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Objectively, probably not much. Subjectively, it goes against quite a few guidelines that trp offers, Im quite doubtful you will get through to your demographic, if you do manage to sway some people I don't think it will have a noticable impact. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad that you have your project and in whatever endeavour you undertake you should give it your all mate. But in a sub where the focus is to see the world as it is, and to be a rational male - I don't think this project is very su…
/r/askTRP30/03/18 07:45 PM
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Yes! Save all the ho's and bro's. Especially if they don't want to be saved. 10/10 idea mate...
/r/askTRP30/03/18 01:51 PM
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Maybe you should look for more validation.
/r/askTRP29/11/17 12:05 PM
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If you read back your own story, isn't it very, very obvious want you need to do?
/r/askTRP30/10/17 07:01 AM
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I believe the Sex God Method is mandatory side bar material. If you haven't read that, you should. Pretty much a step by step for what you're looking for. Can't recommend it enough from my own experience. Good luck and have fun.
/r/askTRP18/10/17 10:06 AM
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It is probably because you never learned how to take a hit. Maybe raised overly protective or always been the small fry of the group. Probably low self-esteem and low confidence. Anyway, you need to get used to the stuff you aren't used to. Afraid of getting hit, take up a martial art. Afraid of people disagreeing with you? Debate with people (face to face mind you. Internet arguing doesn't help with this). Afraid of talking with women, go talk to them all the time. Getting yourself out there an…
/r/askTRP28/09/17 04:07 PM
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Depends on the goal. For overal trp purposes you should lift, that's why every other article, post and comment advices to lift. Also from personal experience id say judo isn't a tingle generator but other could have other results.
/r/askTRP27/09/17 06:14 PM
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I don't think there is a trp endorsed reproduction strategy. It's a sexual strategy. Reproduction is not a part of it. It's a strategy that explains how to be more attractive by having certain views and improving yourself which in turn results in increasing your chances at getting laid. Having these views and qualities also makes you a better husband and can help to improve your marriage according to mrp.
/r/askTRP19/09/17 07:01 PM
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I believe it's pretty much because trp is against marriage. As a sexual strategy getting married isn't a good move (dead bedroom) and because awalt (branch swinging, divorce rape) the rational part of trp doesn't endorse it either. So from a main rp perspective being married isn't red pill and most posts where a married guy asks a question the response is "lawyer up and get divorced". Over at MRP they consider being red pill and married as playing the game on hard mode. You can't make a slut a h…
/r/askTRP19/09/17 04:56 PM
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No man. It's impossible. Every trp rule has the "unless you work in it" exception in it. Working in it means you can earn a lot, have a good career and job certainty. Your job isn't holding you back, your state of mind is. Good luck
/r/askTRP06/09/17 10:40 AM
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I find it funny how there are so many people asking how to convert their friends to trp since they know it will totally save their lives, yet they don't have the basic understanding and rp truth that you can't save anyone that doesn't want to be saved. I mean, if you yourself only have a basic idea what a certain philosophy is about how in the world do you think it suitable for other people?
/r/askTRP06/09/17 10:23 AM
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Have you even tried searching the sub for questions like this? This gets answered in a nearly daily basis. Looks help. If you don't have them just make sure to compensate with charisma, self confidence, good body and social proof. Stop thinking about shit you don't have and start improving the shit that works in your favor.
/r/askTRP20/08/17 04:53 PM
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Did you find trp before all this but just ignored it or did you happen to stumble upon it after this shitty situation happened? Why would you make someone that you've only been dating for one and a half year your fiance? It's just really dumb, even without a trp perspective. If you've read some trp material before this happened, didnt you recognize yourself as a beta bucks or a provider? If so, the realization that you were cheated on shouldn't have been too much of a surprise. Good luck getting…
/r/askTRP20/08/17 04:42 PM
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Nothing. You can't control other people. You just control you. If you dish out decent advise often enough people will listen to you. If you are a leader, people will listen to you. If you are a little twat that gets offended because not everyone will listen to him, noone will listen to you. Convincing people that listening to you is in their best interest is hard work. Especially since what you deem good advice isn't necessary good advice from their perspective.
/r/askTRP06/08/17 04:27 PM
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Thanks for following up! I appreciate it. Will read up and do some further research. Quite curious now why there haven't been extensive studies on this. Folk wisdom, bro science. I don't really care about the semantics. If it's unfounded and brought as a fact I try to take it with a grain of salt. Even if something goes way back doesn't mean it's true, also it doesn't mean it isn't true because of it. Anyway, thanks again.
/r/askTRP01/08/17 05:46 PM
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Do you happen to have any credible sources on this? It's hard to filter out the bro science and personal experiences from actual facts. Thanks!
/r/askTRP01/08/17 04:00 PM
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Grow and occasionally sell weed.
/r/askTRP01/08/17 03:48 PM
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Judging by all other Indian guys on trp, you don't stand a chance. Because no matter how much you don't study trp, even though you don't apply any of the rules, and in spite of the lack of comprehending Western females you are just unable to pull chicks. Which usually leads to the questions 'where is the place with white woman who like Indian guys' and 'why are white girls racist'. Good luck!
/r/askTRP26/07/17 05:51 AM
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Everyone gives arguments and reasons when they want to do something and they think someone might object to it. It's human nature - but that doesn't mean it's ok. The other point is more obvious. She gets to do stuff which she wouldn't allow you to do. Which is hypocritical and unfair (get used to it because the only person interested in what is fair for you, is you). So why did you make this post? Do you want some insight, advice about this or did you just want to vent?
/r/askTRP30/06/17 01:05 PM
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So what is your issue? Do you want her to stop going out without you, are you annoyed because she does stuff that you are not allowed to do yourself or is the question why people tend to rationalize things?
/r/askTRP30/06/17 10:23 AM
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No. Dread will not fix that. You have no value to her. You are a walking wallet. Your gf probably hasn't hit the wall yet so she can probably find plenty of guys like you. If you start to apply dread now she'll either see right trough it because you are not ready to ditch her. Meaning she still has the upper hand, meaning she called your bluff and you lost. The other case would be that she'd dump you and find the next you to pay for her shit. Ask yourself why you want to be with her. What does s…
/r/askTRP25/06/17 03:18 PM
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So I have this very good and solid LTR. She lets me buy her stuff and gets to be ungrateful about it. I know how to fix it, i'll just show my emotions and I'll tell her that she needs to appreciate me more. That results in her telling me she'll leave me - but that's OK, she's special like that. I know she really loves me. By the way, I never read any sidebar material but I'm a natural alpha. What the fuck man. You realize that you are a stereotype beta bucks right? For the love of god I hope thi…
/r/askTRP25/06/17 03:10 PM
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Not at all. My mother and sister have episodes like that. In the RP journey to become the best version of yourself I'd say that needing to work 2 jobs, working many hours for shit pay (else you'd probably not need the second job) and feeling emotional and like crying instead of feeling fulfilled would be a great indicator that I'd need to make some massive changes. Good luck
/r/askTRP25/06/17 02:59 PM
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If I'd get herpes from someone because they thought it wasn't a big deal and I wouldn't mind getting herpes and it's ok because a lot of other people have it i would seriously kill you. Dense people like this are the goddamn worst. Stop hamstering your STD.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 08:41 AM
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You sure you actually got into this red pill thing? Are you sure you've read all the sidebar material and you are sure you've read all the top posts? I know it easy to just ask everything but doing some research on your own will help you way more. There are a lot of people who read the sub description and think that's all the info they need. Don't be like that. Still an answer... Guess I'm Ser save-a-bro... If you'd done your homework you aught to know you shouldn't be texting in the first place…
/r/askTRP18/06/17 07:23 PM
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Easiest way for me was checking out websites for local small businesses. Seeing how they were ranked at Google, if they were modern looking and intuitive. Finding out how much the owner updated and if he used a CMS. Looking at businesses that could easily be placed higher on google, could benefit from regular updates and a better user experience. If so I'd drop by the business. If noone could meet me when I stopped by I'd make a appointment of call the next day. I asked 500 Euro for a small webs…
/r/askTRP16/06/17 09:22 PM
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It's great. Easy to maintain, hygienic and looks good when you're ripped. Downside: prone to sunburn.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 07:05 PM
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Dude your entire social circle is family and they are toxic. You don't need that. It might hurt but your mom is a grown up. She can handle herself for better or for worse. You are not captain save a ho, not captain save a bro, not captain save a mom. You tried to help, she doesn't want or need it and you can not help those people. The only thing you can do is try to inspire by example. Move out. Meet new, positive people. Cut all that negative shit out of your life. After moving look for a bette…
/r/askTRP14/06/17 03:31 PM
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Not sure how things are where you live, but in Western Europe baldness is not a bad feature. Everything under 1mm is cool. Above that and you'll soon enter the creepy uncle area. Keeping it short (shaving every other day short) also hides spots with less hair. A head with very thin or irregular hair growth isn't a populair look here. No experience with being short but as far as I can tell a lot of short people here consider it very negative for your smv. Not much you can do about it except getti…
/r/askTRP14/06/17 02:58 PM
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That would be best. Saying that you love a chick has its place. Usually when comfort tested in a LTR or whenrewarding exceptional good behavior in a LTR. Dropping it left and right never works in your favor. Her reply either means she's playing with you or you put her on the spot and this reply was her way out without losing the BB/orbiter benefits you might be supplying. But there's not enough info for any meaningful analysis. Most accurate I can be would be that you are emotional instead of ra…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 10:51 AM
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Women do this because they like exciting and unpredictable men. You are doing the opposite. I mean, how did you think it would work out? Her being impressed with how good you are at showing your emotions and deciding that you are the only guy she needs? Have you tried reading the sidebar material a few times and implementing it in your life? That should fix these issues.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 09:35 AM
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It very much depends on you whether what you are doing is perceived as exciting or creepy. If you are walking down a street and a hb9 starts intensely staring at you. You don't break eye contact, you get a smile and a lip bite. That's pretty cool. Now the hot chick isn't a hot chick, she's some land whale doing the same thing. Pretty creepy right? So even if you make eye contact, If you're not a person she wants to make eye contact with you'll get the cold shoulder every time. Next to the eye co…
/r/askTRP28/05/17 05:55 PM
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Dont post here untill you've read the sidebar material. That's step one. Step 2 would be not to mention suicide. People that want to kill themselves just kill themselves. People who post online about killing themselves are just attention whoring.
/r/askTRP24/05/17 03:12 PM
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So she won't tell you if she's exclusive? You somehow told here that you are. You think this person is going to use sex as a 'tool'. You have nowhere else to go. You'll be here slave. Dude, you can't flip these tables around. Look at what you are saying. You have no options. You are with someone you suspect has no respect for you and will try to use you as a slave because you aren't fucking other chicks. just go back to start and try TRP again. If a chick has this kind of hold over you you've fa…
/r/askTRP21/05/17 06:33 PM
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My experience? This tactic only works when you are the top dog or bottom dog. Trump can get away with it in some cases because there aren't a lot of people that can fire him or hold him accountable for his actions. If you are a minimum wage worker it usually doesn't really matter what you do. You are expendable and easily replaced. Same goes for your co-workers. Dealing with people who lose their shit over obvious truths just isn't worth it. I would guess that if you'd show this behavior versus …
/r/askTRP21/05/17 06:27 PM
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Be the best you that you can be. Show him that life doesn't have to be like his. If he agrees that your life is better than his and he would like this as well; he will come to you for advice. If this ever happens just start out small and don't try to crush his reality with every TRP wisdom out there. Change WILL be met with resistance but the smaller the change the lesser the resistance. Until he is ready to open his eyes and look for an alternative, all you do will be met with negativity one wa…
/r/askTRP11/05/17 10:09 PM
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I'm really curious why so fucking many Indian guys think general trp rules and guidelines do not apply to them.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 02:57 PM
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Except that it is your problem even if it's the truth. If only fictional things were troublesome the world would be a simple place. TRP is a sexual strategy that revolves around improving yourself and being the best version of you that you can be. This doesn't end at being fit and having money. It also includes less visible things like social skills, intelligence, and body language. Lets say you meet a chick who's reasonably hot, and you are looking for a LTR. The problem with this chick is that…
/r/askTRP18/04/17 07:11 PM
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Ok man. That's shitty. You can't change the past. You can pick your future. Being a victim is comfortable as shit so if this is where you wanna be - stay there. No one cares. If you want to change your situation you should do something about it. Something else than writing about it on reddit, feeling sorry for yourself and looking for acknowledgement and pitty. There are subs that are better suited for that kind of stuff.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 03:54 PM
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Kind of obvious isn't it? Binge eating makes you sad, stop doing it. You were fine without prozac. Stop taking it. Or at least have a talk with a Dr about it. Parents pay for your education. Stop taking their money. You are their bitch. Realise that you are their bitch because you allow it. Then you write some sappy story about how shit used to be way better. It wasn't. You weren't rp, you were just a kid who was allowed off the lease for a bit. You've been depressed for years and your parents d…
/r/askTRP15/04/17 12:57 PM
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If I were in your shoes i'd kick him out. I don't need leeching, negative people without any prospect of fixing themselves in my house. On the other hand, you allowed this to happen so youre just as much to blame imho. So yeah... Kick him out. You could ask /r/redpillwomen if you want some female advice.
/r/askTRP09/04/17 05:15 PM
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Been there done that. I used to hate it when people found out I was a scout because a lot of other scouts are teased and bullied. Turns out it isn't being a scout that gets you bullied. If you are a guy that doesn't allow himself to be bullied it doesn't really matter what you do.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 11:41 PM
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So you ask on a (sort of) social media platform how you are doing with tuning down your social media habit? Instead of spending so much time and energy on social media or thinking about social media, find something worthwhile to do. For me the right amount of social media, or any other bullshit related to my phone, is the time I need to take a shit.
/r/askTRP09/03/17 04:46 PM
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First i'd like to tell you she's not your girl. It's just your turn. It's not for you to 'save' her from the other bro's hitting on her. It's on her to deal with it. Fierce mate guarding has 'insecurity' written all over it. You driving off every guy that talks to her will just spike her interest. If you have to keep guys away from her because she apparently can't do that herself - just imagine how she acts when her guardian isn't around. everyone wants what they aren't allowed have, this isn't …
/r/askTRP13/01/17 06:03 PM
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Why a ama? If you have something interesting or important to add, just write about it.
/r/askTRP05/01/17 01:50 PM
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Don't listen to her rationalisation. You are not the man she wants to get fucked by. You don't give her tingles. The pregnancy argument is just something she needs to not feel guilty. I don't see how this is a question. Will you let yourself be blackmailed by her? Grow a pair, for your own sake. Good luck
/r/askTRP10/11/16 05:57 PM
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It's nice to learn the USA citizens have such faith in their politicians. Most people I associate with (educated white males 20 to 40) would just assume that if a party doesn't have anything to back up his plans with, it's just populism to attract voters . But to be fair, my country is smaller than most of the individual states so it probably is a whole lot easier to manage. It's such a foreign concept to me that it's up to the individual voter to figure out whether or not a plan is reasonable. …
/r/askTRP10/11/16 04:05 PM
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Thanks! I've browsed his website before, did so again this morning. Can you point me to the section where I can find (for example) how he will finance his plans? Or for issues like "we need the smartest people negotiating for America because we get ripped off in trade" - where can I find who's deemed smartest, who are the people that should be doing this. So I'm not looking for the plans and ideas, I'm looking for the plan of approach.
/r/askTRP10/11/16 06:42 AM
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Not really. After it became obvious it would be Clinton vs Trump most people kind of stopped caring. It wouldn't be great either way from our European media perspective. Anyhow, maybe someone here can help me out. I see a lot of pro Trump posts and comments over at TRP and here and I'm sure that those opinions are valid. I've also seen the debates and a few of Trumps speeches. He has great plans and promised to make a lot of changes, which is good I suppose. The only thing I've so far haven't se…
/r/askTRP09/11/16 07:23 PM
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10 month relationship and planning the rest of your life together? Solid plan right there. Did you even read any of the sidebar material?
/r/askTRP16/10/16 08:31 AM
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Really, this is why you wanna kill yourself? Get your head out of your ass and have a conversation with people who have actuall problems. If you are this eager for attention, there are plenty more ways to get it.
/r/askTRP07/10/16 08:22 AM
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The one thing I could improve about myself was my fitness and now even that is gone. You sure this is true? Nothing else needs improvement now? Your game is tight, finances are in order, healthy state of mind, not dependent on anything, not looking for things or people for validation and such? How do I live now? Day by day, looking for the opportunities to make your situation better while trying to limit the focus on the stuff you can't influence. Good luck!
/r/askTRP21/09/16 01:13 PM
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You know how kids will not play with some old toy until another kids starts to play with it? You were that toy. She didn't want you, but she also didn't want anyone else to have you.
/r/askTRP20/09/16 09:41 AM
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IDGAF attitude. Used to feel guilty about it, now it has become a source of joy. It was really liberating to actually stop worrying or spending energy on shit I don't care about. Made me a way happier person in general.
/r/askTRP31/08/16 06:52 PM
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Yes, i don't think my advice is landing. Do whatever you wish man, but I cant stress enough that you should get over your ex before you start messing with her. At the moment you are just setting yourself up for failure. Then again, i'm just an unknown internet guy while you have a more complete picture. Whatever you pick, I hope it works. If it doesn't work you can always try to take the red pill again :-)
/r/askTRP26/08/16 09:41 PM
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Yep, only advice you'll need regarding your ex. Don't contact her. Get over her. Pull down her pedestal. Go fish somewhere else.
/r/askTRP26/08/16 03:40 PM
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Ask yourself why you don't find it acceptable. You probably think/see that all these dudes are competition for you, and you are trying to mate guard. This is the exact opposite of having a abundance mentality. The fact that you are caring about this tells me you should work more on yourself and the problem will fix itself. As i see it there are a few options for her to do add guys on social media. 1) because it's social media and she doesn't think much of it. There's nothing wrong as long as you…
/r/askTRP20/08/16 01:19 PM
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Didn't read everything but what primarily sticks out is that you text so damn much. I mean, make a witty joke over whatsapp if you have to. But you are having full blown conversations with her. You are in her frame, you are answering to her every question, you are making her laugh. You are not closing, you are her whatsapp orbiter. Tell her you'll be doing whatever at sometime, tell her she can join you if she likes. Escalate and see how far you can go man. This endless texting is getting you no…
/r/askTRP17/08/16 02:39 PM
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Good thing you noticed you were her beta bucks! Nice job on pulling out before it was too late. Could you by the way explain to me why it seemed like a good idea to get married after only knowing her for two years? Im really curious to find out why people think that they can spend the rest of their live with someone after knowing the other person for such a relatively short time. Anyway, good luck with this ordeal man! I understand it socks but this is a lesson you'll never forget. Stay strong
/r/askTRP04/07/16 09:48 AM
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Wow, those are some greats insights. Whatever doubt there was about ever introducting anyone to trw is gone. Thanks for your time to write this reply, appreciate it!
/r/askTRP30/06/16 08:07 PM
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Could you elaborate on this? Really curious how the rpw ideology works out from a RP perspective.
/r/askTRP30/06/16 04:49 PM
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Yes, Awalt. All girls are sluts, some just take longer to show it.
/r/askTRP19/06/16 10:15 AM
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Ok, so she starts a fight over something petty. She tries to fight a guy, but can't even manage that and falls, and drops her shit. You come running over, to pick up the stuff she dropped? What the hell? Why would you do that? Then you also start defending your Princess? I'm sorry man, but you sound like such a white Knight. My guess would be that either she can't handle alcohol, which isn't a bad thing but then she shouldn't go out drinking, or it is a giant shit test which you failed. You are …
/r/askTRP19/06/16 10:08 AM
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I really hope this is either a troll post or a hypothetical situation. If your LTR, or anyone for that matter, kills pets to prove a point and you still don't see that as a sign that this person isn't loving and/or caring - then you really need to get your shit in order.
/r/askTRP09/06/16 04:09 PM
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Sounds like a RP dude. All girls are sluts and that apparently includes your sister. The only advice we need is the field report from that 30 year old guy who banged a chick.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 11:08 AM
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Europe is too diverse to make claims about chicks like that. But no matter where you go, awalt will always be true. Anyhow, from my experience, mostly westen Europe, the feminazi wave hasn't landed here in the big time way it has in the usa. A lot of girls don't hate gender roles and they don't see stuff like being a sahm as a bad thing. The more to the east you go, the more traditional the culture will become. So it's cool that she cooks and cleans for you, and it's nice she doesn't wave the sl…
/r/askTRP16/11/15 07:31 AM
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The Netherlands here. I live in one of the bigger cities with a high level of multi culture. It hardly matters what your race is, what counts for a lot more are your skills. If you can't speak Dutch for shit while living here, a lot of people will look down on you. If you look foreign but speak Dutch like a pro, Extra points to you. No one looks up because you have a skin tone. The only thing I do notice is when people try to dress as bad asses, the Dutch guys are just considered wanna be's, whe…
/r/askTRP14/11/15 10:59 AM
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From what I make of this, it has a lot to due with your self esteem. You get emotional about it because you are not sure about yourself. You try to find the truth behind the jokes and amplify it. It also, IMO, male nature to rip on the guy who's dishing out but can't take it. Anyway, if this is what is up in your case - generally becoming more red pill will help you with a lot of these issues. By doing the recommended RP route you will become a better person physically and mentally. Having a str…
/r/askTRP04/11/15 04:23 PM
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No worries man. If it wasn't for this community I'd probably be fat and miserable right now. I passed on my advice, it's up to you do do something with it, or not. Good luck!
/r/askTRP29/10/15 02:35 PM
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If you have the funds it's worth it to spend some time with a personal trainer. I didn't and I know now that it would've been better. If you just start with stronglifts 5x5 you should be having some fun. They are simple lifts and they will come back throughout your entire lifting life. You'll see gains in no time and it gives you a really nice foundation for the future. By the time you are done with this program, the gym should feel like a second home and you've probably realised that no one car…
/r/askTRP29/10/15 02:29 PM
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How active are you? I've never had to worry about a low libido but since I've started to hit the gym 3 to 5 times a week it's off the charts. Might be worth trying out.
/r/askTRP29/10/15 02:14 PM
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Another guy who started to lose his hair early in life. Tried to hang on to a failing haircut longer than I should've. Hair loss runs in the family and I didn't want to take the family haircut and shave my head. After a few weeks of thinking about it I had thought of and dismissed a lot of options, including hair pieces, hair implants, and even more ridiculous things like dying the skin where it shows due too lack of hair. Basically the only option that made sense was just to take it off. All th…
/r/askTRP14/09/15 12:30 PM
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The other replies are useful and I personally have not much to add, except my best wishes and a bit of meta advice. Most people over here can only provide a male perspective, hence we might be better suited to give advice to another male. You can try to post this to /r/redpillwomen as well, maybe one of those ladies can give you some advice from a female perspective. Good luck!
/r/askTRP07/09/15 09:17 AM
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The thing is, you probably can't be sure she's just meeting him 'for drinks'. Just like you don't know if she's a slut or not. The fact that you claim to know these things as fact tell me you haven't fully swallowed the pill. Personally I'd hate to always be second best to a ltr, which is what you are. Good luck man.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 08:09 AM
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If the holding hands thing didn't come across as creepy, A&A probably would have done the trick. By saying it isn't a big deal, she assumed it was a big deal. By making fun of her asking the question by totally taking it out of proportion shows her that you just don't care and that you are funny, and that you don't see it as a big deal. Try dating girls out of your school. Whats your long term plan with these chicks? i don't know about your area, but over here after you bang a few chicks in a sh…
/r/askTRP15/08/15 11:54 PM
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She flaked on you so many times man. Usually when she tries to reschedule, that's a good sign. When it still keeps happening you are just a low priority to her. It's utterly disrespectful, you're above that shit. You probably should've stopped it right there and then. When you grabbed her hand, what did her body language tell you? If she's rather creeped out by it instead of excited, that could've been another cue that she wasn't into you. In what way was she asking why you were holding her hand…
/r/askTRP15/08/15 11:26 PM
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Guess you've got that abundance mentality sorted haha. You don't have oneitis, you are still approaching other prospects. Maybe you end up with a side plate job :P
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:33 PM
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Even in western europe, chicks dig high smv guys. You approach to learn how to talk to women and to kick down that pussy pedestal. A lot of guys new to TRP and all BB's don't see women as humans but as angels. Approaching and banging a lot usually forces a guy to adjust his perspective. Also, when oneitus starts kicking in and you decide to throw all TRP advice out the window and you want to LTR someone, you need to know how to approach her. So basically if you feel like you could use some exper…
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:08 PM
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Don't be afraid to negotiate. Where I live a lot of people are uncomfortable to talk about money and in my social circle there even are people who don't ask about the pay at all during the interview. On every serious job that I've had I've been able to increase my salary or at least get some sort of benefit. Worst case scenario is that your interviewer can't or won't negotiate, which doesn't cost you anything. /u/vasilyzaitzev adressed this, but abundance mentality can't be stressed enough. If t…
/r/askTRP14/08/15 10:59 PM
1

