How to react "correctly" to this

LukeMooney · 2015-06-11T13:17:56+00:00

My initial response would be to find articles on things she should be doing to show her love or her respect

NO! do not take this seriously or it shows you lost frame.

I also find the fact that she sent me this kind of disrespectful.

Its a shit test, therefore look at it as a compliment. And respond accordingly. I think just ignore it, having said that, she is going to demand a response at some point, at which point I would say ask her to tell you what it was about, and then what the 20 things were. Hold frame as interested but finding it funny, like a 2 year old showing you a finger painting. Giggle her through it, DO NOT take it seriously or attempt to explain why the article is a piece of shit, just deflect any serious questions regarding this issue. Being right will not get you anywhere. Remaining unaffected is what you should be aiming for. Its funny, so see it as that :)

fnordsnord · 2015-06-11T13:36:39+00:00

Step one: zero response. Ignore completely.

If she follows up or presses, Agree and amplify.

druganswer · 2015-06-11T22:51:51+00:00

I would probably respond with an article stating the health benefits of anal sex or something stupid like that....

jeanclaudevanman · 2015-06-11T13:23:35+00:00

Your wife is reacting to your new 'persona.' This is completely expected and will eventually come as a welcomed challenge once you have a full grasp of the information here.

The key here is to hold your frame. Agree and amplify when she sends you those types of articles. Your wife is the most responsible teenager in the room. You cannot react in an inflammatory manner, after all, she's predisposed to do it. Have fun with it.

_eskimo_brothers_ · 2015-06-11T15:01:09+00:00

I wouldn't respond. This is stuff is pretty much drivel to gain views to sell more ads along the side of the article.

If someone sent me this, I'd send her that other list that's going around "20 things you should be doing for your husband/boyfriend" without any comments, without anything else on my lunch break at work. Then get back to work. Ignore all texts after that. Caveat - Marriage is not something I can honestly say I think is a simple yes/no decision - especially if leaning towards "yes". I believe there is less than a 1% chance I will, and even then protection of one's self is very important.

I fear for your sake, brother. This could be nothing, but if things are rocky, your ship has hit rocks, and your first mate may be questioning your captain abilities. Start reading Rollo's site, the rational male. It's not easy to turn around a relationship where you were beta, and you're married, so things won't be any easier. I think /r/marriedredpill could help you out as well, look through the top discussions there. It will provide many examples, I do feel like trp in itself is required as a foundation though. You'll need to seriously internalize all you can, then when she takes your (the captain's) words without question or anything like that, then you'll be on a stronger path.

DarkTriage · 2015-06-11T15:28:24+00:00

Where's the article? Let's all laugh at it.

Title	How to react "correctly" to this
Author	willpoDO
Upvotes	7
Comments	27
Date	June 11, 2015 1:11 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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