or in party's.

SeaweedGRE · 2019-01-19T00:21:03+00:00

Place your hand over your heart, can you feel it? That is called purpose. You are here for a reason, so don’t you ever give up. Remember the reason why you held so long. There are far, far better things ahead than what we leave behind.

Tough times don’t last, though people do. Everybody wants to be a diamond, the more it is cut, the brighter it sparkles. Remember, Alex, diamonds are created under pressure.

Never let anything in the road be the end of your journey.

Take care.

RedRocket310 · 2019-01-19T00:23:21+00:00

Take some MDMA man, works wonders with social anxiety. Search it up MDMA is molly/Ecstasy. Might be weird but I had bad social anxiety before as well. My mom was a narcissist and instilled this belief that I was never good enough. Went to a rave and took some E and you really start to appreciate your existence and everything feels right. Will definitely give you hope. Search it up at least. Joe Rogan has also spoke on this in his podcasts

BurnoutRS · 2019-01-19T00:31:02+00:00

You need to read more. Your spelling is shit and reading will help you expand your vocabulary. For instance where you put "obliqued" and meant to out obligated.

You are 17, fuck everyone around you. In every sense of the word. I dont speak to, or hear from, a single person I knew at 17. You will only regret the steps you did not take to make your life better. Those steps are the ones taken towards the things that challenge and scare you and away from the things that bring you so much comfort that you do not feel the need to grow.

rektum_expander · 2019-01-19T00:37:59+00:00

Dude, what sports did you join? What clubs? Any extracurricular activities at all? Music? Martial -arts? The more things you try and teams you join the more people you meet and skills you obtain.

squirtlenugget69 · 2019-01-19T01:44:27+00:00

I see a lot of autistic advice in this thread wtf

Loumpa · 2019-01-19T12:12:56+00:00

Meditation and sport are key. If you want your life to change, to these every morning and wake up at the same time every day. That’s what I do and I can’t believe how quickly I saw differences in my mood, energy levels, confidence, etc...

Title	Help needed
Author	Alexander290
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Date	January 18, 2019 10:21 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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