I kind of knew where you were coming from, requesting reply's from 30+, but part of the appeal of this sub for me is that information is valued for what it is, not for where it comes from. I really liked the post a few months ago where the guidelines were told about how no post should start with a basic ASL introduction. It doesn't matter who you are, where you come from, or even your gender (while this is very open for debate of course). But if you have something useful to say, say it. Guess th…
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:27 PM
2

1) Fucking is fun, but once that thrill of the chase is gone and your game is played for me it does get kind of boring. You know what you are going to do, you have a pretty good idea on how the girl is going to react. One of the things that kept it fun was seeing how far you could push things and you have plenty of opportunity to explore your sexual boundaries. But isn't this common RP knowledge? Sex isn't that special, it's just a fun thing you need to do every once in a while. And while it can…
/r/askTRP13/08/15 01:33 PM
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While I don't disagree with your general idea, I do think that the examples you are giving are over-validating the girl. By doing this you are making it about her, she is the prize. She's making you lose control. The part when you dismiss a lot of the rejection by calling it 'her fault' in order to get over it and approach more is a good coping mechanism i guess. Even some banter where you playfully blame her for stupid shit might work. Id just tone down on the validation part.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/15 07:34 PM
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If you want to come across as confident and alpha, I'd say you need to work more on being confident and alpha. You know yourself, you know the situation. You decide what makes you own this get together. Both options you wrote can be alpha when played right. Both can make you look like a loser when you are just acting the part and people notice it. It comes down to the same thing most of trp ends up on - be the best version of yourself you can be.
/r/askTRP24/07/15 09:31 PM
1

Everything anyone does boils down to sex. Either you are doing stuff to get it, or you are doing stuff because you had it (like raising kids). It doesn't really matter how you hamster it into something noble, the end game is always sex. At least this is how I'm currently seeing things.
/r/askTRP04/07/15 12:35 PM
1

Well, apparently there is totally nothing you can do about this. Stay in his frame and keep complaining.
/r/askTRP29/06/15 05:18 PM
1

It is coming to the point of physical confrontation? Wow... It sounds really childish and petty. Either the guy is manly to a degree and should be open to discussion. Sitting down, talking about the shitty situation, and finding a solution should still be a option. Or the guy is acting like a chick with issues and throws a tantrum when stuff doesn't goes his way. On which case you should just treat him like any other BB or chick who's acting up. You do whatever you want to do and ignore him, A&A…
/r/askTRP29/06/15 10:24 AM
1

I think I'm missing the point here. What is the question? If the question is how you should cope with his bad leadership, you should assess what power he holds over you? Is he your landlord, or is the primary renter or anything? Can he kick you out? If there's nothing going on like that, what's stopping you from doing the things in a way that you want? If the bathroom needs cleaning, clean it. If he tells you that you need to clean it, but it isn't convenient right now - you explain that to him.…
/r/askTRP28/06/15 09:03 PM
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At times you come across a comment on TRP that slap you in the face. This is one of those. Thanks buddy!
/r/askTRP24/06/15 09:08 PM
1

Your friend feels entitled to this chick while she probably has zero interest in him. Not banging her will only strengthen his resolve that it might work someday. And not screwing a HB8 because some BB guy thinks he deserves it because he really, really, really, wants to hit it, doesn't sound like a valid reason. I probably would try to spare his feelings by saying something along the lines of 'We'll let her decide. I won't actively go after her, but if she seduces me I wont tell her no." and th…
/r/askTRP22/06/15 09:43 PM
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Besides from what the others wrote, which I agree with, you might want to wait a bit before you actively use AM. Trying to apply it while you aren't amused, nor a master - will probably back fire. Wait until you've got plenty of experience with handling shit and comfort tests. When you can spot them from a mile away and know how your wife is going to react pretty accurate, then it's time for AM. At least, that's my take on it. Good luck on the hard road ahead man! Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 06:10 PM
1

And I never said otherwise. All I know is that OP is under the impression that he made a mistake. And while TRP is amoral, that doesn't mean that everyone who considers them self Redpill has to be amoral as well. At least, not to my current understanding.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 08:18 PM
1

