How much does martial arts actually factor into self-confidence/frame?

daddydraper · 2018-10-09T18:51:25+00:00

Being able to kill a man with your bare hands will do wonders for your confidence (I'm not advocating going around ready to choke people to death on the streets, but you get the gist).

That said, martial arts alone won't fix you. If you're really, truly a pussy at heart, you're going to have to do some journeying. You're going to have to figure out who exactly you are, what you fear, and what you must conquer. And then go do it. Change yourself and transform into someone who can face down all obstacles and become your own God.

CainPrice · 2018-10-09T19:07:17+00:00

It's not really about the ability to hurt people giving you confidence.

It's more about actually being good at something physical. Lifting weights all day long, but never playing a sport or doing a martial art or taking up a physical craft or hobby is weird. Being physically fit but not actually good at anything physical makes a guy look and feel like a narcissistic gym rat doing vanity exercises for the ladies.

I started taking jiu-jitsu myself, and while there are definitely some self defense aspects and ways you can learn to hurt people, it's primarily a sport. If you really want to kill someone or defend yourself, you use a gun, not a choke. Martial arts are a sport.

Getting along with the guys you train with, working together with them to improve yourselves - that's the benefit of a martial art. Not so different from a sports team, really.

Don't stop lifting in favor of boxing. Lifting should be the foundation that keeps you in excellent shape for everything else in your life.

si1ma31 · 2018-10-10T01:03:16+00:00

If you're a busy guy, skip it for something more directly helpful like career development. Lifting/running is essential with health benefits and definitely shouldn't be replaced with MA. I find that + MA to be too much time so dropped the non-essential.

If self defense is a concern, take some pistol classes and get a concealed carry permit. Much less time consuming and the confidence doesn't ditch you if a bigger dude wants to start something. I was in MA for 6 years through school, often the top sparrer in the class, waste of time in this day and age tbh unless as a hobby you're interested in for its own sake.

Zoddo · 2018-10-10T04:17:36+00:00

This is going to make me sound like a psychopath, but I can't think of another way to put it. Nothing puts you at ease quite like walking into a room full of people you know you could destroy in minutes. It frees you to interact without fear, and not only do physical threats become borderline comical, but you lose the urge to prove yourself so you're more willing to deescalate a situation.

adam_varg · 2018-10-09T19:41:00+00:00

A lot. Way more than lifting frame wise. For me it did more even than roids and crazy stuff like free solo alpine climbing.

It is not about knowing you can win fight with some rando or during competition. I mean a bit yes but its not main perk.

That ass whoping you will enjoy on regular basis will have severe influence on your unconsciousness. Tapping out, getting knocked out.. brain doesn't know it's controlled settings, it feels you just lost fight for your life with other man. Thats gonna happen dozen time during one mma training session, imagine amount of adaptation brain will do to cope. So it will change you for good.

And after some time you will get this ability to look into other dudes eyes and just know who will be on top if it comes to altercation.

One advice. If you don't choose mma and opt for only one martial art, better make it bjj. I know i know you need to have confidence in punching ability and get some hard punches in face so you know you can handle yourself. After six months of bjj you want feel like this. And to get fairly proficient in boxing, i mean better than 99% males.. it takes three months of two private classes per week (assuming you are athletic). Bjj takes six months for mere basics (enough to kill any normie) and real game start at two years mark usually.. so best practice except mma is bjj and when you settle in training add some boxing classes

SirKolbath · 2018-10-09T18:56:14+00:00

Do not stop lifting in favor of martial arts. Do both. I’ve been teaching self defense for over twenty years and it is a great confidence booster, but lifting is its own reward.

chadchaderson1 · 2018-10-09T21:01:47+00:00

Muay thai and wrestling did way more for me than lifting .

Doesnt mean you should give up lifting. Try lifting with your sport in mind.

Lifting wit no purpose will make you stiff and unathletic

Whisper · 2018-10-09T20:13:22+00:00

If you have to stop lifting to learn martial arts, you are either lifting wrong (cut out the stupid isolation work, do big compound lifts then go the fuck home), or trying to start both at once (start one, then the other).

Black_m0ngoose · 2018-10-10T02:04:33+00:00

Sexual strategy is a two sided coin.

Men could game the women covertly, like the Cuttlefish.

Or you could game women overtly, by eliminating the competition.

Since the foundation of male-to-male communication has been dictated by physical prowess, you'll never feel confident in your position in any interaction if you're not sure of your own physical limits.

That means you need to do some training as a fighter in your life, to know what your limitations are.

Once you know where the line is, you can adjust your perception and act accordingly.

AWorseManThanYou · 2018-10-10T03:44:04+00:00

Your second edit sums it up. Enjoy buddy. This will take you to the next wave. Make sure to spar spar spar.

GucciGangBucks · 2018-10-10T03:51:23+00:00

Helps a lot. Knowing you can beat up 95% of the population makes you feel limitless. If your actions ever back fire you can win the fight. You can take more risk. You can be more confident.

jay_jay_man · 2018-10-09T23:59:11+00:00

Martial Arts will help with confidence but this

There’s a deep rooted pussification in me

is something you have to look into and understand. When did you first notice it? Who put this in you? What triggers it precisely? Only when you conquer this weakness inside of you, you'll be confident to the core.

lordkingalpha · 2018-10-10T01:54:17+00:00

It does a lot. I have alot more confidence knowing I can whoop a dudes ass if they try me. Women also like knowing you can protect them as well. I know some mma but I mainly box.

chazthundergut · 2018-10-10T03:01:44+00:00

Yes martial arts training will increase your confidence.
Its time to leave basic training and go get some scalps. The only way you're gonna get swagger is by hooking up with women. If I had your stats my fucking dick would be pruning.

Grab your nuts and go for it dude.

screechhater · 2018-10-10T03:29:50+00:00

BJJ and lift. The de- pussyfucation should pretty well overnight

Don’t tell us you can’t do both

Ricklogical · 2018-10-09T21:42:28+00:00

It will really help. Do it. Report back. Thanks.

Browndiaper1020 · 2018-10-10T01:40:14+00:00

Don't let all the pussies that do martial arts drag you down. Just look at the pussified bjj community here on reddit.

Title	How much does martial arts actually factor into self-confidence/frame?
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