How does one even start?

Domebeers · 2019-10-18T15:40:19+00:00

Women should be the least of your concerns my man.

Go to the gym because it will get you healthy. Healthy body and mind. Put down the pickup books and read books on something that interests you. Even if it's pulp. Eventually I'd recommend reading 'meditations' by the emperor. Stop gambling. Start paying down the debt. If you are the type to get sad, get off social media.

You can't build a house on a bad foundation. 25 is young.

Youre insecure because you think you are failing. Reset. There is always someone better, yes, but there is always someone worse. You aren't failing, you are on a rough patch of your journey. But you need to keep on your journey, not stop.

jjj2576 · 2019-10-18T12:43:12+00:00

You are insecure and give too many fucks. This is often a result of being outcome dependent.

You start with Lifting and the Sidebar. Passing Shit Tests that everyone in life throws at you, and better understanding emotional manipulation will help you become less insecure, but all of this starts with reading the Sidebar Books, not just the articles.

I use the code of the Knights Radiant (from The Stormlight Archives) as mantra for growing into a more outcome independent man— super nerdy, but so am I.

What BOOKS have you actually read from the Sidebar? I’ll hook you up with some recommendations.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-10-18T20:46:21+00:00

You're too much of an incel right now to try and start plating hot women.

Fix the basics. Before you even think about approaching any girl figure out a way to get off antidepressants. Fix your debt. Fix yourself enough that you don't need therapy anymore. These 3 things should be your absolute priority.

If you can read a paragraph without getting distracted and going to go jack off then I high recommend you read, "The Mindful Attraction Plan". Good news, the 2nd half of the book is for people in relationships so you only need to read half a book to save your life.

rockyp32 · 2019-10-18T20:47:32+00:00

Here are the list of thing I’ve done that inproved my life dramatically.

No Fap

No fap is the best thing I’ve ever done myself I used to have ridiculous anxiety and now I’m almost always pretty calm atleast in comparison to before. You get so much more energy you become more masculine you become happier the parts of life that you despise well you a fapper start to become more enjoyable like small talk and doing shit that’s not super stimulating in comparison to porn. It legit benefits you in every way possible it just makes you a stronger version of yourself. ALONE it is great but still if you don’t pick up other good habits you’ll still be unhappy.

Lifting weights

I haven’t made crazy gains but I’ve been lifting and making strength gains every few weeks lifting just makes you happy physically and mentally because your accomplishing a goal your building discipline and you see the rewards of your effort so it really just build yourself up honestly I’m not sure why it just feels great after doing it for a while.

HEAVILY RECCOMEND KINOBODY his programs are simple and great for beginners it’s only 3 days a week so you don’t get burned out. You see progress in strength legit every week in some way which heavily helps reinforce you to keep the habit up.

Take vitamin D

I’m not 100% sure how much it’s helped me but after taking 5,000 iu a day my mental state is way more stable no more mood swings.

Vitamin D is required to make testosterone and most of us do not have nearly sufficient levels. So by taking vitamin D you optimize your test and you feel way better overall.

i-am-the-prize · 2019-10-18T14:03:55+00:00

0- stop gambling 1- sidebar books 2- MAP will be key

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00DINECUU/

His MMSLP2011 book is part of the sidebar. But you sound so lost I think you need some tactical guide- not just a lot of really deep and good ideas. DO read the rest of the side bar but the MAP will help you identify specific areas of your life that are deficient help you rank them and task you with improving them each.

How does one even start?

You put your head down and put one foot in front of the other and keep fucking going. Action not words and thoughts alone.

fartt123 · 2019-10-18T17:51:12+00:00

it feels like work because you haven't seen results in the gym. once you see separation in your chest muscles and see the perfect shoulders. I assure you it will not be work. Start reading some books on bodybuilding and get the cutting down.

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-10-18T18:45:35+00:00

Start doing the things the guy you want to be would do.

thereisstillhope4 · 2019-10-18T19:01:38+00:00

Start small and solve small and important problems first.

Take care of the gambling first. In order to feel like a winner you need to win. So start winning towards the life you want. You need to build it on a foundation of action and character for yourself, starting from your self-image. No amount of band-aids will help. It will take years. Start with the gambling.

NPcChad · 2019-10-19T03:57:12+00:00

Start small, things you think you can fix faster, like your sleep, diet and daily plans and get rid ogmf bad habits. Eventually you will figure it out, it takes time. After, you can start with the basics, health is your first goal, think what things may improve it then slowly move to other things. I am starting as well and laziness makes it hard gl to us.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2019-10-18T13:39:57+00:00

IMO, medication for depression just makes you a zombie who doesn't care.. Perhaps start lifting, start formulating your own core values (what do you think is important in life, how will you add value to other people's lives) and then see your own value. Stop your medication when you feel ready to actually work on yourself, cause I think that the medication I have seen being used impedes self-progress and self development.. Once you start seeing progress in the gym, you feel you live and breathe your core values and feel worthy, I am sure your depression will be dust in the wind. Depression mostly is self-depreciation, which is exactly the opposite of everything TRP preaches.

Gavin-Sangria · 2019-10-18T23:25:03+00:00

Bro you are fucked

Title	How does one even start?
Author	thereisstillhope4
Upvotes	11
Comments	40
Date	October 18, 2019 12:36 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/djmvzm/how_does_one_even_start/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/how-does-one-even-start.291533 https://theredarchive.com/post/291533

Comments