Ok. I have no clue what he did. But if it went against his own moral code I'd say he made a different mistake.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 08:07 PM
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Ignoring your mistakes is childish. If you really did something you shouldn't have done, fix it. Own your mistakes like you try to own every aspect of your life. Personally I rather discuss or talk about my mistake with the people that were effected by whatever it is I did, than to write a e-mail. Personal contact usually is way more effective than text based conversation for me.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 12:05 PM
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I couldnt have mentioned that because I had no way of knowing. 4 guys at least at 18 certainly isn't low. Some red flags aren't bad in itself. It's the behaviour it indicates which is bad and disrespectful. High libido, love, and respect are not out of reach. It just requires certain behavior and boundaries, from both sides. And a parter who values those traits. Unicorns aren't real, that doesn't mean you should settle for some cheating, dead bedroom, emotional withdrawn, chick. Beter yet, don't…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 01:28 PM
1

Haha, now you are making me read back trough our conversation. O well, since I've already invested time in this I might as well do it. She's enjoying sex. She doesn't want to have sex with you. Maybe she's getting it somewhere else. One of her go-to excuses is being hung-over. Drinking a lot is a slut indicator. She's banged 4 guys of that she's willing to tell you (in reality this number is usually higher because she doesn't want to sound like a slut) and she's only 18. Good sign of actively ri…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:19 PM
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If she's your LTR, are exclusve, you are picking up signs she's cheating, and you won't take any action while you let her remain your exclusive LTR, I think you might be missing a few of the big RP points. Of course you can never know for sure, but if it looks like a duck, and sounds like a duck, it's probably a duck. Try to see if you can find some trickle truth and see where that leads you. I see no reason why you shouldn't soft next her and start hooking up with all of those potential plates.…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:58 AM
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If you read back our conversation, I've mentioned where I noticed red flags. Other people have also pointed out her behavior as a probable indicator of cheating. You just didn't read it/respond to it. Don't over react. Be stoic. Remain calm even when you are getting emotional. There is plenty you can do. If you find out she's cheating, you hard next her this very second. If she isn't, you could downgrade her to a plate while you find a few more plates. There's a big difference.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:43 AM
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Alright man. Seems like you've found a way to make it work for yourself. That's always good. I'd still take a good hard look at myself as to why she's not attracted to me anymore. Also the part where there are a lot of signs that she might be playing you/is slutty/cheats, which you kind of ignore, might mean something. Good luck!
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:36 AM
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I'm nineteen, and where I'm from (Asia) it's common to live with parents until mid-twenties. So I don't think that's too against me. Ok, if you say that independence isn't a valued trait in Asia, I'll won't call you a liar. I'm hard pressed to believe it, but I'm not living there. I don't understand this point. How am I supposed to "call the shots" when it comes to sex? If she doesn't feel like it, there's nothing I can do -- "desire is non-negotiable". Desire isn't negotiable, so you shouldn't …
/r/askTRP18/06/15 10:48 AM
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Sgm is great, I would've recommenced it but you've already found it. Some advice regarding this, try implementing every DEVI step in the bedroom as well. You both living with your parents probably doesn't help. I don't think anyone who still needs their parents gives that manly man vibe. You can still hold frame at her place. Even if she 'controls' the logistics, you only lose frame when you let her call the shots. If she doesn't want to sleep with you, there is going on more than that. You also…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 10:08 AM
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Become a guy that she wants to fuck. Try to learn why she isn't attracted to you. Are you in poor shape, do you have a BB character, are you boring in bed, is there a physical disabbility, doesn't she feel the need to sleep with you because someone else is scratching that itch? Amping up the dread game might trigger some reaction, just be aware that if you don't bring anything to the relationship, as you said, she could just walk away. Which might not be a bad thing, since you aren't getting lai…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 09:42 AM
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I started to turn bald at a early age, so I had plenty of time to get used to the idea. I liked me with a lot of hair, but the bald head goes well with the bigger, more shredded body I now have. After I made the decision to shave my head it took me a few days to recognize myself in the mirror, it took a couple of weeks to get comfortable with the look. There were a few people that gave me bad feedback, but for every negative comment I got a few positives in return. My looks and confidence certai…
/r/askTRP17/06/15 09:14 PM
2

If you leave the party because your emotions are running wild and you can't contain yourself any longer, and you expect your SO to drop everything they are doing to accommodate you in this behavior, she has every reason to make you wait, since you are acting like a child. If there is some emergency situation and you need to leave ASAP, she should be offering support, not adding to the drama. Besides that, if you want to leave and she wants to stay, you can just leave while she stays. (Not) Doing…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 12:12 PM
2

Trying to make someone redpill usually backfires. Usually TRP guy wants the BP guy to change instead of the BP wanting to change and TRP guy picking up on that. I'd say this is why preaching TRP and 'forcing' it onto others is usually discouraged. Are you sure this little guy is ready for a change? are you sure he wants to change? Are you sure it's not just you who wants him to change? I'd say these are questions that need to be answered before you actually are going to try and unplug him. If I …
/r/askTRP17/06/15 11:50 AM
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Which is also true.
/r/askTRP16/06/15 01:38 PM
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When my girl gives me any 'i'm cutting my hair short' bullshit I just A&A, "Get my haircut. We'll both be manly man!". She knows I like long hair. She likes her long hair. I know she wont cut it so any remarks about it are tests by default. I can ignore it, laugh at it, make it a joke, it doesn't matter. The only thing I can do to lose this test is to take it seriously. In order for me to even think about taking it seriously would be in a situation where she got some practical use out of cutting…
/r/askTRP16/06/15 01:37 PM
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When me and my girl were getting serious, I established some boundaries. One of those was the fact that I despise fat people. I told her that if she started to be fat, my attraction for her would die. Without attraction I wouldn't plate a girl, or even have ONS with her. I told her then and there that if she got fat, we were done. Every time I spot a person with a intriguing physique, I like to point it out. Good looking hard body chick, I'll tell her what I like about it. Confident looking guy …
/r/askTRP15/06/15 06:34 PM
1

Haha, those guys don't take kindly to butthurt stuff or self pity. When the time is right and you feel the need to participate, you can always make a dedicated account for that sub. Even if TRP doesn't acknowledge MRP, they do dish out good advice on a regular basis.
/r/askTRP11/06/15 08:49 PM
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Just a disclaimer, my hate was pointed at the article, not at you. Just want to make that clear. I'm not against ironing, cooking, cleaning, taking out the trash, or whatever. It's stuff like 'it's always your turn to take out the trash' and shit like that, that gets me. Stay angry for as long as you need, it's a natural process and very understandable. You are learning what you did wrong/ are doing wrong, and you are working on improve yourself. Those are great steps, and often quite hard to fo…
/r/askTRP11/06/15 08:41 PM
2

Tell her you love her more than once a day. Thousands of ways exist on how to show your wife you love her. Be creative — Every. Single. Day. Clean it every day and reach over and clean your spouse's. Leave her a note. This could be the simplest one you do. It doesn't have to be anything fancy; just a note to let her know she is beautiful, or to have a good day. Make the bed. Read to her. It's always your turn to take out the garbage Hugs in the morning. Hugs when you come home. Hugs when you go …
/r/askTRP11/06/15 07:58 PM
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What a load of chap. This is just a list that some sour chick wrote. Nothing to back it up or anything. It's a personal wish list from the perspective of this chick, but because of the title is sounds like a lot of chicks agree with this. Appropriate title would be "20 things a schmuck should do for a entitled, lazy bitch". The funniest part about articles like this, is that if the chick got what she listed here, all attraction from her side would soon fade. Wondering why her relationship doesn'…
/r/askTRP11/06/15 03:51 PM
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Have these as well. None of the girls i've slept with even seemed to noticed it. I brought it up with my first gf and she said 'it's just your dick...'. If I do get questions on it in the future, that will probably be my response. I think it's quite common, and it doesn't look infected or bad or something. I'd say you have nothing to worry about.
/r/askTRP10/06/15 09:14 PM
1

Well, this story took place about 8 years ago. I'm now entering my prime and I've been internalizing TRP for well over a year, been lifting for a few years longer than that. I only fear what I would've become if this chick hadn't driven me up the wall so much, that I started to resent chicks and by doing that opening up the path that enabled me to embrace TRP. If I hadn't been such a douche at the time, I would've seen her for the slut she is and never even made her my LTR (I was together with t…
/r/askTRP08/06/15 08:51 PM
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I was young and new to women. She was a bit younger with amazing tits. She showed interest, I played it cool. We started dating, I became a white knight. After some time she (surprise, surprise) found a better dick to suck. Besides everything sex related, she was also my first experience with trickle truth - "It's just a sleep over. There will be plenty other people and I wont sleep in the same room" some time later "I slept in his room". Even later "There weren't any other people". Few more day…
/r/askTRP08/06/15 07:10 PM
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That's what I'm saying man. But thanks for agreeing.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/15 12:13 PM
2

The biggest reason why I would think these compliments are a shit test would be because of my association with these words, and because I wouldn't describe myself as cute of beautiful. Usually body language and other signs throughout the conversation will probably tell us if it's a sincere compliment or not. Just like you could be defending your ego, I could be over analyzing or being to paranoia about it. Like your example, I find it hard to believe that is a shit test. You had sex, you are bot…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/15 10:01 PM
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Being cute and beautiful are both terms I associate with femininity. Therefor I would usually suspect these 'compliments' to be a shit test or something to lead up to a shit test, but let's not focus on that since it isn't your question. When you are called cute it is either a compliment (she is validating you, showing her interest) or it's a trick she's using in order to get you to validate herself, which is what you are doing in your example. When she's giving you this compliment, she's trying…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/15 09:42 PM
1

When I was younger I suffered from anger management problems. I won't go into detail but it wasn't my best time. Now I practically don't have issues with this anymore. Two things that work great for me are A) stop taking actions or making descisions when I start te feel emotional, I spend quite a lot of time learning to recognise these emotions. Anger is quite hard to recognise in a early stadium, it tends to speak up on you. Tip B) would be to take a step back when I start to feel aggravated an…
/r/askTRP05/06/15 10:31 AM
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Great example of how something generally seen as geeky can be turned into a good date. Nice!
/r/askTRP04/06/15 03:51 PM
1

From my experience you should just do whatever you want to do. She can go along if she's a good companion. You being uncomfortable with the date/setting/place/whatever will be more boring or off-putting than any boring date will probably be. Even stupid shit like midget golf can become fun if you know how to present it. I like to play into my strengths, I'm a outdoorsy, hiking kind of guy in an area where this is not all that common. Bringing her to the woods, walk a bit, show her stuff I find i…
/r/askTRP04/06/15 03:49 PM
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The fact that it didn't work for you doesn't mean it won't for others. I am convinced that if your smv is high enough you will be attractive. I'm not saying OP has what it takes to pull it off, but if his story is true and he can't lose weight at a normal rate, it is worth a shot. And indeed, if trp won't work because OP doesn't have the means to increase his smv enough, the BB way is the path he should take. That or MGHOW and abandon all hope for pussy.
/r/askTRP04/06/15 10:38 AM
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So I wrote this reply only it's a tad long. If you are interested, let me know and I'll pm it.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 08:06 PM
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I'm relaxed. Did I come on strong? Didn't mean to. You said you didn't read everything, so I took it upon myself to explain it a bit further.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 06:50 PM
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TRP isn't a flowchart of how to act and what to do. There isn't a chapter about when to hold hands and when not to hold hands. It does say that one of the ways to keep a chick interested is to throw her off balance to get her hamster spinning, which could result in more attraction. For example, this chick places a lot of value in a simple act, like holding hands. Her date picked up on this and he felt it was time to get her out of her comfort zone. He start to let go of her hands every now and a…
/r/askTRP02/06/15 06:37 PM
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Weird idea, but how about you ask him? He will probably be better at easing your mind then any of us internet strangers will be. Holding or not holding hands isn't part of TRP philosophy unless he made it a 'rule' for himself. Maybe he's doing it to keep you on your toes or to mess with your head, and if that is his play, it sure is working. Look at you, all worried about something like holding hands.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 06:26 PM
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Shit tests will be thrown at you everywhere and all the time when you are dealing with women, not just in a social setting or whatever. Your frame is also something you want to be aware of all the time, not just on certain occasions. A lot of good ltr advice is being dished out at /r/marriedredpill But being married is one of the things that kind of goes against a big part of TRP philosophy. Are the things you want advice on shit tests or something? What is the situation? Could you give a bit in…
/r/askTRP02/06/15 06:18 PM
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Trp teaches you how women think and how they act, and how you as a male can deal with this behaviour. That women tend to think illogical has little to do with males practicing trp and their illogical behaviour at some points. Even if you believe in something unproven and I logical doesn't change the core aspect of being red pill. While religion doesn't work for me because of a lot of reasons, u don't see why you couldn't put RP teachings into practice while you are religious (at this moment) .
/r/askTRP01/06/15 08:20 PM
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Sucks you're fat. Everyone else has told you enough about that part, and I couldn't agree more. Even with a good excuse, fat people are still fat. Being fat is unattractive. Being unattractive is and always will be a significant drop in your smv. The good thing is, looks aren't the only thing that influence your smv. Ok, you're fat. Accept that and accept you won't attract chicks by your looks. Now if you have to have a shot at getting a chick in the rp way, just have your other shit in order. S…
/r/askTRP01/06/15 01:05 PM
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You're welcome :)
/r/askTRP28/05/15 09:50 PM
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Getting in good physical shape is a great start. Not only does it give you more confidence, it's an outlet for energy, and the physical improvement is a clear sign to other people are aren't some lazy twat. I don't know if you are a reader, but reading books is a also a great way to improve yourself. Even just some small pulp book can get your imagination going, increase your empathy, and maybe give you a new way of looking at certain things. While reading you can also work on your tan, if that …
/r/askTRP28/05/15 08:08 PM
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You're welcome man! Hoped it helped. If there's anything else, let me know.
/r/askTRP28/05/15 07:52 PM
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Where do you want to go with this chick? Are you still wanting to pump'n dump her, do you want to get her as your LTR, or do you just want her to be your friend, whether or not she might see you as her orbiter? What's your goal, your endgame? Because unless you are going for the friendzone/orbiter status, you are probably on the wrong way. You are acting like one of her girlfriends, therefor your probably are becoming one of her girlfriends. Stopping with the non personal conversations probably …
/r/askTRP28/05/15 07:40 PM
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It's pretty human to feel these things. If you are a person that falls in love, you should accept that about yourself. Once you know and accept this, you can work with it. You have feelings for this chick, but you shouldn't let that effect your actions. Before any interaction with her, think about if it is something you would've done with any other chick, or if your emotions and feelings are making you do stupid shit, like breaking frame. Caring or feeling aren't bad things. When you let these t…
/r/askTRP28/05/15 07:16 PM
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This is a great idea! Bend over backwards to please this chick, make sure it's exactly what she wishes. That'll establish your dominance for sure! If you want to go camping and hiking, plan your camping and hiking trip. If she's a good girl, she can come along. If she doesn't like it, she can leave. Do it because you want to do it. Not to impress a chick with stuff don't like or wouldn't do otherwise.
/r/askTRP28/05/15 07:07 PM
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I guess this proves how differently men and women really are. Men can turn their beta behavior into alpha behavior and remain alpha. Yet women will always view you as beta, once you have shown beta.It doesnt matter how alpha i can become, I will always be that beta in their eyes. Indeed. Yet this way of thinking is true for a lot of men as well, and it is a popular way of thinking because it usually is correct. A person that shows behavior B after years of showing behavior A is likely to put on …
/r/askTRP27/05/15 06:55 PM
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Girl X can't turn you beta. Only you can do this. You are failing shit tests, don't have your shit together, you are dropping smv. You are still plugged in. Basically you are her BB, maybe you tried to act like an Alpha, but you surely weren't. She now knows this. You are a BB and no matter how much more alpha you'll become, in her perception you'll always be a BB. Now she dumps you, you start improving yourself, raising smv, getting your shit in order. Probably you are still plugged in by now. …
/r/askTRP27/05/15 06:21 PM
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How do I get sex without committing to a LTR? It's easy. If make a girl want you. If she brings up the point of commitment you tell her that 'you like her but you aren't looking for a committed relationship right now' but you make it clear that maybe in the future this could become an option. If your SMV and game is good enough, you will get what you want. If she doesn't want to play this game, find a new chick that does. About the not being on time, it depends on how you see it. If you find it …
/r/askTRP26/05/15 12:53 PM
1

