I fucking hate dating

module_process · 2016-10-09T04:12:23+00:00

Read over this thread regarding online dating if you want to keep trying the online thing.

Online dating is shit for men not in the top 20%. Work on that, but until you get there...start approaching in real life. You'll learn from your mistakes if you want it enough.

oldslut · 2016-10-09T08:22:28+00:00

go out and meet women. i've never used any type of online dating--it just seems like such a waste of time--doing all that work to meet someone, just to find out they are much fatter than their online photo?

i much rather see a woman in person, and talk to her first for a couple minutes and then decide... much more efficient.

red-pill-questions · 2016-10-09T15:13:44+00:00

Online dating worked for me, but it was very hard to maintain my status that reeled them all in. At the time, i was in peak physical form, had an incredibly impressive sounding career, huge social network (by my standards)..but as soon as you meet some life setbacks ( unemployment, injury, depression), you're nothing yo those tyoes and of women.

Go outside. Be social. Meet new men and women at the appropriate settings. Practice well-roundedness. Practice speaking with attractive women out of your smv league. Eventually you will raise your smv enough by being social that you will stumble across irl women that are giving you signals they are attracted.

If online dating is not working for you, dont pretend its the end of the world. That's like saying that not being able to get a job online from one of those shitty websites like indeed, craigslist, workopolis means you can never get a job. That's bs. Go to an employment workshop and they will explaim to you how online job postings are only the tip of the iceburg (less than 20%) of the jobs out there. And that the bulk of them are obtained by networking (being social) and meeting with actual employees and employers irl.

The same should apply to dating. Plus, avoiding online women is avoiding the most attention seeking personalities. Their pictures are cherry picked to make them look better and they can hide their personalities. At least if you meet women initially platonically, you can tell immediately if they are your type or not. The ONLY things that makes men prefer online to irl is hating rejection of being placed in the friendzone, reminding youvthat your smv is way too low to be considered a sexual mate. It's a harsh reminder that you need to buckle down and keep raising your smv.

Most men get butthurt when they are reminded their smv is too low and would rather feel like they have "struck out" with an HB8-10 rather than be friends or acquaintances with them and be constantly reminded that they see you as a "cute friend with a great personality who will find a great girl who appreciates him one day". There's no worse feeling... But there's also no better motivator. I got into the best shape of my life when my best friend and gym partner was an HB9. Sadly, i let onitous kick in and trashed the friendship. But while she was my loyal wingwoman, i got so many F closes with other women. I felt the pressure of wanting a more and more attractive sexual partner that i did great.

So ditch the comfort of your cellphone from your livingroom, and go outside and do things with society. Social game.

[deleted] · 2016-10-09T07:34:59+00:00

don't use online dating as your main form of meeting girls first of all. second of all read up on how to make a good profile and how to effectively use online dating in the first place, after I did that, I got much more matches and dates (though its still shit overall). secondly reduce the time you bother with online dating to your spare time, now and then , while you chill and are doing other shit, and use real life as your main source.

online dating isn't impossible, but the rate you will meet girls is so low there isn't much point investing too much in it, in terms of time, or expectation.

Velebit · 2016-10-09T09:13:31+00:00

I don't know man I am not 20% of anything and I still get dates and matches, not even 40 matches. Guess your words don't make them go out with you. You probably don't have a lot to talk about.

Hecticchow · 2016-10-09T12:22:26+00:00

Go out in the real world and meet women.

Snooze212 · 2016-10-09T12:42:36+00:00

Cold approach is the way, my son.

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-10-09T16:04:41+00:00

I'm definitely not top 20%. Lowered expectations brother I.e. Single moms, post wall.

Less texting on internet dating. Text hello, something witty, get the number to text. Text logistics. Rinse repeat.

_MONK_ey · 2016-10-09T17:49:11+00:00

By reading your post, it seems like you are a very negative person. You seem to always be thinking about what you hate, and the negatives of everything. Someone that is mad about trivial stuff is losing frame. You might argue that this isn't trivial. To their frame of reference, someone that is negative probably is so because he fails often.

UntraceableRP · 2016-10-09T20:16:08+00:00

Fuck all the noise about quitting online dating. Here's the thing - your approach to getting them to meet is flawed. Switch it up. Try something new. I usually ask them to coffee in the first 5 messages. I've found what works and doesn't through trial and error. Do the same.

KetoSandwich · 2016-10-10T03:12:40+00:00

If you hate dating, then don't date. Just do your own thing and forget about women for a while. MGTOW is always an option, just do whatever you feel like and go on with life.

Title	I fucking hate dating
Author	TheLonerMan
Upvotes	5
Comments	45
Date	October 9, 2016 3:49 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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