HL solid 7 (soft 1) 33F in relationship with LL40yo beta. Can I do anything to get him to swallow the pill?

Whisper · 2015-07-22T22:50:28+00:00

I'm phd, good money, divorced with a kid from marriage.

You're not a 7. You're damaged goods.

He's 2 classes shy of his ba, service industry, decent money. He's emasculated and it makes me want to fuck around. I love him, but I want a trp man, who knows his value.

You're rationalizing. You're not with him because you love with in particular, you're with him because he's the best you can get. Why? Because you're over 30, have a phd, a history of divorce, and a kid that isn't his.

No one whom you would think of as an alpha male is going to touch you except for a quick pump and dump. You're not worthy. So, being flat broke in the sexual marketplace, you decided to buy a fixer-upper on the cheap. In abstract, it's not a bad plan. But there's a problem.

You can never lead someone to being a leader. You can never control someone into being dominant. It's a contradiction in terms.

Dominate me kindly but firmly.

Shoulda said this ten years ago, before you made all your mistakes. Now, you may as well have asked me what you should do, now that you have jumped out of an airplane with no parachute. The only answer is "spread your arms and legs and hope you hit something soft". Which is what you have going for you. Your man is not awesome. He is not exciting. He is not sexy. But he's what you can realistically have, because if you could do better, you would have.

Do what you can to raise your attractiveness. Work out and starve yourself thin like it's your job (because it is). Act more submissive. Be a better woman, and maybe, just maybe you'll inspire him to be a bit of a better man.

But most of what you need to do is get off your high horse. You have precisely what you deserve.

but I want a trp man, who knows his value.

And I want to be the Sultan of the Milky Way Galaxy, and wear a shiny hat. So what?

What do you have to offer? How can you improve that?

BrunoOh · 2015-07-23T00:23:28+00:00

I'm phd, good money, divorced with a kid from marriage.

That ranges from neutral to downright terrible and to boot, you're post wall. Realize that none of these things are attractive to men. You're as much unfeminine as he is unmasculine. That's why he is the best you can do.

What you can do is: Never deny sex, never nag, don't shittest, be feminine, defer to him (and don't criticize him when he does something you don't like), cook, clean and keep your kids in check. And lose the weight.

Maybe when you become feminine he'll step up too.

About going to the gym...why don't YOU go to the gym and then get him to go with you? Like "hey...we've not really been doing much together, wanna start going to the gym together?". Then tell him how sexy it is when he's all sweaty and jump him.

scallopkid · 2015-07-23T05:27:53+00:00

Come to /r/redpillwomen. Don't post, just read and absorb for a few months.

FrameWalker · 2015-07-23T05:43:33+00:00

She's masterbaiting to this lol

RedCrayonWizard · 2015-07-22T21:56:27+00:00

No one can make him swallow the pill. He has to do it himself.

And we certainly can't without any background of the situation.

rorschach555 · 2015-07-25T14:00:22+00:00

Stop focusing on what you think he should be doing for you and start focusing on what you should be doing for him.

Title	HL solid 7 (soft 1) 33F in relationship with LL40yo beta. Can I do anything to get him to swallow the pill?
Author	onlyMikecanJudgeme
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Date	July 22, 2015 9:24 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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