Started losing my hair at 16. Kept it on there way too long. Got somewhat buff and took off the hair. I definitely look better. Haven't got a negative reaction so far.
/r/askTRP26/05/15 12:24 AM
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You do it by being honest with her. You tell her you are not looking for a committed relationship but you do like her. If she's into you she might be fine with it. If she wants commitment, to bad. Her loss. If she is crazy and you don't want her as a plate or whatever, you can basically use the meeting as a practice round. You'll never see her again, so why not try a few things out you are curious about. How would she reacts if you do a very bold move or extreme negging. After the date you tell …
/r/askTRP25/05/15 10:32 AM
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Stop the texting, meet in real life, see if she's worth to spin as a plate. If she is, escalate and try to plate here. If she isn't, practice game with her and soft next. If you don't want to meet or bang her, why the fuck would you keep messaging with her for over 4 weeks?
/r/askTRP24/05/15 09:57 PM
1

Thanks for the reply and explanation! Appreciate it!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 04:31 PM
1

You sound like you are pedestalizing her. Whether you are or if she's really a unicorn is hard to tell from here. Then again, there isn't much difference between thinking that she's nearly perfect and her actually being nearly perfect. I've seen way to much AWALT drama to believe that chicks stay the way they are when shit starts to get sour. She will change over the years. As will you. Youll probably both find other people attractive, you'll probably both fall in love with other people, you'll …
/r/askTRP22/05/15 01:34 PM
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Are you sure that trying to explain and defend yourself is the best course of action here? By my experience this will not give you the reaction you are looking for, but will probably be more oil on the fire.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 01:09 PM
1

How long has this been going on? Don't expect everything to happen fast. Prepare to give these stages all the time they need. It's a process of months, if not years. Not days and weeks. Where does the anger come from? What are you angry about? Knowing that and actively trying to improve those visions could help a lot. Good luck!
/r/askTRP20/05/15 10:05 AM
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It's good you had a verbal agreement, but unless you recorded the conversation it'll probably do you no good. A man should be able to trust another man on his word, sadly this is usually not the case. It's sad when friends turn out to be dicks. Not caring about retribution is something I admire. Holding a grudge and 'getting back' probably are a few of the beta influences I still need to get out of my system.
/r/askTRP18/05/15 06:06 PM
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I'd suggest you educate yourself on the subject. Learn about contraceptives, ovulation, cycles, plan b, STD's, STI's, and whatever else i'm forgetting. Fear usually is caused by ignorance. When you learn that it isn't that hard to not knock up a chick, you'll probably lose a lot of the fear. Getting pregnant isn't something a divine being bestows upon mortals as punishment or blessing and we have no control over. It's something that you can keep from happening and that could happen if you are no…
/r/askTRP18/05/15 03:42 PM
2

Happiness and peace of mind. I never was bad with girls or anything, so I didn't need TRP as a sexual strategy. For me it's solely about self improvement. The better I become, the happier I am. The side effect that it makes me more desirable by ladies is great but it surely isn't my main reason of staying on TRP path. I base my goal around one person, for one person. Both of them are me. I'm the only one worth spending this amount of time on and putting this amount of energy in. I'm currently fi…
/r/askTRP18/05/15 11:51 AM
2

