I feel like a fraud.

tourdepook · 2017-03-19T19:25:21+00:00

you've already made a giant step by seeing what 90% of guys here don't. they think that imitating everything RP they read, like agree and amplify, abundance, etc will make them happy and fulfill all their wildest dreams.

the true red pill is 1. recognizing the nature of women, and 2. improving yourself in order to be a better man. I emphasize the you because if you give up who you really are in order to be more "alpha" then you are destroying your soul.

I really enjoy art and wine.. and people here would say that's beta or lame. But who fucking cares? What matters is the mindset. TRP has helped me understand more than anything that how you think is the most important change you can make in your life.

The losers who think "how can I be more alpha" will never be happy. The winners are the ones who embrace their masculinity and who they really are, and are able to fulfill their own mission in life.

Pook said it better than I can!:

And one by one you become yourself, you reconnect all your dreams to the day. You don’t bulk up because women ‘like’ big guys. You do it because that is how you see yourself. You don’t become the life of the party because women ‘like’ those guys. You do it because that is who you are. You do not become Don Juan because that is what women crave, you do it because it is who you are.

romaxyz · 2017-03-19T21:09:53+00:00

You need time.

Living a shitty life is addictive and you'll probably be jumping up and down from "enlightened" to "loser" for a few months until you craft for yourself a new identity.

Just don't get too caught up in the details and strive to do your best 90% of the time, don't worry if your "old you" comes back, try to integrate what you are right now with what you want to be, then you'll feel truer to yourself.

Eternasphere · 2017-03-19T23:43:21+00:00

Everyone wears masks in fact, the whole world is a grand chaotic masquerade. Your true self is your best self, it lies somewhere in your potential. It has less to do with holding onto baggage from your past.

We are people in constant development, so when you are changing, don't fear it, as long as you know you are changing for the better. Take pride in your healthy lifestyle and your dedication. The only reason it feels fake to you is because you've convinced yourself you're doing it for the approval of others, rather than the greater good of yourself.

walawalawa · 2017-03-20T01:22:18+00:00

I totally understand. The word "Fraud" is negative self-talk. It's what brings you down...

I also have these days when all my efforts and hard work pay off and suddenly I feel like....dread...like someone is about to fuck with my shit.

This comes from a very dark place that I'm getting better at recognizing until it passes. Feelings aren't facts.

If you feel great...you'll be great....if you feel bad...it will reflect in your interactions.

What you're feeling is what it's like when you do the right thing and your life gets better....but your subconscious hasn't caught up yet. It will...give it time.

When you have these fraud or panic attacks breathe...pause...then continue, it'll pass like a storm.

At first I was feeling: "Wow I don't deserve an HB 8 or HB9..."

Now I'm dumping them if they give me drama. I see thirsty betas chasing after my leftovers.

I see women throwing themselves at me and me brushing them off....It used to be I would go for everything out of a scarcity mentality.

All of this will start to make sense as long as you understand that a mental reframe where YOU are the prize and YOU have abundance means you can make better choices that are better for YOU.

Don't sweat it...

scramtek · 2017-03-19T23:12:41+00:00

Time. The only difference between a novice and expert is continued dedication to the application of trusted techniques.
It takes time to git gud.
No one ever feels complete. There is always more to learn. There is always more to accomplish.

SpanishDdoc · 2017-03-20T12:10:51+00:00

I think that being an alpha is finding the best version of yourself, develop your interest and skills to the limit and as i see you are trying to learn and improve fields and skills thar are "alphable" because you just want to tryhard to be an alpha not because you actually enjoy it.

Just rethink your objetives and adecuate ir to your personal interest

desno · 2017-03-20T13:13:15+00:00

That way I see it is, like the old saying "Fake it til you make it". If you do this for long enough, you get used to it and it becomes who you are. I adopted this with clothes and other areas. Now I'm comfortable in those areas.

huge_gap · 2017-03-20T16:16:58+00:00

Takes a while until it becomes a part of you naturally.

Red_pill_2017 · 2017-03-20T04:00:23+00:00

I feel you man, but I'm taking it in stride. For example, i went on a volunteering trip, and a team building activity was to go around saying positive things about one another. The main thing about me was that I always seem approachable, content with life, and ready to talk. I am very shy, but currently applying The Charisma Myth ideologies and TRP so i chuckled when i first heard them say that. I always saw myself as cold and hard to talk to, so at first I thought "wow i am fooling all of these people". But then I realized the person who I am currently "pretending" to be is the person who I want to be. and soon enough that will hopefully be the "real" me.

Title	I feel like a fraud.
Author	pandaholic23
Upvotes	28
Comments	16
Date	March 19, 2017 7:10 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/60brvw/i_feel_like_a_fraud/
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