How come I don’t attract sluts?

2gunsgetsome · 2020-02-10T23:13:47+00:00

You do attract sluts.

I’ve gone on a lot of tinder dates.

but I’ve still fucked them on the first date usually.

See?

the girls who always fuck me and get interested in me are virgins, or girls with a low count in general.

Do you think you're the only Tinder dude they've "dated"? Why would they fuck you on the first date and not any of the other dudes they've swiped right? Look at actions, not words.

They’re not bad looking either.

Good on ya.

All women will be a slut for someone; are you that guy for these girls? Do they make rules for what they'll do with you, or do YOU take the lead and ALLOW them to be slutty with you?

Reading between the lines here, I think there's three things happening:

You are assuming that since a woman you date doesn't project her sluttiness overtly through dress and public behavior, she must not want to be a slut in private. You might be afraid of leading her towards sluttiness in private because if you do, and she actually is a prude (for you), you'll lose a potential source of sex.
Because of your apprehension (scarcity mentality), you want to hedge your bets and try the sexual stuff you want with a woman who outwardly projects that she might be into it.
You feel inexperienced and want to learn what else you might like by having the "more experienced" women bring their tricks to the bedroom instead of "researching" tricks/moves/kinks yourself and leading your current girls to try them. Leading that discovery instead of being the consumer comes with the risk described in my point 1.

Addressing #1- Again, look at actions:

yet a more sexually conservative “wholesome” girl will be making out with me like her life depends on it.

Who cares how she dresses, what about her behavior (frantic making out, fucks on the first date) is "wholesome"? TRY THE SHIT YOU WANT TO TRY WITH HER! If she's not into it, don't be mad, try it on the next one! Don't forget there's always a next one.

Once you deal with your Madona/Whore confusion, you'll stop looking at outward appearance as an indicator of potential sluttiness and problem #2 will disappear.

To address #3- The lazy way is to go be a breathing dildo for some much older women, then bring your new knowledge of what you learned back to your home court (when you're prepared to lead). Nothing wrong with that. It seems like you've figured out that women don't get good at sex by not having sex, now adjust your calibration to look for women who actually have had lots of sex, not just dress the part.

Or, read Sex God Method, David Schade's Manual, Joy of Sex, Kama Sutra, whatever the fuck. Watch some porn for fuck sake. Chances are you won't like everything you see, but you'll find some new detail that makes your taint tingle. Then go try that with a girl who already wants to fuck you. Be prepared to lead.

This is in your control. You decide what you want sexually, she decides if she's the one to do that with you.

laalbeedu · 2020-02-10T19:38:14+00:00

Your SMV probably is not as high as you think it is. The slutty girls have had better so don’t want to waste time on you. More specifics regarding common trends you see on your dates with Tinder matches could help give you some more actionable advice.

wowkwo · 2020-02-11T00:50:46+00:00

They fucked you on the first date, they are sluts.

It sounds like the hot sluts that you are struggling with. RAISE SMV

Domebeers · 2020-02-10T23:49:24+00:00

is this even real?

Read what you wrote: I have sex with girls I meet on tinder on the first date, why can't I fuck sluts?

Bro...

Hermit41 · 2020-02-10T20:16:05+00:00

Bro fuck slutty girls everyone’s had them anyhow is it even a loss. Trust it’s hot but underneath it’s all a facade of makeup and etc

secureMPC · 2020-02-10T23:15:14+00:00

You need to be way more direct, extroverted and sexual with slutty girls. Be over the top and neg them (negs are something that actually works incredible well on very hot girls). You need to be like a guy the shy virgin girls wouldn't like.

PUA_Fan · 2020-02-10T19:37:08+00:00

Because you have nothing of value to offer even to random whores

How does that feel?

Have some sober self criticism

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-02-11T01:29:36+00:00

You’re not masculine enough.

thrwy75479 · 2020-02-11T03:04:49+00:00

You have successfully fucked girls, so you are attractive, and probably have good SMV.

You lack edge. Check out this article on fuck buddy retention by Good Looking Loser, which goes into issues related to being, and appearing too nice.

Usually they try to get a relationship out of me, but I’ve still fucked them on the first date usually.

Be more of an asshole, and carry yourself as such.

Yashugan00 · 2020-02-11T09:25:43+00:00

This is basic TRP: ref "The Ladder" principal

summarised:

Girls look at you and immediately categorize you in one of two categories:

stud (for sneaky fucking only, also known as a fuckboy)
provider ( long term prospects)

The first she used for fucking and keeps out of the way so her reputation remains untarnished. She may then try to "tame" him into the second category.

The activity of taming the man thusly over time IS the greatest joy and purpose of womanhood. it's what they gossip, brag and live for. they feel alive and successful. This is the story of EVERY romance novel, including Fifty Shades of Grey. Even the old myths of antiquity and the legends speak of this, It's a universal truth, and I don't begrudge them their "sport"

The second category, she sets rules fo, boundaries are set, she's negotiating her worth harshly. She's settling and she will sell herself dearly. It's a transactional relationship. Whereas the former is based on letting her emotions rule her ( which feels wild and glorious), this type of relationship is intellectual/analytical (feels bad, like a prostitute) and she will eventually resent you and take it out on you with more demands and more rules. She will also be very sensitive to the criticism of others and judge you by the verdict of the hive mind.

if you're in her stud roster, you can do no wrong, she'll do anything for you and forgive you nearly anything. if you're in her beta like, nothing is too small to criticise and nagging you about. Its also nearly impossible to recover this slide. hence why so many are trapped in a hellish marriage.

Rememberthecodex · 2020-02-11T09:27:04+00:00

I have the exact opposite problem, all the girl i fuck are sluts.
Maybe because they are all sluts.

Who knows.

Haytch1234 · 2020-02-14T07:33:47+00:00

You have clearly stated you fuck girls and yet you are still asking why you dont attract sluts.

Perhaps you need to change your mind set and more sluts will appear.

Title	How come I don’t attract sluts?
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Date	February 10, 2020 7:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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