If you honestly have something worth a lot of money, make sure you own the concept. Get those copyrights/patents or whatever documentation you need to make this thing officially yours. If it's something you can't claim as your own, you are going to have a hard time keeping this part of the market. A friend wouldn't screw over a friend. The nicest thing you can do would be to drop him from your social circle. The normal thing to do would be to screw him over first chance you get. Why you would 'g…
/r/askTRP18/05/15 11:45 AM
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Nothing new, but still feeling the need to try and get this point across. If you marry her under these circumstances you are shooting your happiness and self-worth in the face and burning the corpse. You know this is wrong and the only reason you want to pull through is because you hope that everything after Marriage will work out. It won't. I hope you'll see trough your delusions in time and get your life in order. Also, why the fuck do you even think about marrying someone that sees you as a r…
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 04:41 PM
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The best way to pass shit tests is with humor. A thing that isn't mentioned enough is the A&A should be funny or at least not confrontational. If you just put your foot down instead of A&A you'll get more resistance but it could work equally well, depending on the situation. If you are an experienced driver driving with one hand is safe. I shift manually. Not taking my hands off the wheel doesn't make it more safe. An A&A you could have used was "I'm training to not use my hands at all" or somet…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 04:32 PM
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You probably don't have any ambition to play rugby on a (semi)professional level, because you would've been doing it by then. But if you like the sport, why not join. I'm sure they have some lower tier teams. If not on campus, I guess they have them around town. Why wouldn't you be able to gain social value by participating in a sport or joining a club? Just carry it and be proud of it. Everything you do beats sitting in a basement, eating junkfood, playing MMO's all goddamn day and wanking unti…
/r/askTRP12/05/15 09:58 PM
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Gossip is used by women for whatever reason and by beta males trying to score points with chicks that gossip. I ignore it when I don't care about it, I'll call you out on it whenever I hear it and it involves me or people I consider friends. Now if the gossip is combined with trash talk I instantly lose respect for the person. Usually asking them if they wouldn't want to discuss this with the person they are talking about, or how they would've dealt with the situation. Instead of just talking sh…
/r/askTRP12/05/15 09:21 PM
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Hi there! Why would it be to late to pick up a sport? I'm 26 and I pick up a new sport about every year or so. Is there a reason or do you just 'feel' like it's too late? You can establish social value in a lot of ways. One of the most obvious is indeed participating in a team sport, but any social gathering will do. If they have a group activity that you enjoy, join it. Striking up conversations on the first few days and showing how social and funny you are can be great for those first impressi…
/r/askTRP12/05/15 09:02 PM
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I'm from one of the smaller countries in Europe, and even in our few hundred km radius you've got a lot of small cultural differences. The biggest ones I've come across would be between the urban and rural area's. Which is pretty much the same as what you described. Only it's less outdoorsy and more farmy. I live in a suburb, one of the richer ones in my country (not wealthy or from a wealthy family myself) and it's pretty much like how you described Tempa. I'd love to stay somewhere where less …
/r/askTRP12/05/15 07:53 PM
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Sorry man. Didn't mean no offense. But where I live the prejudge is that what you described is somewhat along the lines of white trash. But coming from a guy in europe, without any experience with 'the south' or all of the states for that matter, it probably isn't a great generalization.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 03:59 PM
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Ok man. Not the main point of my post but thanks, I guess. If flashiness is not an asset, why do chicks flock to mustangs and big trucks?
/r/askTRP12/05/15 03:28 PM
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It's more about the principles than the way you fill those in. Like you said - Lifting hard and dressing good boil down to looking better than the average bloke. Reading and getting good at hobbies will make you more interesting than the average bloke. Both these things basically boil down to 'improve yourself' and becoming the best you can be. Lets take the cloths example. In most parts of the western world, a suit is associated with business, money, class, and manliness. So getting a tailored …
/r/askTRP12/05/15 03:21 PM
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How about you improve your grammatical skills? You can at least make it hard for your friend to repeat your stupid shit by saying less stupid shit... Stop saying idiotic shit that will make you look like an idiot. Also; if your friend is out to make you look bad, he's probably not your friend.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 11:55 AM
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You can't. Asking her to do the thing she wants is walking right into her frame. Keep doing what you do until she brings it up again, make her work for it and after that you can agree to be exclusive on the terms you will set. In the meanwhile, make sure she really is ltr material, that you are thinking logical about this, that you want this for you, and that you are absolute sure this is the right choice. Gl hf
/r/askTRP11/05/15 04:38 PM
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Still seems like you made the best of it! Still weird that she goes from very clingy to ditching you. Probably like you said, to much dread. Still a shame you lost a plate/fwb, but it's good you don't see it as a loss. I think I still might have gotten a bit butthurt over it. Thanks for your story and explanation
/r/askTRP09/05/15 08:02 PM
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Isn't it weird that they were 'just there'? I'm pretty sure she had contact with them. Maybe she told them to pick her up or whatever, but chances are it wasn't a random encounter. You made her work to get to a second date, but did she have to put energy in during the date? It seems like you know your stuff so I guess you did, but just checking. Does she realize and accept the difference in SMW? Isn't her hamster telling her she can do better? Or maybe she just has a screwed up vision of her own…
/r/askTRP09/05/15 07:03 PM
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Why are her friends on your date? That makes it very easy for her to ditch you and leave when she's done with you. I doubt that it was just a coincidence they were there. She talked about you with her friends and the outcome probably wasn't positive. The dancing and kissing part sounds ok, but if that is what she wants and you don't make her work for it, it's just another night out for her. If she see's you as just another guy dancing to her tune and then you stop doing that. With her friends th…
/r/askTRP09/05/15 06:09 PM
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Before you go out and give your uncle advice, you should make damn sure he wants your advice. Does he see you as a person to give him relationship advice? Does he take your seriously enough for this, does he think you are credible on the lifestyle/relationship front? I'm under the impression that most BB's don't want to get help. If they do want help, they don't want the sort of help TRP offers. Swallowing the pill can be quite a change in your life. If you don't honestly and absolutely want to …
/r/askTRP08/05/15 07:44 PM
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Thanks for the explanation! Covered everything I wanted to know and a bit more.
/r/askTRP08/05/15 05:56 PM
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Hi man. I like your post and agree with nearly everything. One thing I hope you could clarify for me, would be your first point. You say it isn't worth to invest time in order to get with a high quality woman, because those are unicorns and those don't exist. I'm currently under the impression that there are higher quality women, just because there is a difference in quality. For me, a soulless slut would be low quality, but a attractive, intelligent chick with little red flags would be high qua…
/r/askTRP08/05/15 04:45 PM
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Toys aren't beta. Being afraid of whether or not every move you make is beta, is beta. Also, under the rules section of the sidebar: Avoid asking questions like "is this alpha" or "is this beta?" Instead focus on asking whether or not your actions were congruent with your goals. If you need toys because you can't please a chick and she brings them, makes you use them, and replaces you with toys, yes it's beta. If you tie up a chick and fuck her with a vibrator it's just good sex. It usually isn'…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 07:08 PM
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Use some shitty excuse to meet up with her. Tell her you deleted the digital version because of incriminating evidence and that you only have one hard copy version left. Tell her you'll be getting rid of that one soon as well, so the only time and place when she can see it is at /whatever location at whatever time suits you/. Make her work for whatever she wants. If she's into you (or really needs the info) she'll make it work. If not, then it's clear as well.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 07:02 PM
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I'm not sure if it's advice about the stare down. I've always done it subconsciously and after I became aware I did it I noticed I tend to look away first. I used to have a resting bitch face, been working on that for some time and this lead to me usually having at least some sort of smile on my face. If you have fear of making eye contact with strangers and are relatively new to TRP, I'd say stick with the intimidation look. Getting people to look away can be somewhat of a confidence boost. I s…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 02:28 PM
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You're welcome! I wouldn't have guessed it either, but after a few years of heavy lifting it got kind of hard to ignore. Getting hit on by the sales lady in the clothing store in front of the gf, kino from gf's of friends, getting asked how to get in shape by men. The stare game is fun, but I tend to do it with a smile instead of a true stare down look which usually gets me werird looks from guys and smiles or stink eyes from chicks Haha
/r/askTRP06/05/15 12:07 PM
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Any sort of physical activity is good. It keeps you in shape, increases stamina, makes you feel good, makes you more social. The one thing that made me stick with lifting was the effect a muscular appearance has on other people. Guys tend to put up less resistance when im taking the lead and chicks are way more responsive. My ltr has a new found love for my body which is very interesting, more ioi from random girls, more kino response overall. Over the last few years I've done some martial arts,…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 10:17 AM
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haha, I didn't mean as in 'going berserk' more like forgetting your lines. Since you didn't say anything back, I assumed you were lost for a remark. You are doing great. You are learning to stop shit tests, you are actively trying to better yourself, you are asking for help. Just apply it as often as you can and it'll become natural. Keep it up man!
/r/askTRP29/04/15 10:23 PM
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If it's just a bullshit discussion with a chick you don't care about, you are right. It was wasted energy. In this case shutting her down the way you did wasn't that bad, unless people start to think badly of you now. She was making it personal, that shit isn't ok. I can see how you like it. I at times do the same, but I usually am witty enough not to lose my shit at a 'shut up'. If you see this girl a a potential plate, agree/disagree and amplify would be the best course of action. Make her lau…
/r/askTRP29/04/15 10:13 PM
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I find it hard to think of something for the first scenario. What were you arguing about? If she was pissing me off i'd probably say something like you did. If it was all in good fun i'd probably go along the lines of 'Are you trying to flirt with me?', if I had the feeling that could get her on the defense. I'd at least try to keep the crowd at my side and try to walk away when i'm on top. The second one isn't so hard. She told you to shut up, so the last thing i'd do would be shutting up. How …
/r/askTRP29/04/15 10:05 PM
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Stop the oneitis and find a new plate?
/r/askTRP29/04/15 10:13 AM
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Well done on the first steps on a long road to become the best you can be man! You hang out with her every three weeks. Why do you do this, honestly? Because if she was just 'one of the guys' you wouldn't feel this way, right? You wouldn't feel what you are feeling now if two of your bro's decided to hook up. I guess you want something more from her but for some reason you didn't think that would happen so you've put yourself in the 'friendzone'. It's safe, you can't get hurt, no rejection, and …
/r/askTRP24/04/15 09:39 PM
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This might be a troll post, or maybe you are just someone that hasn't been around TRP all that long and in that case you should read more, but i'm going to try to help you anyway. Let me know if i'm translating this wrong, but here's what it sounds like to me. "I have Oneitis for this chick, but I'm in denial about it. I'm her orbiter, we exchange emotional stuff but I got nowhere physical. Now my friend did manage to hook up with her and now i'm jealous. All of a sudden it's to close for comfor…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 09:19 PM
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A dude looking for drama for the sake of getting some drama is a Beta boy. He's trying to validate himself. You stood up for yourself against a chick, denying her pussy pass. He's trying to be the SJW/white knight, hopefully gaining some respect by trying to get you to submit to his social structure. So he's a beta boy, beta's should be dealt with in the same way as chicks. You agree and amplify with humor, or amused mastery. Try to diffuse the situation. Try to make him look like a fool without…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 07:02 PM
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Orbit much? Did you read the sidebar material? That would be a good start. Good luck man!
/r/askTRP24/04/15 09:39 AM
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I look for a program, usually a recommendation from a lifting focused sub or out of a magazine. I follow it for 6 to 8 weeks, depending on when I plateau. Then I find the best one, preferably one that is very different from the last program. Just finished a 2 way split training so now I'll be looking into a training that's split up even more of a full body workout every day. Lifting hard and building muscle will spike your confidence, gives a great first impression and you'll give girls the ting…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:19 AM
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Well, moving out will kick-start your life living for yourself. No more parental supervision. You do what you want and you live with the consequences. When you get in a argument with your parents you can just walk away instead of needing to submit because they are your home owners. About your sister, she shouldn't force you to go to a therapist. You shouldn't let yourself be forced to do so. Especially when the therapist isn't a therapist. People like that can cause more harm than good. Think ab…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 09:31 AM
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Yes, both your sister and your mother. The phrase AWALT applies to family as well, it's just a bit harder to accept at times. Learn holding frame when dealing with them. Sister gets in your face and you want to react the same way she's acting out? Don't do it. You've lost your frame and entered hers. Remain calm and stoic. Find out if she's really having a problem or if she's just trying to push your buttons. Observe how she handles you and your dad. If she's like my sister, she will try to mani…
/r/askTRP22/04/15 07:23 PM
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Hi man! There is some vital information missing to accurately see what is going on here. Because this is missing I will make assumptions. They probably won't be accurate, but let's see where it goes. She isn't open about sex, she doesn't like to talk about it, vanilla sex life - This means she has some sort of guilt about sex, which is pretty normal in some cultures (like very religious cultures). They tell you sex is bad and gross, and this stays in their head. She also probably hasn't had her …
/r/askTRP10/04/15 04:18 PM
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Hi man! Just throwing in my opinion here. Don't try to punish your (ex-)friends. You can't control them, you can only control yourself. Punishing them makes you a butt-hurt, feeble man. You need to stand above it. The friend that lied to you is kind of a wimpy douchebag. Just remember that he is a beta boy and just doing what he thinks is right. I'm not saying to keep him as a friend, I'm just saying you shouldn't be all that mad at him. I also doubt that you should bluntly tell them your friend…
/r/askTRP07/04/15 09:09 PM
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How about telling her? I'm horrified at obese people and I will never be with someone who is overweight. Taking care of yourself is one of the first priorities in my book. If someone can't take care of his or her self, how can they take care of their partner? I told every girl I intended to date or get into an actual LTR with that getting fat is a deal breaker. Getting fat is on the same level as cheating, lying, shaming, flirting in front of me, or any other red flag behavior. Current LTR added…
/r/askTRP07/04/15 09:55 AM
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It's normal and it's human. It shows you have empathy and can relate to what she is feeling. You didn't act on those emotions because you choose to be a rational male. You didn't want to go exclusive with her, you told her that. Lying to her would cause more damage in the long run and might even be against a (few) personal belief(s). It's not that alpha males are without emotion, they just don't act on them. Getting hurt like this in order to do what is right for you makes you a man. Even the ch…
/r/askTRP06/04/15 09:29 PM
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Do you know if she's dead set on getting that female bodybuilder physique? For me personally that would be way to much to handle. If she isn't, and she just enjoys working out and getting hot, a few small changes might do the trick. Try to find out what her goals are, what's her motivation? If she's doing it for you, then you should have no problem giving her routine a little nudge in a more preferable direction. If her motivation is something that has nothing to do with you at all, at some poin…
/r/askTRP31/03/15 11:45 AM
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Hi man. Next to all the comments all ready made, i don't have much to add. I would like to plead for a new FR after she gets back and how it turns out. I'm learning a lot from your rapports and the comments on it. I could use the last chapter of the story as well. Thanks and good luck man!
/r/askTRP28/03/15 08:33 PM
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Very welcome. I've had to write my fair share of essays and getting some support is never a bad thing. Whether or not I wrote something useful is for you to decide. Judging by your comment, it probably is. You have to write an essay on why gender stereotypes are wrong? You are not allowed to do your research and come to your own conclusion? That's funny. Just write what they want you to write in that case. If you deem it read worthy, i'd still like to read it. There are points to be made on why …
/r/askTRP27/03/15 09:40 PM
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Sure man. Could you pm me your work after you are done? Sounds quite interesting. The unicorn I'm about to describe is what MY unicorn is. At no point do i mean to say that this is universal for TRP. In fact, i'm sure there are a lot of point in my unicorn that other Redpiller don't agree with at all. This is personal, one view from one person. The unicorn lady for me would be a lady with a lot of pride. Who tries as hard to be the best she can be, motives and expects me to do the same. Someone …
/r/askTRP27/03/15 12:07 PM
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About the first story. You made eye contact and you didn't act on it. Nothing happened. Lets say you did pull over and approached her. Chances are she wouldn't be interested but she might have been into it. If she wasn't interested you'd have lost nothing over not trying and gained a little experience. If she was interested, even better. Standing out from the norm is one thing that gets noticed, it shows you don't really care. A lot of girls like these sort of things (to a certain degree). Not t…
/r/askTRP26/03/15 09:47 PM
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In my opinion TRP isn't as much about what a woman should be, but more about how you can be the man that attracts the women you want. Still i'm willing to describe my dream lady. Do you want the realistic idea or the unicorn one?
/r/askTRP26/03/15 08:54 PM
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Thanks for the update man! It does sound weird that you ask her about threatening to bang other guys and she dodges the question. This would be a red flag for me. If it comes up again, make sure she genuinely answers the question at hand. I'd say this is another failed test. If I were you i'd read up on what /u/prodigyx has been writhing. The Blackknight path seems like a good way to proceed if you want to continue with this. If OP wants to get to the bottom of this...or how he should have handl…
/r/askTRP24/03/15 10:00 PM
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Thanks again man. A lot of old info but put in a realistic situation for me. Helps me a lot. Putting the trickle truth in perspective. Lets hope I will spot it when it happens to me. The black knighting part is golden. Something so devious wouldn't even enter my mind unless I was actively trying to fuck with someone. Great stuff. You take control and show her that there is no way out. Take the role of the SJW and see how it plays out. Loving it. Great lessons here. Saving this thread and will de…
/r/askTRP24/03/15 09:55 PM
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Thanks man! Didn't expect you to reply for some reason. Reading your story now. I agree that this guy hitting on her like that out of nothing is a stretch. It didn't occur to me to question that. I've seen guys do shit like that but to assume this is one of those rare guys is silly on my part. It's more likely that she's at least been flirting with him. You see this as a pointer for cheating. Wouldn't it be more likely that it is a validation test? The other guy flirted with her, validated her. …
/r/askTRP24/03/15 08:35 PM
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Thank you man! This was just the other perspective i was looking for. I don't know if you want to discuss this any further, but in case you would, ill write this response. Your view is entirely valid but just wouldn't occur to me so fast. Guess i'm still learning and a bit naive at times. I agree that helping her wasn't a good move. I also see this as a test and one that he failed. Lets say I was OP and he had my relationship; I would disqualify this guy as someone my gf would hook up with. She …
/r/askTRP24/03/15 08:32 PM
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Since balalasaurus doesn't explain this to me, would you be so kind? To my knowledge, Trickle-truth is when a chick slowly but steady start to confess about stupid shit she's been doing, like cheating. Maybe the 'if we fuck your bf will never know' part could be a cue for this, other than that I don't see anything to support this. Even the guy never said he actually banged her. If I fucked a girl who's dating a BB and he confronted me, I'd tell him. The fact that the only reply this guy made was…
/r/askTRP24/03/15 07:42 PM
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Would you care to elaborate on why you think this?
/r/askTRP24/03/15 03:51 PM
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Good luck man! Saving it and will be checking for updates.
/r/askTRP24/03/15 02:49 PM
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One of the things is that you don't want to lose her. Now that is a good thing in a LTR, dont get me wrong. But if she knows this she can use this power to influence and manipulate you. She used to give you BJ's, you want BJ's, she doesn't give BJ's. This is the time to decide whether you want to stay with a chick that doesn't want to do something you like for the sake of testing you, or if you rather put the relationship at risk. If you decide to put the relationship at risk, you show her that …
/r/askTRP24/03/15 02:19 PM
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There isn't a flowchart for this. It kind of depends on the social situation and culture. If I were to place me in your situation I'd first question my GF's story. Is she really being harassed or does she just want me to validate her by getting up in some other guys face? I probably wouldn't have texted that guy. It's her problem. She is a grown up, she can handle shit like this herself. Once the situation escalates from verbal towards physical would it be a cue for me to intervene. When it gets…
/r/askTRP24/03/15 02:02 PM
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Denying you are depressed and suffer from (social) anxiety while you actually have it serves no purpose. It is good you know yourself and that you are going to work on it. Having certain (dis)ability's or whatever don't make you RP or BP, how you deal with it that judges this. Just be sure to stay truthful to yourself. It's good to turn something seen as bad into something good, but to think you are superior because you have a depression sounds weird to me. Then again, I don't really know your s…
/r/askTRP23/03/15 08:54 PM
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Think about what you feel like being a man is all about and compare this 'uber men' to yourself. Find points you need to work on in order to become more like this ideal. If it is martial arts like /u/frequentlywrong suggested, which is a great suggestion, go do it, do it frequently and become good at it. If it isn't martial arts but something like philosophy, arts, or music, it's the same story. Go become great at it. It's equally important to train your mind as well as your body. A great body b…
/r/askTRP22/03/15 08:55 PM
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Dutchy here, around Utrecht. Went to the VMBO, did MBO, finished HBO, a lot of VWO/University friends. We all grew up in the suburbs. Most of my friends have (very) wealthy parents, my own folks are 'only' a bit above average. If you lost your virginity after 18 you were considered pretty late. Everyone was getting drunk and fooling around all the time. A lot of bro's and sluts, regardless of level of education. The big difference would be that at my school everyone would know who the slutty gir…
/r/askTRP16/03/15 08:20 PM
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Depends on what version of DND you guys play.
/r/askTRP12/03/15 10:22 PM
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You are good man. Her 'you know I don't care' was probably meant for support. "we broke your dick, but it's all good'. Your attitude of still not giving a shit showed her that you don't care either. Is she aware that you were the source of the blood? I don't think it matters much, but i'm just curious. You didn't break frame by breaking your dick while fucking a chick. Braking frame is something emotional. You remained stoic and calm. You'd have broken frame if you called 911 and asked for a amb…
/r/askTRP09/03/15 06:50 PM
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The begging and pleading can still come, depending on a few things. On the other hand, maybe she just wasn't that into you. From what I understand from your story, you were a steady provider that gave her everything she wished for. I could be wrong, but I see your list like this: I listened to the emotional talk from my GF and believed it. I did a lot of stuff for her that she should be doing for herself or for us. I provided everything she wished for. I was one of her girlfriends. It doesn't ma…
/r/TheRedPill03/03/15 02:59 PM
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I definitely understand how rebound weight can be highly demotivating. Just try to focus on the long term instead of the short term. There are ways to lose weight in a few weeks, but it always comes back. This diet is more of a lifestyle change. If you keep this up weight will never come back unless you want it and adjust your diet. I fluctuate a lot with weight as well. There can be a 4kg difference in about a week. But when I take each weeks average, it shows a steady increase. Keep it up man!…
/r/askTRP28/02/15 03:51 PM
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I'm afraid I have no experience with obesity in any way. All the bodily reactions that come with it are new to me. So you'll have more knowledge about that than I do. But water weight is just water and even a slow metabolism can't make 3000c into 4000c right? If you were to do this diet for two months and weigh once a day. Would you see a (slight) decrease in weight on a average?
/r/askTRP28/02/15 09:51 AM
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Oh haha, that sounds weird. Do you have more info on this? To my current understanding that can't happen. As far as I know, even if your metabolism slows, a calorie is a calorie. Just make sure to eat at a 500c deficiency and putting weight back on shouldn't happen. You might fluctuate the first few weeks but within a few months your body should be perfectly adapted to the new eating habits.
/r/askTRP27/02/15 10:41 AM
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I'm not sure what rebound weight is? Like when you stop dieting and go bad to the old ways you will regain fat? If that is the case, you just don't stop with the diet.
/r/askTRP26/02/15 11:35 PM
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Thats why the rest of us is here, to help. In short, fill out the calculator on the right. I didn't read the article so i'm not sure if that provides any good information. The BMI is your body mass index, a tool to quickly calculate if you are at a healthy weight. It has it's flaws, a bodybuilder can get a very high BMI and be considered 'overweight' while he he's toned as hell. For normal people it can be useful at times. The BMR is what your body would burn in while not doing much. Your TDEE i…
/r/askTRP26/02/15 10:37 PM
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Hi there! Did you calculate your TDEE and are you eating a 500c deficiency? Do you track your macro's and nutrients? Are you only/mostly eating lean foods? Do you still push yourself to the limit when working out? What is your goal and how do you keep track of reaching this?
/r/askTRP26/02/15 09:34 PM
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Ah, if this is the case, it's all good and well. Sucks that she uses the grey area, you guys didn't talk about her sleeping with guys so that makes it fine to do. Seems pretty AWALT. I only learned that things like TRP and the Manosphere excited while I was in a committed relationship. I wasn't all that alpha but I did have my doubts about how society was trying to shape me and how it should be. It wasn't a coherent philosophy, more like a bunch of observations and half assed theories. Putting t…
/r/askTRP25/02/15 07:11 PM
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I agree with you that if she's a plate, she is 'allowed' to ride any cock she wants. Just like you are allowed to hook up. Were you actively spinning plates while being with her? Was there any from of exclusivity? I think I'd try the same approach as you described. You aren't butthurt, you want to know what's going on. Whether or not she can explain her behaviour is another thing.
/r/askTRP25/02/15 01:36 PM
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Will you talk to her about this, or will you just silently demote her to a casual plate? I'm still curious to why she would hook up with her ex when your relationship with her is as you described. Is it just a chick riding the cc or is she trying to swing branch? Good job on keeping a clear head man.
/r/askTRP25/02/15 01:25 PM
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If she sees you as the big alpha, why does she jump in bed with the ex? How's the sexlife between you two? Are you sure you are not the beta bucks providing for her while she keeps hooking up with her AF ex? I mean, when she says she can't meet up and you jump in the car to drive to her, while she's being fucked by another guy. Do you consider her a ltr gf or what is the deal? If you spin plenty of plates on the side, start considering her as just another plate and stop caring who she sleeps wit…
/r/askTRP25/02/15 01:03 PM
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The way I read it, you basically answer your own question. You look for that one special lady that isn't like all of the others. You are hunting for a unicorn. While you are looking for this one, you also tend to see every lady that has any interest in you as this potential unicorn. This turns you, like you've said yourself, in a beta boy looking for validation. This is the opposite of what you need for a abundance mentality. When you believe that AWALT, the mythical unicorn dies. No more lookin…
/r/askTRP23/02/15 12:38 PM
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You sure you have swallowed the pill man? You seem really insecure. Hope it works out for you! Good luck.
/r/askTRP18/02/15 01:19 PM
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Your welcome man! Hope it helps. If escalating and kino still won't work, we can break the interaction down even more. Have fun out there!
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:35 PM
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I guess that's your answer, at least for now. You probably are hot enough to attract attention. You are social enough to talk with for a while. But if you don't use that opening to escalate and start kino they will probably get bored and go do something else. They probably see you as another 'nice guy' or maybe even an orbiter. This is the time where you should give them the idea that you are a high value, confident, sexual beast. This is the point where they subconsciously decide whether or not…
/r/askTRP16/02/15 02:20 PM
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Thanks for explaining man. I'm on mobile now so sorry for weird typos and format and such. Do you wait for girls to approach you or do you actively try to single one out? If you get looks and smiles this usually means a chick wants to be approached. If you talk to one of those girls, do you escalate? Are you making some physical contact with her? Does she do the same with you? Are you making her smile? Do you let her talk a lot about her self while keeping some form of mystery about yourself? Do…
/r/askTRP16/02/15 01:49 PM
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Hi man! Before I try my best to analyse this I just want to make sure whether or not you've read the sidebar material and how familiar you are with RP techniques.
/r/askTRP16/02/15 01:33 PM
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Only if you have a big problem with it for whatever reason. Might be a sign that she is more of a plate than a actual LTR gf but ending a valued relationship over this seems silly to me. On the other hand, a lot of guys here find that auto-nexting is the answer to every problem.
/r/askTRP15/02/15 09:14 PM
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Thanks for the advice and the explanation! Will keep it in mind.
/r/askTRP05/02/15 09:51 AM
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Ok, so you agree that she shouldn't be his LTR and should be reduced to a plate? Instanext might be what works for you, I don't think nexting is the answer to every question, but each their own. You should really work on your temper man. Improving yourself should probably include this.
/r/askTRP04/02/15 11:40 PM
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Well, seeing how my response triggered some reactions, my advice might not be the best around man. Anyhow, I'd be wary about keeping her as your LTR or only girl, especially if they are still this close. If she still keeps him around it's either for a back-up, or she likes to have an orbiter. So while I wouldn't recommend to get all hung up on this chick, I don't see a reason why to next her if you can just keep her around. Plate her, her past shows she's ok with that.
/r/askTRP04/02/15 11:33 PM
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Is it really that blue pill to not care about the sexual history of a chick you are banging? He's not going to marry her, she's just his number one girl for the last five months. I agree that she should be a plate or used to practice RP material. If OP keeps his stuff together she will probably lose interest in the band guy all together.
/r/askTRP04/02/15 11:29 PM
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So much anger. Go lift and get it out of your system man. Why would it matter. She's just a chick. As long as OP stays the dude she wants to bang there shouldn't be any trouble as far as i'm concerned. Being butthurt about this will only be a big sign of being a insecure beta boy imho. I wouldn't recommend keeping her as his only option, but since they've only been together for five months, I assumed that wasn't the case (but assumptions usually are wrong). Anyhow, so now that you've so masterfu…
/r/askTRP04/02/15 11:26 PM
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You'd rather go sulk that some girl had sex with some guy? I honestly don't see a problem with people having a sexual past. But maybe L O L gfto is a way better option. Great feedback man.
/r/askTRP04/02/15 11:13 PM
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This affects you because you value their opinion. If the remark is made by someone admirable it is logical that this sticks. In your case, I suspect that you place value in everyone's opinion, maybe due to low confidence or something. The 'trick' is learning that no one opinion matters until they've proven them self worth of such value. Learn to value yourself by your own standards, not of those of others, especially worthless people. When you stop caring about them you won't feel the need to ev…
/r/askTRP03/02/15 05:47 PM
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You might get the rage phase sometime. I think it has something to do with how much you need to change in order to become RP. If you were a true BB guy and you honestly believed that you had it figured out but somehow it didn't work, at some point you stumble on TRP and you try to ignore it. It keeps coming back into your mind and after some time you can't continue to lie to yourself. Now this realization could cause anger. Lets say you had a few LTR's that all went sour. The only thing you ever…
/r/askTRP02/02/15 11:46 PM
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You are right. Every social stigma should be examined. To agree with a taboo for the sake of agreeing is nonsense. But while I am aware that social taboo's aren't necessarily logical, doesn't mean that I've had the time or awareness to examine every one for myself yet. MGTOW right? Guess paying for sex could be another one of those things.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/15 10:49 AM
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Great read. I don't have an interest in paying for sex but that's probably because it is a social taboo. I've talked to guys that fuck hookers, but none of them ever made a strong case about why that would be better than a ONS or a plate. For me, this is an eye opener. I probably won't be running to the red light district any time soon, but you make a strong point. Thanks for sharing!
/r/TheRedPill30/01/15 11:10 PM
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I think the advice is the same as always. Read the sidebar material. Get your life in order. Improve yourself. Besides that, more questions could/should be asked at /r/asktrp Good luck man!
/r/TheRedPill30/01/15 09:29 PM
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You are correct about the spying.but breaking up with her because you are scared she might lie, isn't all that alpha either imho. You can always decide to break up with her, I'd say there is still room for her to see the error of her way. Tough choice. Good luck man!
/r/askTRP27/01/15 01:38 PM
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Lying sucks and should be dealt with. But I would advice against going crazy over a little lie. It's part of human nature. I've never met a person that was totally truthful. I see some other comments telling you to next her. If she is a LTR and you like her for more than just sex, you should work on it. Nexting is the easy way out. If she's just a plate you could next her. If this is a girl you actually care about, try to work it out. Just find out if this is a stupid mistake on her side or if s…
/r/askTRP27/01/15 01:14 PM
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Sorry dude! misinterpretation. Let me read it again. Ok, re-read it now. Guess the first part still applies. I'd say she's feeling guilty about something or she's looking for excitement. Maybe she just wanted to lie about one little thing and when you confronted her about it, she had to lie about another thing to give the first lie some credit. If this keeps escalating she will wind up in a web of lies that just stops making sense after a while. The same way that kids will cover one lie with ano…
/r/askTRP27/01/15 12:33 PM
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Probably because she feels guilty about something. It could be something innocent like not wanting to rub your nose into all the fun she's having without you. Could be that she's just bored and this is a way for her to add some excitement. Breaking up over a text conversation usually is a bad idea. A lot goes missing over text. Sit her down when she comes back and let her explain herself. If she throws a tantrum about spying on her, don't lose your frame. Don't explain yourself while she's angry…
/r/askTRP27/01/15 12:25 PM
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Confidence. This is a important skill. It doesn't matter what you are capable off. If you don't have confidence you will never shine as bright as you can.
/r/askTRP26/01/15 07:00 PM
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Yes, are you sure you've swallowed the red pill? This sounds like blue pill in disguise. But if this is what makes you happy, do so by all means. Just don't pretend it has anything to do with being alpha.
/r/askTRP26/01/15 06:57 PM
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She isn't. She is a single mother. Everyone is too good for her except some sorry ass beta boy. She probably wasn't lying, but that doesn't matter! Never listen to what a woman says, look at what she does. Forget her words, look at her actions. What does that tell you? Get over her. She doesn't matter. she is garbage. Work on yourself and stop trying to validate you through her. It's useless. Until you figure this out, have fun wallowing in self pity I guess. Maybe you should just meet up with h…
/r/askTRP26/01/15 02:24 PM
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get along with like her? Like being played with all the time. To get ditched more often than not. To hear lovely words without anything to back it up. Yeah, sounds like a dream man. Hope you will find something like that again... You question everything about yourself because you made your value dependent on her opinion. You were looking for validation, desperately. She sometimes gave you that validation. Yaaaay, validation from a worthless person. So you will have these doubts for a while. That…
/r/askTRP26/01/15 02:05 PM
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You still care about what she thinks? Wow... Well, at this moment you are a pathetic sap. So if you want her to get a different impression of you, you need to work on yourself. If you do this with her as your motivation - 'I will turn my life around and be the best i can be so I can provide for her (while she's going out fucking alpha jocks)' you could succeed at this. I do recommend to unsubscribe from TRP because you are trying to become the ultimate white knight beta bucks provider. If your m…
/r/askTRP26/01/15 01:50 PM
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What you say makes sense. If that is the case, you should work on your confidence as well. For me, this was a great way to holding frame when meeting new women. I don't necessarily see them as naughty, just as kids. I don't know what kind of person they are until I interact with them. But regardless of character, I sure ass hell won't take everything/anything they say seriously. The only way someone can kick you out of your frame is when you place value in what they say. If you were walking down…
/r/askTRP26/01/15 01:40 PM
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This is probably because you care about what she is saying. The thing that works best for me is just to see them as 6 year olds. They can talk and sometimes they make sense. When they explain what they are doing or feeling it can be cute. Whenever they say something stupid I'll laugh about it or make it even more stupid.
/r/askTRP26/01/15 01:28 PM
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Yes, you fucked up. But hey, you are young and everyone fucks up sometime. Be glad you learned this lesson at this age instead somewhere in your late 50's. So, you constantly walked into her frame. You orbited her like no other, you were the picture perfect example of a beta bucks. So you are blue pill as can be. Bright side; you know this. So, try swallowing the red pill once more and take a hold of your life. Work on yourself, grow confident, get a alpha state of mind. Just the entire beginner…
/r/askTRP26/01/15 01:22 PM
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If you don't have a job, than that is an obvious start I guess. I think it would be kind of hard to become an alpha male while you are 100% depended from others. I'm not in your position, so it's hard to judge. But getting a job, moving out, working out, and getting more social should be doable in a year, right?
/r/askTRP25/01/15 11:42 PM
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You begin by prioritizing. What do you want and what do you need to accomplish this? For me, i'd say moving out and becoming independent would be step one. Look at what you can rent with the money you make with your current job and move out. Go into monk mode after you move out and start working on yourself big time. Grow confident. Start working out. Start talking to people, practice on people you will never see again. Improve your knowledge. Look for a better/more suitable job. When all of thi…
/r/askTRP25/01/15 10:52 PM
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If you ever need a pep talk! You know where to find me/us!
/r/askTRP21/01/15 10:13 PM
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I feel for you man. I hope you manage to pull trough, not only for your sake but also for your kid. Give her a proper male role model. A lot of kids these days don't have that. Stay strong!
/r/askTRP21/01/15 09:52 PM
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It's ok to acknowledge you've made a mistake. What you said is a good way to handle it. You admit you did something wrong while you didn't say sorry. There are better ways but this is a great start. Just let her go mental. Picture her as a 6 year old at the grocery store while she can't get her favorite cereal or something. Let her scream, let her throw a tantrum. You are doing the right thing by manning up. But like it will be a challenge to you, it will also be a challenge for her.
/r/askTRP21/01/15 09:25 PM
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From her perspective you are the one doing something weird. She is doing the same thing she has been doing the last 6 years, and all of a sudden she isn't allowed to do that anymore? O hell no. It's the same as with kids. If a kid is being a brat to you, and you let him be that way for a long time, when you finally stand up for yourself it looks to him like you are being the douchebag that doesn't let him do what he has always done. Every change will be met with resistance. This is just a small …
/r/askTRP21/01/15 09:10 PM
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You can be the best man you can be. You can be his inspiration. When he opens himself up to it, if he agrees that this lifestyle is better than his current one, you can coach and mentor him. Trying to force your beliefs onto him will probably just back fire. The only person who's actions you can control are your own.
/r/askTRP21/01/15 08:39 PM
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No, I think she was subconsciously trying to see whether he would be an orbiter.
/r/askTRP20/01/15 04:28 PM
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You know the dynamics of your relationship with her better than I do. I can only give examples. Do what feels best :-) You have the abundance mentality, so even if everything goes to crap with his one, nothing will be lost. Good luck mate
/r/askTRP19/01/15 08:51 PM
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Pump'n dump.
/r/askTRP19/01/15 08:41 PM
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I picked a agree and amplify because I couldn't think of a good disagree and amplify but I can give it a shot (yes, it won't be a masterpiece that will send your ass laughing but it's something). "Please don't bring your friends. I had this whole date planned out. A choir was going to serenade us, bystanders would release white doves, I would proclaim my everlasting love to you and afterwards you would pay for coffee. Another week of my life wasted on planning this. How will you make this up to …
/r/askTRP19/01/15 08:39 PM
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You could disagree and amplify if that is more your thing. Just make sure to ridicule the idea.
/r/askTRP19/01/15 08:23 PM
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The question if she could bring one of her friends is a shit test and I doubt whether your passed it or not. I think there are a few ways to go. You can let her know you aren't down for a big chick meeting. Your suggested response would be something like that, but after a 'strong' response from her side like "I'm not a bank", a statement like "We will drink coffee" might come across as an order. I think that might backfire. How about you respond something along the lines of "Ok, bring your frien…
/r/askTRP19/01/15 08:17 PM
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You lift on and off for about a year? That's a good first step. You are used to it. Now it's time to push it a bit further and go on a regular basis. Start with 2 or 3 times a week and see how that goes. I understand that you are not happy with being beta and that you consider it despicable. The only thing I doubt is whether or not its truly intolerable. If it was, how come you haven't made the changes you say you need? Realizing what you are doing and knowing what you want to change are great s…
/r/askTRP19/01/15 07:21 PM
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Sounds to me like you know what to do. You are just stuck on actually doing it. Have you tried taking it slow? Look for small things that are close to or even inside your comfort zone. Work at those things until you are comfortable enough with them to continue to something new. After a while doing new things should be one of the things inside your comfortzone and will probably speed up the process. How about you just start with something like working out, preferably lifting. You feel better, you…
/r/askTRP18/01/15 10:32 PM
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Probably has something to do with how you view woman and how you view yourself. If you truly belief that you are the prize and that whatever lady you pick to be around you is the lucky one, you probably wouldn't fall head over heels in love. Whenever this happens, just try to bang has asap and find out that they are just chicks. That might make you realize that falling in love without them proving to be 'love-worthy' is a waste of time. By the way, are you sure you aren't confusing 'wanting to f…
/r/askTRP14/01/15 11:17 PM
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So you orbit one girl and get stood up on dates by others but you keep inviting them? I think you might need to work on the basics.
/r/askTRP12/01/15 09:09 PM
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I'd say go to /r/theredpill and start at the sidebar under 'New here?' First link is this one http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/12v1hf/almost_a_hundred_subscribers_welcome_newcomers/ Read all the things in that list. After that proceed to the 'REQUIRED THEORY READING'. When you come across things you don't understand, this is the place to ask about it. I'd say that would be a good start for taking the red pill.
/r/askTRP11/01/15 09:13 PM
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So, whats your question?
/r/askTRP11/01/15 08:59 PM
1

