How can I keep conversations going when I don’t have that much to talk about?

NabroleonBonaparte · 2020-02-07T14:35:52+00:00

You don’t have any favorites books/shows/etc?

Ideally you should be meeting girls that have some interest in what you’re interested in or you can go the alpha route and “teach” the girl things that you have skills in.

Side note: if the convo runs dry, and she also isn’t working to talk, she probably isn’t interested and is only being quiet hoping that you get bored and let her leave.

Loquacious_Dragon · 2020-02-07T14:23:34+00:00

You're not an interesting person and have poor social skills.

There's no short cuts or quick fixes for that.

We can't tell you how to be interesting and following our passions instead of yours is a recipe for failure.

That being said, you could just try chatting absolute shit constantly, it's always worked for me.

Jessor69 · 2020-02-07T14:49:43+00:00

Should be small talk and banter, troll them. Fun, flirty and funny. Always smoke & mirrors.

If you want to see conversations in flow, watch joe rogan & Joey Diaz podcast. Joey is a master story teller and Joe compliments it so well. They start the podcasts with a random topic and flows flom there.

Whitefarmer · 2020-02-07T15:51:18+00:00

People love talking about themselves ask questions and don’t talk

i-am-the-prize · 2020-02-07T14:55:36+00:00

you need to change your mindset. these girsl should be proving themselves to you. being the ones to burden themselves with what to talk about.

yes, actually living a fuller life will give you more experiences to draw on (it's not about being "conventionally interesting") it's about having a fuller life of more varied interests and activities. it's tough when you're in school and so much time can be classes and studying, if she's a student too, then she'll get it.

so spend less time talking and escalate.

C-grij · 2020-02-07T14:32:33+00:00

Number 1 resource? Read the Sidebar.

Atleast you recognize that you should do more interesting things which also helps you meet other interesting people). Sounds like you're in school still so try doing intermural sports or the gym (If you aren't going, start now). Travel too when the opportunity arises. Put yourself in uncomfortable positions.

Go on interesting or active dates/hangout with girls so you don't have to talk the entire time. This is a much better option than a coffee date for instance because they just want to have fun.

To help improve quickly, get into the habit of talking to anyone and everyone too.

RodDiddy · 2020-02-07T22:49:50+00:00

Find out what they like. And let them talk about it. Gives you time to come up with shit. For example. If she works at an office with a lot of women. Say something like i bet theres a lot of drama going on there. When she says oh yeah, lots! You lean in, put your chin on your fist look her in the eye and say, "do tell"! And shes off to the races! Now try to pay attention like you give a shit. And agree with her persepctive. Challenge her sometimes - they like that, but dont be judgemental. Somewhere in that diatribe there'll be an opening to something you give a shit about. Redirect the convo to that and there you go. If you got nothing, at some point shell stop and make a comment about you just listening to her talk, and you just say you enjoy watching her talk. Hopefully, you would have picked up something benign she does with her eyes, or hand gestures, hair flick, etc. Comment on it. Hope this helps. Lmk.

WIA20XX · 2020-02-07T14:54:13+00:00

Text or real life?

NexusReflexX · 2020-02-07T21:23:53+00:00

Be comfortable with silence.

WiterS2 · 2020-02-08T08:40:07+00:00

The basic questions are

How
Why
What
When
Where
Who

Google a woman's photo, look at it and ask some questions about her, using those words. Then get another photo, and make new questions.

Look at each woman on public spaces and make those questions.

But when you are with a real woman, face to face, do not say them as questions, because women get rapidly bored by interviews. Instead imagine one answer, and tell to her "you look like ... the imagined answer". Your made up answer will probably be wrong, but that's good, because she will be provoked to correct your wrong assumptions, so you will trigger her to talk about herself.

It is essential that you actually listen to her answer, pick her words, and make new assumptions using her words. Then you tell the things you thought, using her words.

Using her words has the double effect of making her to feel heard, which is important to women, and also helps you hinting what to talk about.

Remember than talking is only a vehicle to deliver your seduction arsenal.

Title	How can I keep conversations going when I don’t have that much to talk about?
Author	EdwardMobius
Upvotes	9
Comments	19
Date	February 7, 2020 2:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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