How do I push through this cringy learning curve

celmeme · 2019-08-02T17:17:11+00:00

I used to swim in high school. I wanted to be faster, so I asked my coach, "Coach, what excercises can I do to get better?"

Dude told me to swim more.

There are no short cuts. Work on applying and getting better, work on your mindset and just enjoy the ride. Don't get down when you mess up, and don't give up and in time everything will seem easy. (Except for the new problems you will have. Life never ends, the learning curve only get more steep.)

jjj2576 · 2019-08-02T17:30:57+00:00

The Red Pill takes a long time to swallow. Remember: Inches are sinches. Yards are hard. You are seeing some good shit— awareness is good. You see the cringe shit you say— so you just gotta stop that. Easy peezy.

This is a Sports Psych thing— people who succeed imagine themselves succeeding before a challenge/event/test. Sometimes we over-think shit, and hold ourselves back. I see this a shit ton in folks I Blues and Swing dance with, when they are trying to master a new move. Sometimes when the instructor says, “Quit thinking about it, and just do it,” shit just clicks for the learner. Imagine yourself giving less fucks, then just do that.

Also— where are you at on the Sidebar?

unnaturalcontrol · 2019-08-02T18:36:25+00:00

ALL OF THESE responses are great.

My advice, Lift, read the sidebar, STFU.

Lift: Lifting is awesome. Once you start, it's hard to stop. If you're out, you'll wish you weren't. You'll feel better about yourself and that will help with confidence.

Sidebar: You'll get nowhere if you don't read the sidebar. It is the CORNERSTONE of the redpill. Treat the sidebar like a Bible. Read it, learn it, study it.

STFU: "If you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all." Same principal. If you have nothing smart/witty/redpilled to say, STFU and say nothing.

It takes a while to fully ingrain TRP into a BP mind. I've heard it takes a year for you to get the fundamentals down and I would have to agree. There are no shortcuts. Just do the work.

SelfUnmadeMan · 2019-08-02T18:22:02+00:00

Fail faster. Fail harder than you ever have before. Go out and make it your goal to get rejected by every attractive woman you can find. Do it 5, 10, 20 times a day. Make it into a game, and try to craft the game so that you will actually have fun while doing it. One idea: bring a competitive friend and keep score.

Pretty soon you'll find that women are, for the most part, very polite and tolerant of clumsy male advances. Also, after so many planned fails in a row, the outcome just won't matter as much to you anymore. The more you succeed at failing this way, the fewer fucks you will ultimately give. Once you give so few fucks that you can genuinely amuse yourself by playing this game, that's when your chances of success will really begin to increase.

EDIT: If you still can't get over your approach anxiety, try "Nervous Guy Game." Google it. This approach gives you a bulletproof outline for starting an interaction, and practically guarantees that she will put you down very gently.

banquos_horse · 2019-08-02T21:24:51+00:00

Keep going, you don't really notice yourself progressing.

One day you'll be doing something as usual and remember "this used to scare the shit out of me" or "I used to be terrible at this", those are the only signs of success you're going to get in my experience.

LucKygg · 2019-08-03T01:51:03+00:00

The next time you’re out and hitting on a woman after you approach her, take a second and look around. Life’s going on for every single person around you and no one gives a shit that you’re about to get laid or rejected. Then go back to the girl and continue your flirting after you realize that the only person who cares is yourself.

It takes time and no one is completely immune to rejection, you just realize that it doesn’t really matter whether or not someone is into you.

NegativeMeeting8 · 2019-08-03T11:20:50+00:00

It is the same way you learn a new language. You just accept that if you learn, eventually you will be fluent. You do it for a few years. You don't see a progress as you do it. You are as useless as you were 1 week ago even after intense studying. But one day in a future you notice that you can think in another language. And it is as thought you always could do it. You forget how long it took and how hard it was.

In other words you have to believe in process of learning. There is no magic pill.

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2019-08-02T20:11:20+00:00

Slap yourself on the face

It truly works

Title	How do I push through this cringy learning curve
Author	Rome_was_built
Upvotes	12
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Date	August 2, 2019 5:05 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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