Had to make it up from the context haha. Honest mistake. Google only gave me information about a local football club or something.
/r/askTRP10/01/15 02:18 AM
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Ah, you've come from way up Beta Bucks hill. Must be hard. I feel for you. Thanks for explaining it. Well done on finding and excepting TRP! In this I'd only stronger recommend to take it slow and steady. Learning it is one thing, mastering it is a whole other. Take your time to see what works for you and how to best make use of everything. There is no need to learn in all in a day. I know I couldn't do it.
/r/askTRP10/01/15 02:16 AM
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Its your frame. If you want to play at least 1 more game to get what was promised you can do so. I probably wouldn't go with it. I'd see if I could get something more out of it. You've won the first round, so dinner is set. Play a best out of three for something else. Maybe something like first round of drinks after dinner?
/r/askTRP10/01/15 02:12 AM
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I have no idea what a AFC is, but I suppose it something you need to be smart for, or at least process a lot of information. I usually try to take in all the information at once but this is has produced a less that satisfactory effect on several occasions in the past. Taking it slow and steady just is the way I learn I guess. You might process things faster than I do but if you have a information overload than taking a slower pace is about the only thing I can think off. If you've read those boo…
/r/askTRP10/01/15 02:05 AM
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A lot of RP knowledge was all ready mine before I actually found TRP, so I think I might not have gone through quite the same amount of information. Of course there was a lot of new material a well. It combined a lot of theories I had found on my own and turned it into a proper philosophy/lifestyle. Now I did, and do, suffer from a information overload from time to time. When I just found TRP sidebar material was definitely one of those times. The way I handle situations like this is just to let…
/r/askTRP10/01/15 01:46 AM
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It depends on you, your frame, the girl, the girl she's referring to, the setting. In general i'd say throw a agree/disagree and amplify. I'd probably go with something like 'Definitely! Glad you noticed her as well! Lets go ask if she's into a threesome!" But if your chick goes batshit crazy over this remark, make something else. If this doesn't throw her off, go with something more ridiculous. There isn't one big optimal answer. If there was, this wouldn't be a hard skill to learn.
/r/askTRP08/01/15 10:12 PM
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Well, this argument should never even have started in the first place. From the moment she throws a shittest at you, you agree and amplify (or whatever way works for you to deal with shittests). If that isn't enough you tell her that you can discuss it when you get back. How would you respond if a six year old would text you that you don't make any money and he's going to sell your house. You don't flip out and tell him he's an idiot. He is, but that's not the case. You laugh at it and tell him …
/r/askTRP05/01/15 11:08 PM
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If you are going to make some drastic changes you need to gently inform her of those. You do not need to explain yourself or get her to validate or like your changes. The rest is just standard RP knowledge. Hold your frame, be a alpha male and don't let her disrespect you. Just make sure you trust her enough to continue your relationship with her.
/r/askTRP05/01/15 11:02 PM
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No, you did everything wrong. You proceeded to be butthurt, you stepped into her frame. This is just a fight between two people as they have always happened. You didn't stand above it, you weren't the calm rock for her ocean of emotion. and you used texting for a serious topic. I don't see much RP behavior here my friend. I agree that she's being a bitch, I agree that she has her head up her ass, I agree you should kick her out, I might even have reacted in the same way as you. So while I utterl…
/r/askTRP05/01/15 10:59 PM
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Sound like you have a bad case of oneitis for a chick with plate status. The only reason that you are being submissive is because you let yourself. A lot of guys will tell you to (hard)next her. This might still be the best way to go but before you do that, try to turn her into a good girl. Hold frame, establish boundaries, let her know what you want, and stop acting like a BB! You know better than that and you probably are. You are getting disrespected and you allow it. If you next her now you …
/r/askTRP05/01/15 10:40 PM
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The fairytale guys believe what they say. Just like redpillers believe what they say. Don't focus on what other people tell you. do what works out for you. I know that telling you this is a contradiction in itself but its nonetheless true. On this sub the focus is on rationality and in that light looking for 'that one special person' just isn't an option. If you choose to live rationally with just that hint of fairytale in mind, then you are still better off than those BB boys. Who knows, maybe …
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 10:36 PM
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The odd of finding such pizza or partner are at such low odds i consider it a waste of my time to actually act upon it. That time is better spend learning how to make a great pizza yourself or how to form a average partner into a great partner. Same goes for the afterlife. While I wouldn't dislike it for there to be such a place I don't count on it. Instead of wasting this life hopping the next one will be good, I just try to enjoy the hell out of this one :-) So, whats your take on this?
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 09:44 PM
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No worries, I'm native but not in a English speaking country. Anyhow, you aren't alpha here. You keep on asking questions, you are giving off signs of insecurity. You are giving her the feeling she is a prize that you are trying to guard while it should be the other way around. Think of the abundance mentality. You don't care what she does because if the screws you over its her loss, not yours. If you feel the need for it, play a little dread game. I suppose she has access to the internet. Go ou…
/r/askTRP05/01/15 09:35 PM
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More of a philosophical question but that doesn't make it less interesting. I'll make my answer kind of short. There are plenty of potential partners in the world and while there might be a few that connect with you on all the levels you'd like, those will probably be hard to find. But that doesn't mean you can't find someone that connects with you on a acceptable level and you mold that one into a person that hits the spot. It's just like frozen pizza. There might be a shop somewhere that sells…
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 09:26 PM
0

