How to drop plates?

tepper2 · 2015-07-06T14:34:35+00:00

I have simply stopped answering any texts or calls, but that always felt like the coward approach.

You owe her nothing.

0fuqs4u · 2015-07-06T15:21:40+00:00

"I don't feel an emotional connection."

You're not saying that she's not attractive, you're letting her know that she's not going to get what she really wants from a relationship. If a woman said to you, "I don't feel a physical connection", you would be glad to know because that's your priority, even if she's in love with you.

Just be warned, you'll probably still have to have a conversation and there might be tears.

cray-cray-cray · 2015-07-06T22:12:44+00:00

How do you drop your plates? Are there any strategies that you use? Do you sugarcoat it?

I'm gonna sound like a GIANT asshole here.

I usually just "fade." I mean... less and less contact, less and less texts, etc. When they get super needy, you just have to go with "we weren't working out."

This is ultimate built in dread game for new girls. They ask "why won't you talk to her?" and "what did she do?" and other shit. They know your exes are obsessed with you. They know you fucked these girls for a few years, and those former girls want you back, by any means. And your new girls really can't stop the former girls from contacting you, so they stay on their game.

Contrast that with "we broke up because we weren't right for each other." It's hyper-preselection, and the new girls aren't stupid. They know your exes want you back, and the exes are a super-easy source of pussy that they need to defend against if they want to keep you.

I'm not Chad Thundercock, either. Obviously, you need a little game for this to be your reality... but seriously... not that much.

boscoist · 2015-07-06T16:32:43+00:00

"Run silent, run deep"

The_BeardedGentleman · 2015-07-06T21:05:27+00:00

You just die down on communication and what not until they realize you two are growing apart. And it can even mean simply over the course of a week.

If you're hitting up a bitch every few days, then all the sudden go full Danny Phantom on her ass for a week, she kind of gets the memo.

Eventually she'll bring it up and you can just respond to that and be like "yeahh I'm just not feeling it. Was fun though. Peace." and part ways. Or just fully ignore her til the end of time and stop giving a fuck. Either option works.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-07-06T21:23:00+00:00

Try "I can't keep seeing you. It's not fair to me, it's not fair to you, and it's not fair to the person who could really love you the way you want to be loved."

That worked pretty well in college.

If you want out, fast, pick your nose in front of her. If it doesn't work the first time, go in up to your wrist the second time. ;)

TheBigO420 · 2015-07-07T14:52:09+00:00

Two options here bro.

Just fade on her or just tell her you're not feeling it anymore and you don't want to continue the "relationship" (FWB).

Personal preference really.

And I like the comment that you don't owe her anything, that's the truth. As long as you were upfront about the arrangement then you have no reason to justify yourself if you don't want to.

alreadyredschool · 2015-07-06T14:02:46+00:00

Tell them.

Title	How to drop plates?
Author	datdude2014
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	July 6, 2015 1:59 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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