How to hold frame as a sensitive guy?

1NV0K3R · 2017-09-28T12:41:53+00:00

Read the side bar.

WISE_TURD · 2017-09-28T12:43:15+00:00

Practice stoicism and meditate. Trp has good articles on stoicism.

spoetnick · 2017-09-28T16:07:08+00:00

It is probably because you never learned how to take a hit. Maybe raised overly protective or always been the small fry of the group. Probably low self-esteem and low confidence.

Anyway, you need to get used to the stuff you aren't used to. Afraid of getting hit, take up a martial art. Afraid of people disagreeing with you? Debate with people (face to face mind you. Internet arguing doesn't help with this). Afraid of talking with women, go talk to them all the time.

Getting yourself out there and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is your fix for all this. It's scary, you'll feel like shit, you feel like you are not progressing and in a few years all this stuff comes naturally.

There is no quick fix, there are no shortcuts. Keep grinding away at the stuff you hate and it'll become better.

PS: all of this is sidebar material.

aurelius_shrugs · 2017-09-28T17:30:11+00:00

Typically nice guys swing from feelings of victimization to extreme rage. Fix your faulty mental models miss sensitive.

Read "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty". Read the sidebar. Lift heavy things. Join a boxing gym.

htbf · 2017-09-28T15:46:06+00:00

You are not lifting, are you ?

You need to seriously toughen up. Throw yourself so far outside your comfort zones that you lose sight of who you are. I haven't cried in years and yet I've been through so much worse than what used to make me tear up. And I'm VERY sensitive.

Variatiion · 2017-09-28T16:24:02+00:00

start lifting, start meditating, stop being a little bitch.

coloredzebra · 2017-09-28T17:11:02+00:00

Time to do some introspection, figure out what triggers you, why it triggers you, and why you react the way you do. Is it out of Frustration? Fear? Confusion? How do these emotions/situations make you feel?

Once you witness these events from a third person perspective, you tend to realize the amount of overreaction, and time wasted on these moments. You come to realize that it's just not worth your time nor your energy after a while.

There's legitimately no reason to overreact to a situation, simply do what needs to be done.

In regards to confidence, one thing which has helped me, as was passed down from a few mentors, books, etc.

"Do the action, and you shall have the power", not the other way around. You gain confidence by doing, not by thinking about it.

Overtime, your nerves, thinking, and overall perspective will change, slowly but surely.

Anyone who's ever been good at something, simply started somewhere and strived to perfect/improve.

a0001_i1100 · 2017-09-29T01:58:54+00:00

You haven't gone through enough. You're soft. Once you've taken enough shit, your soul will become calloused. Keep crying when your up against that wall until you do not anymore, then you will have your "frame".

oldslut · 2017-09-28T15:53:53+00:00

help me with some tips to stop being seen as an overly sensitive guy.

stop being a pussy and people won't view you as one anymore

Title	How to hold frame as a sensitive guy?
Author	gentlebrowngiant
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	September 28, 2017 12:36 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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