Do you mean trickle truth or is tickle truth something i'm unfamiliar with?
/r/askTRP05/01/15 09:17 PM
1

What is the question here?
/r/askTRP05/01/15 09:07 PM
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Well, for starters you need to improve yourself. If you like this girl you don't want some unstable, emotional, betabuckboy as her boyfriend now do you? Have you read any of the sidebar material? All the things you have done and want to do are the opposite of what TRP tries to teach you. If I know anything about chicks, and people overall, you just showed her that you cant deal with tension and pressure, you can start to ignore her for no reason, you aren't willing to talk about problems and the…
/r/askTRP16/12/14 07:29 PM
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Part of the red pill way is cutting out the parts of life that hold you back. If your relationship is one of those you should do it. If your relationship was serious you might not want to have this conversation over the phone. It's to easy to hang up, for both sides, and you miss out on all the body language. Even if the relationship has gone bad, ending the relationship can be a great opportunity to practice your alpha behavior, like holding frame and passing shit tests. Just remember how you a…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 07:41 PM
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You don't. You don't learn anything from that. What you want to do is to sit her down, tell her why you are annoyed with her, that she's disrespecting you, what you expect from her and all the while you maintain frame. Just ignoring her because she pissed you off will make her think you are just a little boy shying away from confrontation and it wont solve anything for you. Hope this helps :-)
/r/askTRP10/12/14 07:28 PM
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Well done on holding your frame mate!!! Real nice! My guess about explaining her body language would be that she was hoping you would initiate contact, she feared you might be angry with her and she was building up courage to slowly initiate contact again. This is exactly what you were hoping for. Acknowledging her is good. Now she knows you aren't actually angry, you just don't really care. Several initiations of contact from her side means that she likes you, at least to a certain degree, and …
/r/askTRP02/12/14 11:42 PM
1

Yeah, I suppose that's one way of phasing. I don't like to be degrading but each his own :-)
/r/askTRP29/11/14 06:39 PM
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Tell her that her current lifestyle isn't healthy and it makes her unattractive. Don't think you are a douche because of this. It's natural. Your subconscious looks for woman that would provide healthy babies. Being fat indicates that there is something wrong and therefor it's a natural response that you lose attraction. I like my partner to be able to take care of me. Now lets suppose this is also true for you. How do you suppose your partner would take care of you while she couldn't even care …
/r/askTRP28/11/14 10:44 PM
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There are girls at your school right? I don't see why you couldn't approach there. If things work out, go to her place. If you feel like living with your folks is a negative part of your life than move out. Older girls are great learning material as well. Being weird isn't a bad thing, just be confident about it. Don't aim for weird chicks, aim for every chick. At this point you don't want to narrow down your playing field, you want to expand it. I'm not even sure what i'm reading. Dafuq is a ge…
/r/askTRP28/11/14 09:39 PM
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If you are improving yourself you are on the right track my friend! Are you sure there aren't girls nearby you could approach? Even if its just for the experience. Think grocery store, train station, coffee shop, whatever. The better version of yourself you become the more they will respond to you. If you want to bang a certain type of girl you might want to rethink about that. The more experience you gain now the more you will profit later on. To answer your question; yes. When you are a few ye…
/r/askTRP28/11/14 09:28 PM
1

Fucking chicks shouldn't be your goal. Being the best you can be should be your goal. Once you are a epic version of yourself chicks will follow. If you just want to fuck chicks you should check out the whole PUA scene. Start being great now. Start working out, build confidence, approach, learn from failure, read TRP material, focus on things that make you proud, become great at something. If you only focus on learning and grades now while postponing the becoming great part you will just be a gu…
/r/askTRP28/11/14 09:06 PM
2

Not your fault mate. I just re-read it for the fourth time and I just kept missing the he part. My bad! Thanks for the explanation!
/r/askTRP28/11/14 08:39 PM
1

I'd like more context as well, but it seems to me that she is comparing him to her girlfriends. Maybe even a little shit test. What are you seeing that I'm missing?
/r/askTRP28/11/14 08:28 PM
1

