If given the chance, post-TRP, would you "get with" your oneitis?

Auphor_Phaksache · 2015-08-09T05:43:21+00:00

Emotionally? Hell yea. Shit To this day I'd get on my hands and knees and beg for the emotions I had to just come back for one second.

Realistically? Hell no. The woman who I love (who am I kidding, still love) is a terrible person. A manipulative, lying, cold hearted bitch. But the difference is, I don't take it personally. It's not me, it's her. It's many women. It's society as a whole. It... Is what it is.

Rorta · 2015-08-09T11:58:25+00:00

No. Weirdly enough, I'm not even attracted to her anymore. I think this is to do with the fact that I accept that the person I loved wasn't actually a real person but a construct I created that was based on a real person. Separating the two has been crucial for me in getting over her.

grussvegas · 2015-08-09T10:21:58+00:00

Of course, I dream about marrying the only person I've ever loved. And I see that sexy face every goddamn day.

It's killing me, because no matter how hard I try, I can't get that fucking outrageously sexy person out of the mirror.

penguin_says_slide · 2015-08-09T05:06:58+00:00

Well my crushes(two of them) were quite hot, I imagine they still are so your question to me sounds "If given the chance would you get with two hot girls?" so of course "Yes"

Would I feel any different just because they were my crushes. I'd say no, perhaps some sort of ego boost afterwards but that's it.

RedPillProgress · 2015-08-09T04:55:45+00:00

I truly believe a lot of guys failed with their "oneitis" due to beta mindsets (scarcity / neediness / always being available / not being the leader)

I know I did, I was a pitiful man in my last LTR (Pre-TRP) and of course she left me the second she met Chad (All of the "love" didnt matter once Alpha Chad came into the picture).

That is what TRP says right? Beta will always lose out to alpha. (or, what girl wants to be with a beta when she has other options? Alpha, or less beta options.)

With that said, past girls in my life, including my last LTR would see a different man in me. I know this for a fact. Would I get back with her? Possibly, it would be on MY terms and 100% different. I would know the ins and outs of what my role is in an LTR compared to just last year.

We know how girls act, how they are hardwired. They need a leader, in shape man, man with his financials in check, just a man who has his shit together. So I ask, can we blame them for leaving us when we were nothing but betas? And with that I think it is ok in some circumstances for rekindling**(1), as a better man, but most importantly with Alpha mindset (non-scarce, leader, in shape. etc)

(1) Did she cheat on you? This type of circumstance would be something I would say is not worth a redone LTR. One slip up during a rough patch and she could cheat on you again. (but still, always be on top of yourself to improve!) Plate, sure. cause who gives a fuck.**

ITHOUGHTYOUMENTWEAST · 2015-08-09T04:46:01+00:00

Jesus christ no. Please god no. Never.

I fell too hard back in the day over girls that were nowhere near worth it. My mentality was in too bad of a place for it too work, like maybe a fling or a plate but it would just be too much.

vys1 · 2015-08-09T06:29:38+00:00

Sure. She is really hot but fucked up in the head. In other words, perfect as a plate, with zero emotional attachment.

crack_tobi · 2015-08-09T07:38:23+00:00

NOPE. No explanation required on that one.

Terror_of_the_Void · 2015-08-09T09:35:51+00:00

I would, but my goal is to find someone better than my oneitis. I don't know if it's the pedestalization, or what, that makes that so seemingly difficult. But there's no reason I can't find someone even hotter, physically and mentally, who wants me to bang her.

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Chocotop · 2015-08-09T10:44:01+00:00

Maybe. I dunno. I mean she was the only girl I was willing to marry and have kids with. But at the same time she is a trp caricature. She described herself as a free spirit who wanted to fuck every nationality. She was a pretty awful person to be honest but that was my fist experience of love so...

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RidleySmith · 2015-08-09T10:55:38+00:00

Well sure, I'd pump and dump them... But go for the long term relationship I used to hope for? Fuck no. They're very hot... But now that I think of it they're also emotionally unstable as fuck, dumb, in one case extremely Machiavellian, and overall would be a huge hassle for sex that probably wouldn't be that great.

ScottRikkard · 2015-08-09T11:59:43+00:00

I wouldn't. One chance per girl is my moto.

I could have with some of them, not worth it though. There is so many women out there, and when I think about it more seriously, it's for the better. I know 90% of them weren't really compatible with my character. I wasn't inlove for a few years now. And honestly it's very good. No ups, but no downs too. I like the balance.

I like girls with an inherent aura of vulnerability that they try to hide with tomboyishness (but are pretty, and feminine). Hard to explain, though I know what I feel around that type of girl. The polarity is good.

RunawayGrain · 2015-08-09T12:17:57+00:00

No. I've seen her in the 20+ years that we parted, and time has not been kind. When her looks go, the image you have of the perfect 19 year old goes as well.

jcrpta · 2015-08-09T13:50:32+00:00

We're married, and have been together over 15 years. So it's not an easy question to answer.

I think it depends on where we were in the relationship when I unplugged.

6 months before we met? No chance. I was a university student; I'd be taking my new-found knowledge and nailing anything that walked.

Right at the beginning? Might have given her a chance, but I'd have known to shut down any shit before it became too much.

When things first started to go south and I was at my worst? Absolutely not. At the time, it'd have been much easier to dump her, work on myself and then look elsewhere.

More recently? Yes, because I think we can make it work, but it requires me to take a good hard look at myself.

GuitarHero07 · 2015-08-09T17:30:29+00:00

I could easily fuck my oneitis now. She is now well past the Wall and desperately looking to settle down and have kids. She occasional messages me trying to meet up. Looking back, she wasn't even super attractive 7 years ago when I was totally infatuated by her. I was simply in love with the idea of being in love that I was happy to overlook her many flaws. Now I just feel pity for her. Yes, she fucked up horribly and it's all on her but it is such a shame to see yet another life dashed on the rocks on feminism.

teeay · 2015-08-09T20:35:03+00:00

Just after I discovered RP? Absolutely. Now? Ha, you're fucking joking, right?

penguin_says_slide · 2015-08-09T05:07:09+00:00

Well my crushes(two of them) were quite hot, I imagine they still are so your question to me sounds "If given the chance would you get with two hot girls?" so of course "Yes"

Would I feel any different just because they were my crushes. I'd say no, perhaps some sort of ego boost afterwards but that's it.

Title	If given the chance, post-TRP, would you "get with" your oneitis?
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Date	August 9, 2015 4:37 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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