How to fix too much teasing/nagging?

PoetAlcoholic · 2019-11-07T22:29:06+00:00

Banter is useless if the other party doesn't join in. Now obviously you have to put forward something for women to put anything back, but if women are just hurt by your jokes and seem to want to leave, switch up your approach. Don't be a one trick pony, next time you see a girl try a new style of comedy. I like to try all sorts of new things in conversation. It's a way of pushing myself out of my comfort zone and to improve myself.

FereallyRed · 2019-11-07T22:14:43+00:00

Negging is a 20 year old technique.

It's a version of push/pull dynamics and designed to elicit qualification and compliance.

But it's a fine line, because insulting a girl can engender noncompliance and ejection.

Teasing is subtle, so trying it on a girl ou know nothing about is a crapshoot.

Too far? Did I hit a nerve? Did daddy touch her and when I tell her to call me daddy does she PTSD and bail?

There's no formula for negging because it can engender both highly positive and highly negative responses.

But in general, save the asshole until there's a modicum of comfort built.

[deleted] · 2019-11-08T18:33:32+00:00

I am you.

I constantly tease and make sarcastic jokes and insult girls. it's my personality.

but unfortunately it's a problem if you don't have the cheeky light hearted demeanor to back it up cos without that, it just sounds insulting.

trust bro this happens to me all the time where I say my usual funny insults and teases and shit but cos I'm not on that fun charming vibe it just sounds like I'm being a dick.

here's the thing. this "insult comic" style of game is actually like crack to women if you can pull it off. but much like insult comedy it takes finesse to pull off. so i wouldn't say to you it's wrong to do it. but you be on the right vibe to make it work.

so. I have a very simple solution for you. this is what i do.

I just tone that shit down when I'm feeling kinda average or crappy cos I know I won't pull it off. if you're feeling good... do it, its hilarious and fun as fuck. I literally did it during an interview where the interviewer was a girl cos I was just feelin myself and she ate it up.

you gotta know when you're in the right mood to make it work. if you think it might come off as rude or abrasive then don't do it. but if you're feeling like a fly ass pimp then say it cos it'll kill.

frognads · 2019-11-07T22:21:00+00:00

You should be able to gauge what is too far. Remember you're not in a roast battle. Light teasing is always fine

kclanton80 · 2019-11-08T00:57:42+00:00

Sounds like you need to learn the difference between teasing and insults. Maybe just abandon the tactic all together, it can come off as forced, and it's hard to know the limit. Just be more natural

maddisser101 · 2019-11-08T02:50:05+00:00

You have to change the motor to change how fast you go - the brain is your motor and your speech/social dynamic is how fast you go.

You just gotta be more present within yourself and your thoughts. For example, I am insanely negative all the time - it is ingrained in my soul from my family and overall upbringing. Whenever I watch TV or am in a social setting I seem to just have a shitty outlook on everything going on around me and would usually externalize this outlook into the people around me. This makes me look terrible and insecure.

I found that making it habitual to check myself when I think of something negative - by being TRULY present in my thoughts and not just spurting them out - I can stop these negative externalities from being pushed out into the world. It takes practice, time, and patience but your inner dynamics can chance.

TheCiph3r · 2019-11-09T04:51:54+00:00

I’m like you as well. I grew up in an environment where we roast each other so itms natural for me to tease everyone I interact with to the point where it offends them sometimes. In terms of seduction you should always be at the grey area. Too much teasing, girl will think you’re a dick. No teasing could make you look like a friend. Always be at the boundary.

Two thing could help: 1. Tone down your teasing but increase the level of it little by little, if you think she was offended go one stage lower and stick to that. 2. Push and pull, always follow negging with a legit genuine complement.

It’s all about practice. Good for you for being aware. I think starting from being a dick is easier than starting from a nice guy. all you gotta do is tone down and practice

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-11-07T23:36:21+00:00

First step is awareness. Check. Second step is awareness before talking- this is what you need to work on. You can still tease/neg a bit if you want, just do it at the right time and not all the time.

Title	How to fix too much teasing/nagging?
Author	thegoldengoat19
Upvotes	16
Comments	14
Date	November 7, 2019 10:04 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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