Thanks :-) Yes, I was referring to that. I seem to misunderstand. You said that what he wrote will increase his social proof and get women and that he reminds you of you a few years ago. To me this looks like you are saying that a few years ago you would be typing stuff like this, this increased your social proof and got you women. If this is not the case, what makes you think that this will get him women? Well, if some parts of TRP instead of all of it make you the best you can be, its a win ri…
/r/askTRP28/11/14 08:27 PM
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Depends on his environment I suppose. If cheesy shit like this gets him a higher social status in a male group chicks will react to that. Where I'm from you wouldn't have a decent social status after something like this. Just out of curiosity, if doing stuff like that got you ladies and all, why take TRP? Chicks wouldn't stick, or just for self improvement?
/r/askTRP28/11/14 08:09 PM
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They like it. The way they like beta orbiters. They get the sense that they are valued and likable. It doesn't make them crave for him or give them tingles in lady parts.
/r/askTRP28/11/14 07:27 PM
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i've seen plenty 8/10 by looks that are insecure. Attitude is just as important as your physique, maybe even more. Confidence has everything to do with it. If you are good looking but lack confidence it will be pretty damn hard to be an 8. The only people who are treated differently are the people who demand that they will be treated differently. Ugly dudes with high SMV will get laid, while having money will up your SMV a ugly dude with a normal income but who still have high SMV will get laid …
/r/askTRP24/11/14 09:47 PM
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A 8+ guy on looks but who is insecure won't get laid. While a ugly guy but with high SMV will get laid. It's good that you know that this is how it works for you. Not everyone can be Alpha :-) If every guy was a Alpha than there wouldn't be Alphas. So for that matter is good that a lot of guys settle for being beta. So thank you for being Beta, I guess.
/r/askTRP24/11/14 09:30 PM
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Why stop there? Just throw out everyone that thinks its a discussion worth having every fucking year again and again.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/14 05:24 PM
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The Netherlands and come on over ;) I don't mean to say we don't have our problems but at least shit like this isn't popular.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/14 04:27 PM
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Hahaha, this whole rape culture thing. What the hell is wrong with woman. So glad this hasn't caught on yet where I live.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/14 03:47 PM
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A year is a pretty long time to be spending time and energy on a chick. Sure can. I'd say stop conversing with her. Wait until she comes up to you. If she does, you will be in your frame, you have the upper hand and she has to adapt to you. By her coming to you she's saying that she is intrigued, for whatever reason. Maybe she misses you, maybe she wants to say sorry for not responding. It doesn't really matter. All that matters is that from that point on you can take the lead. Tell her that not…
/r/askTRP24/11/14 12:00 AM
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I can :-) Yes, this example is way better. You can use more words if you like, depending on the girl and situation this can come across as harsh or demanding. Something along the lines of "Hi name! I'm looking forward to going out with you this weekend. I'm busy until 2:00 so I will meet you at place around 2:30. Don't forget your whatever obvious thing she needs to bring/do. Well I assumed that on the facts that you knew her for a long time, you've always talked to her, made her laugh yada yada…
/r/askTRP23/11/14 11:36 PM
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You were a orbiter of this girl and now you want to date her. This is a big change and while it could work out, it usually doesn't. The new you should look for new chicks to approach and re-evaluate what he gets out of the current relationship with the 'young lady you fancy'. While I don't know this girl, i'd say that in general when a girl walks away while you try to set a date would be a rejection. No eye contact and not a firm confirmation of the date would back this up. Her not even having t…
/r/askTRP23/11/14 11:11 PM
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When you feel like it. If you are busy the next couple of days than wait a couple of days. If you'd like a companion for your morning coffee tomorrow send it tonight. Some people will say that you should wait at least 1 or 2 days or else you come off as needy, from my personal experience it doesn't make much of a difference.
/r/askTRP18/11/14 10:25 PM
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Text her for a meet up. "Hi! This is DAD_FISTER from the other day. I'll be getting some coffee/breakfast/lunch/whatever at insert local convenient place at insert appropriate time. I think you should join in. See ya Or something along those lines. Use it to suggest a place and time, take the lead. If she can't and doesn't offer a new suggestion she's probably not into you or has other reasons she doesn't want to meet up. Good luck!
/r/askTRP18/11/14 10:06 PM
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Pick up a hobby and become awesome at it. Start lifting. Approach. Read RP material. Good luck!
/r/askTRP10/11/14 08:47 PM
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Why would you be pulling the dread game? Was she losing interest or something? If she's a plate you can do this all you likie since you are not invested. If you say you like this girl for a LTR why would you take this risk? I don't condone the way she responded but I can relate to why she would be pissed. Now what she is saying is pretty much bullshit. She says she's not one of those bitchy girls but she proceeds by being a big fucking bitch. At this point she has you in a pinch. She stated that…
/r/askTRP06/11/14 09:36 PM
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IMHO it's not like whether or not a having sex on the first few dates is the only criteria for being a LTR girl. It should just fall in place in a natural way. There are no specific rules that apply to every situation. For me, if a girl wants to have sex on the first date; so be it. I know what it's like to be horny. If a girl doesn't want to have sex for a good long while, she doesn't have my sex drive so she probably isn't for me. Now what does annoy me is when girls go out of their way to act…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 09:04 PM
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How about not going to that place and just tell her you are going somewhere else? She only suggested that you go there. This means you have a opportunity to take control. Book somewhere else and go there. I guess you shouldn't even tell her you are going somewhere else, she will find out eventually. If you want to go there you can tell her that you are not going to book it with a agree and amplify like 'O sure. I've been waiting all week to make reservations for a place you want to go to. I just…
/r/askTRP04/11/14 07:28 PM
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You are being pretty direct. Lets assume she is into you and she wants to hang out. By telling her she should cheat on her bf/whatever you make it sound like she's some kind of slut. Most chicks don't like thinking that they are sluts so IMO you should steer clear from this. Just let her know when you can hang out, if she's not available she should try to reschedule. If she doesn't I'd say that's a sign she's not into you. If she does, go meet her and try to escalate. If she still sees you as a …
/r/askTRP04/11/14 07:13 PM
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If you are into this try /r/fitness /r/gainit and /r/weightroom They all give solid advice. Now the trick to bulking is eating more than you burn. Get a calorie/bma calculator and start counting the fuckers. If you want to gain weight try to get 500 calories more than you need daily, trying to lose weight, eat 500 calories less. If you want to take it a step further you can start counting macro's. I can recommend http://www.myfitnesspal.com/
/r/askTRP04/11/14 04:57 PM
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Practice frame holding. Don't give in. Learn to spot shit tests and make it a game to pass them. Work on the humor in your agree and amplify. Be prepared to make mistakes. See this girl for what she is. Just some girl. Practice on her. Find out what works for you and what doesn't. Don't be scared to lose her, by trying not to lose her you will most certainly lose her. So learn all you can. Make sure to chat up with other chicks so that when things so sour you can next her without much trouble an…
/r/askTRP04/11/14 12:28 PM
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Well, it's not just your appearance. If you have a hard time applying the advice it's your mentality as well. If you want to get good at a skill you need to practice. Same goes for getting into a alpha state of mind. This girl is great practice material. If you think that things are well for you with her while being her bitch you might want to reconsider what you mean with 'going well'. If you have something specific you find hard to apply, preferably with a scenario you were in, we can try to g…
/r/askTRP04/11/14 12:16 PM
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What do you want to hear? All the advice you need is in trp's sidebar. If you have specific questions it would be a lot easier to give a suiting response. Good luck man
/r/askTRP04/11/14 10:55 AM
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There isn't that one person who is my ultimate role model. I look for traits I find honorable and I try to implement that into my self. So I guess I'm trying to become my own role model. I'm on the right track to become a narcissist I guess.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/14 10:24 PM
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If I were you I would just ignore this. This is like a puppy trying to get your attention in a bad way. Ignoring it can get rid of this behavior. If ignoring her isn't in the real of possibility I guess you should agree and amplify.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 09:56 PM
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I prefer xtc over lsd when wanting a intimate moment. But everyone has his own uses for all kinds of drugs :-) Do what works for you, just don't be a beta. Go up your SMV and convince her she is lucky to be with you, not the other way around. Show her that she isn't the only lady that likes raves and drugs and you can find a new her in no time, just make sure you can back this up. (re)Read the material on the sidebar and improve yourself my friend! Go to the gym and start lifting, get great at s…
/r/askTRP03/11/14 09:52 PM
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Ok. Solid answer. Thanks!
/r/askTRP03/11/14 09:46 PM
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I don't know man, whenever I take acid the last thing on my mind is hitting on people, but that could be me. Anyhow, if you wanted a nice night together with shows of affection you might want to reconsider taking acid that night. For me, this doesn't work. I'm in an whole other world. If she's complaining she didn't take enough acid. If you understood her complains, you didn't take enough acid. So much for my advice on acid. Besides that, here's the same old stuff; By being attached to her you a…
/r/askTRP03/11/14 09:43 PM
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Ok. Thank you for the reply. This didn't make it crystal clear for me but I shall think about this. Not that I'm afraid this offer will be made any time soon or anything. Just food for thought.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 09:05 PM
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Happy birthday dude! In this case you can just tell the truth. 'I didn't invite anyone. They showed up.' Just be clear to yourself that you didn't do anything wrong and have nothing to apologize for. If she doesn't bring it up you shouldn't either. Good luck!
/r/askTRP03/11/14 08:26 PM
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I agree with what the both of you said. I do have a question of my own. Why shouldn't, as a rule, one not go out on a weekend adventure with some girl you met two days ago? I might agree with that in this case, but is this something you recommend at all times? As for now, I just dont see the harm in this.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 08:08 PM
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Don't forget to sleep. No rest is no gainz.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 07:25 PM
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I'm far from a texting expert but if she texts 'i miss you" how about you reply with 'thats sweet, come over to my place'. Or something like that. You can acknowledge that she misses you or even let her know you think its good that she misses you, but if you don't miss her, don't tell her that you do. I'm not a big fan of plates telling me what to do. If she tells me to come over I for sure wont come over. She can come to be, but doing anything that sounds remotely like an order is just a no go.…
/r/askTRP03/11/14 07:21 PM
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Exactly. And while learning those traits I would recommend to review his point of view on staying a virgin.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 07:05 PM
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I agree with you. I doubt the mother would agree as well.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 07:01 PM
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If that is his goal I'd say he should take it further. In the world of naked ladies, sitting next to them watching TV isn't the thing I would say needs the most practice.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 06:59 PM
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Good luck with that! Keep us informed :-D
/r/askTRP03/11/14 12:47 PM
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I agree with you on mostly everything. I can even admire you trying to help this girl. But honestly, how did you expect this to work out? If I were a single dad raising a son and some chick I banged would try to enforce her world vision on him I'd get pretty pissed off.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 11:24 AM
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No problem and I hope I didn't come on to strong. I know you can get over this. You are young and resilient! Taking TRP early means less work in the future ;) It can be a lot of hard work to start improving yourself but damn me if it isn't the most worthy cause.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 11:19 AM
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I mean no offence but your message struck me like you are really insecure and you wonder a lot about how other people think of you. If you are not impressed with yourself, how can other people be? Going to the gym wont solve all of your problems. A better self image will solve a lot of your problems and one way to improve your self image is by going to the gym. You don't become confident over night. It's a process. I, to a degree, can relate to some of your problems. I used to worry a lot about …
/r/askTRP03/11/14 10:44 AM
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Whatever works for you, just do it with confidence :-) But if you have no sexual desire for the these chicks why do you hang out with them and spend your valuable time on them? I'm not saying you are wrong, but are you sure you are in control as much as you think? Chicks coming over, seducing you but not taking the next step? Are you sure you are not being played with and they see you as a orbiter or a beta playmate? A yoga instructor? There would be so many things i'd do with that. Good luck!
/r/askTRP03/11/14 10:28 AM
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Good read. Thanks for sharing!
/r/TheRedPill02/11/14 06:04 PM
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From my experience it helps to have some game here in Holland as well, but it's not critical for success. There are chicks here that judge you by your materialistic achievements but thank god not all of them are that shallow. I drive a Smart for fuck sake and I still get hit on. And what's wrong with a Hyundai. I agree it's not top notch but they do everything they suppose to do. Or do American in general really only like cars produced in America? My mates make fun of me for having a shitty car,…
/r/askTRP30/10/14 10:04 AM
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Yes. I've been living in Europe since I was born. I don't score 9s en 10s weekly but I have a nice captain/first mate thing going on for the last two years with an intelligent 8 (euro standard). But since I've never been to the USA I find it hard to compare, but I'll take your word for it.
/r/askTRP29/10/14 11:49 PM
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American womyn prolly'
/r/askTRP29/10/14 11:24 PM
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Who said they are at the top?
/r/askTRP29/10/14 04:19 PM
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Are you sure the sex is as good for her as it is for you? When i'm done with sex when taking a good amount of time both me and the lady need some time to get back into the real world. If your lady friend can just casually go back to facebook something might be wrong. Not sure about this since I'm not in your bedroom, just something you might need to consider. Not trying to be a jerk, just a sincere thought. Like u/iamjackskeyboard suggested, set rules for when it's not ok to be on the phone. I t…
/r/TheRedPill27/10/14 06:30 PM
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Can you give a scenario from start to finish?
/r/askTRP27/10/14 06:12 PM
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A girl is talking smack, instead of going against it you go with it and make it more extreme. It takes the edge of if and you show that whatever she said is just ridiculous. "I guess a strong woman just scares you" - Yes they do. Like those clowns in horror movies. I just want to scream and run when I see one. Couldn't come up with a better example, but the pro's in here will probably have some better ones :-)
/r/askTRP25/10/14 11:58 AM
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In short, kino is physical contact, kino escalation would be stepping up the kino over time during a date. Start with a hand on the shoulder, later on a hand on the lower back, after that take her hand for some reason. The more the returns these gestures the more you can escalate them. If she doesn't return any of them I think it's a safe guess she isn't that into you.
/r/askTRP20/10/14 05:51 PM
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I can see how the bonding with the family would be an issue but in the end of the day you are dating her, not her family. You didn't take up her time, you spend time together. Better yet, you allowed her to spend her time on you. Now that time has been spend, she turns out to not to be what was expected. You shouldn't see it as time wasted. The time wasted, at least to me, would be the time spend in trying to get something from her that she doesn't want to give. It's good that you see the relati…
/r/askTRP20/10/14 01:33 PM
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Thank you for the clarification. It looks to me that what you want in a lady and how this one is are not compatible. You wanting a old school house wife and she is doing the whole modern woman thing, and probably happy doing so. I'd say chances are pretty low she will be the woman you want her to be, even if make her a plate. I'd say drop her and look for a woman who is more in line with what you are looking for. Good luck!
/r/askTRP20/10/14 01:07 PM
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No, but thank you for your wonderful contribution.
/r/askTRP20/10/14 01:00 PM
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Thank for this! I didn't see woman with a high partner count as a bad thing. I now see that this in itself isn't bad but when you want to LTR her it could cause some future problems.
/r/askTRP20/10/14 12:59 PM
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Are you sure you are looking for a LTR and not a maid? Besides, what do you bring to the relationship? You wrote what she does and doesn't do but I have a hard time reading what your part in the relationship is. Also, I think you will be having a hard time finding someone who will work 9 hours a day, do all the chores, pays rents, makes dinner and dress up for it while giving up her a friends and not complain about being tired. On a side note. When is a partner count to high to be a respectable …
/r/askTRP20/10/14 11:43 AM
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learned some useful things at r/fitness, will be checking out r/bodybuilding. Guess I never looked at that sub because I'm was looking to get fit, not to become a bodybuilder. But now that I am fit I guess this is the next step.
/r/askTRP15/10/14 03:31 PM
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Thanks, will subscribe to those as well. Not looking to become a beast but more information if more better.
/r/askTRP15/10/14 03:30 PM
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I see, makes sense :-) Thanks for the answer.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/14 03:29 PM
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Why link the article and post it as well? Any concrete questions would, at least for me, be more of a motivation to actually read it. Hope someone gives you the answer you are looking for!
/r/TheRedPill14/10/14 07:04 PM
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Kind of depends on a lot of things. Like how often you plan to work out, how devoted you are, how the rest of your day looks, how much sleep you will have and what your diet you will be. If you really want to get into fitness i can recommend visiting /r/fitness. Not that I'm not willing to help you out further but I don't feel this is the right sub. Good luck!!!
/r/askTRP14/10/14 06:49 PM
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Yes, I get that now. As I tried to explain in my reply Tinder and the likes don't do much for me. That's probably why I saw more in it than there was. Thanks for the clarification :-)
/r/askTRP10/10/14 10:15 PM
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Ah, that makes sense. Not to much experience with Tinder and such so I'll take your word for it. If it works it works :-D You are busy, that's good. Keeps you interesting and ups your smv and stuff. She's 22, that's good because when I read your message her response sounded like it could come from a really young girl and I'm glad we've established that's not the case. I think I would stay away from her, but that's just my reaction to chicks telling me they love me soonish, for fun or when seriou…
/r/askTRP10/10/14 10:11 PM
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What did you hope to gain by asking if you were bf/gf? That sounds like something I would like to avoid, especially on Tinder. Even if a chick starts asking you about a relation I would kindly inform her that I'm not looking for a exclusive relation and bla bla bla. What is your angle? What do you want? How old is she? Also, why wouldn't you want to stick your dick in crazy? Some of my better experiences in bed are with crazy. Hoping to hear some more information :-) In the meantime, good luck.
/r/askTRP10/10/14 09:03 PM
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Ah, I can see that. That's something I'd like to find myself someday. But when I realized I didn't believe in 'the one' the whole notion of marriage went out the window for me. Won't there be always someone better for you out there? You keep changing so the woman best for you will change as well. What will be the pro in a marriage? I know I ask a lot of questions but since you are answering I might as well keep asking. Thanks for your time again :-)
/r/askTRP10/10/14 08:18 PM
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Are you sure it's just art and culture? The general message I got from the reading material was that you have to find what you are good at, excel in that and become confident. Chicks like it when you are confident no matter what area, I'd say. Girls are intrigued by men, if you are a sport guy they will like sports, if you are a poet they will like poetry, if you like racing they will like racing. I'm not sure if art is something new here, it's more a example of a applied theory. Not that it mat…
/r/TheRedPill09/10/14 07:25 PM
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Thank you for the answer and the new insight. Never thought about taking the red pill for future purposes but it's nice to think that this material will have benefits later in life. I understand you won't marry the first chick you run into, but what confused me was that you are looking for 'that special someone' for a ltr, both of those are not often seen as a good thing in TRP-world. I think I understand where you are coming from and what TRP does for you, and how it is a good addition to anyon…
/r/askTRP09/10/14 07:11 PM
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I'm afraid I don't have the answer you are looking for because I'm still in the learning process of TRP. But if you don't mind I do have a question for you. Why do you follow TRP if you are not looking for booty or sex. As far as I get it guys become redpillers/alpha to be dominant, this results in submissive lady's with you proceed to have sex with without all the LTR bullshit. I honestly think that taking TRP is about the realization you don't have to settle down and get married. Also; time is…
/r/askTRP09/10/14 03:03 PM
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Totally depends on the situation. Preferable, if she's hot, you turn it into angry sex. In general you should just show that you don't care for their outrageous emotions and just diffuse the situation by keeping calm and remaining stoic.
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