I get ZERO choosing signals.

itiswr1tten · 2020-06-17T13:43:59+00:00

Extremely basic faq. "waiting for the moment to approach" goes home and jacks off, the guy who approaches and strikes while iron is hot gets laid.

You're trying to play the female game with your overinflated ego

kclanton80 · 2020-06-17T13:36:09+00:00

How do you dress, do you have a good haircut, what's your grooming and hygiene like. I noticed you didn't mention these things, and that could be your missing link. Being 6'4 and in shape is good (are you lean?) But you need style as well. Nothing crazy but do you have somewhat stylish, nice fitting clothes and good grooming?

Also what type of facial hair so you have if Any?

YtBlue · 2020-06-17T14:05:27+00:00

You dont know choosing signals. Think of girls like unconfident men. Unconfident men will look and act like they didnt see you but like you, stand near you, etc. If a girl ever has the courage to come up and ask for a guys phone number, you dont want her(unless she did it online).

Protocol_Apollo · 2020-06-17T15:12:58+00:00

This is playing not to lose instead of playing to win.

Don’t rely on choosing signals otherwise you’ll be settling for scraps.

WIA20XX · 2020-06-17T17:41:22+00:00

> Why approach a girl if there are no choosing signals?

Because you are a MAN, not a fucking teenage girl that's afraid of rejection.

freeagent108 · 2020-06-17T13:18:47+00:00

Choosing...what? Dude just try to bang whatever you can.

IXseed · 2020-06-17T13:55:49+00:00

Choosing signals don't mean shit. Go approach.

You prolly do get choosing signals but you're just not noticing them or realize what they look like. Also (and I swear guys need to listen when guys really talk about them) all a "choosing signal" means is the girl likes what she sees. It doesn't mean she wants to fuck you.

How is your approach? Can you go up to a hot bitch and not stutter or do anything goofy? How do you expect to get better at approaching if you sit around waiting for women to give you the "green light" to approach? You're trying to play QB in the Super Bowl without going to practice.

User36474746 · 2020-06-17T13:24:00+00:00

Maybe you are so hot they are too nervous to show their interest. Also what is your internal state of mind, how do you feel about yourself, do you have a purpose? Because lack of it dries all the pussy. When you think about something other than pussy you magically attract it.

P.S. I know one good looking, tall, athletic guy with good face. I am not a girl, but I can tell that he is somehow weird, and I can't explain why. Maybe it's your case.

PandaLitter · 2020-06-17T13:41:12+00:00

It's because you use terms like that

2020-06-17T15:16:15+00:00

You have to be way more sexually direct with girls. They most likely give plenty of choosing signals, but unless it's a sign with "fuck me daddy" you probably don't pay enough attention to those.

We have been conditioned to never offend anyone, and certainly not woman. But here is the thing: You have to push boundaries over and over again. Once I started to be direct with how I handled woman it just clicked. Stop giving a fuck whether you offend anyone with what you say, unless the things you say are truly meant hurtful which they shouldn't be. Stop giving a fuck about rejection. When flirting, touch her arms, legs.. whatever. Don't be afraid of her not "liking it". Start over again. Work your way up. They want you to do everything. Don't wait for a girl to make a move.

You have the foundation to become a greek god. Take it from a 5'8 kid who was a virgin until 22 and had over 20 different woman in the past 3 years.

Whitefarmer · 2020-06-17T14:21:40+00:00

Instead of looking for signals look at them like you already fuckt them. Assume the sale

i-am-the-prize · 2020-06-17T21:42:27+00:00

if you are honestly attractive, assume attraction and initiate conversations.

you need to rethink your whole mindset. read Models by Mark Manson. In one part, he gives a view into the girls head when you approach:

1) often before you even open your mouth, she's decided whether she's gonna hear you out, or not (looks matter); many girls do NOT communicate this openness outwardly. so stop looking for over green lights.

2) often, in the first 5 seconds of your interaction, she's decided if you're worth getting to know

3) unless actually emotionally committed to another man, she is rooting for you to be "the one" to sweep her off her feet.

think about that last one... if you were actually high value, she'd be thrilled to meet you. so are you? are you the best version of yourself? work on it, and keep approaching in a friendly non creepy way, being social with OI and no expectations. do not be thirsty.

the more chill/social i behave, and push/pull when floating and being social, the more IOI's i get, calling me back to talk to them again.

User36474746 · 2020-06-18T00:38:07+00:00

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bert_cj · 2020-06-17T16:21:29+00:00

You should post a picture of yourself.

Also watch this https://youtu.be/kGpooiL8V-g

Title	I get ZERO choosing signals.
Author	User36474746
Upvotes	4
Comments	29
Date	June 17, 2020 1:17 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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