How do you recover from mommy issues?

empatheticapathetic · 2017-09-28T18:04:50+00:00

I have the same issue. Turning any girl into a oneitis due to emotionally absent mother. Its a shame no one here thinks much of our breakthroughs and is able to suggest anything in line with it.

There is no specific solution really. Being aware and practice. Abundance mentality, owning your shit and leading your life.

coloredzebra · 2017-09-28T16:33:54+00:00

Time, self-reflection, self-development.

Stop playing the victim, it's easy to play the victim, instead of owning up to your shit. That "whoa is me, who is going to save me?" attitude is the greatest scheme taught to us as a society. Because in cold hard reality, no one will truly help you, but Yourself.
Self-Reflection Acknowledge your flaws and accept them, acknowledge your strengths, and work on them, little by little.

Take the time to truly acknowledge what concepts, values and ideals you want to surround yourself with. This is critical as this represents one's Frame.

ex. (If you place women above yourself, and over your self-gratification/self-improvement, they will see through your bullshit)

ex. (If you place watching TV, over getting your chores done, etc, skipping the gym, because you don't feel like going..list goes on on and on)

TL:DR; Change the blinders from chasing poon, to focusing on self-improvement/Development. Meaning, develop yourself, your skill set, your hobbies, and your interest.

Women are simply an added benefit to an already fulfilling and abundant lifestyle.

You're catching oneitis because you have nothing else exciting going in your life.

*added a word

LordThunderbolt · 2017-09-28T22:56:35+00:00

I like how everyone in the comments is in heavy denial when it comes to the existence of emotional issues/scars in men. Don't you guys rip feminists for doing the exact same thing? Not everybody's childhood was happy sunshine and good nurturing. Shit like that does affect you emotionally and psychologically long term. You can't just magically "man up" or make it disappear. Sooner or later it'll resurface one way or another.

AlphaGrad · 2017-09-28T16:52:16+00:00

Got over it by plating an older woman (32) and role-playing. Worked for me.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-09-29T01:57:17+00:00

For me, the emotions and oneitis seem to lessen with age and dating/sexual experience. Im not sure how much trp had to do with it explicitly, but it def helped reinforce that I shouldnt just let myself fall for every girl that I get intimate with. As Ive aged my priorities have shifted and now Im rather picky about who I date. Not who I fuck though. So hang in there, get to know your emotions and how to control them in certain situations, and keep exploring dating and relationships. The more experience you have the more in control you can be. And let time pass and make you wise and mature. Youll start to feel more like yourself into full adulthood.

McVaghunter · 2017-09-28T16:00:27+00:00

Stop justifying your stupid oneitis' using unrelated excuses instead of facing the fact that you have low SMV and a lack of options.

I know this because I was physically tortured by my mother for years. That made me realize the true nature of women instead of blaming my failures on them.

hva_vet · 2017-09-28T16:42:38+00:00

You are over thinking this. Oneitis is an age old affliction that can affect the mind of anyone. My dad is 67 and still blames his shitty behavior on his parents. Take responsibility for yourself now.

BigMattyMcDaddy · 2017-09-28T16:55:22+00:00

You have oneitis because you're a man. It's nothing unique to mommy issues. With that being said you should still look at your upbringing and see how you can change yourself from it, but even swallowing the red pill you'll still probably have to fight cases of oneitis. Women biologically attract us and some women way more heavily than others.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-09-29T00:26:03+00:00

Morning akwardness is far better than night in loneliness. So what if you dont really like the girl. Better hearing someone blab some pointless shit than getting drunk alone.

And those with oneitis. Well... With trp i cured it. I dont have abundance mentality yet but with trp it got easy to deflect women gettin oneitis.

bluemoviebaz · 2017-09-28T15:56:58+00:00

Yeah stop blaming everybody else for your situation and take some responsibility for yourself!!

Title	How do you recover from mommy issues?
Author	ideal_lemon
Upvotes	24
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Date	September 28, 2017 3:53 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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