"I'll let you know"

LogicalBrah · 2019-03-27T16:36:03+00:00

You already fucked up by establishing you’re available to text all day long. Why would she come over you’re available to her 24/7? That’s how you reserve a first class seat to the friend zone. It’s hard to reset that back to zero. Texting should only be to set up dates, not to chit chat with your witty humor and meme game. You cannot build attraction over text, only in person. Stop trying.

With that being said, once you are only texting for logistics and you get hit with that response you need to revoke the offer. Chad doesn’t sit around all week and wait until Friday night for a response. Chad just plans other shit and forgets about the girl. I would say “ I don’t do maybe dates, just let me know when you’re free” and don’t text her again until she responds with a time/date. If she texts some bullshit, I’d say “sorry can’t chat right now but let me know when you can get together.” Repeat that until she gives you a date.

CainPrice · 2019-03-27T16:50:04+00:00

First dates should be Thursday or Sunday night, drinks at a place 5 minutes from one of your residences, at 8:30 or later.

Weekends are for people she's already having sex with. She's only going to invest a weekend with you if she doens't have any better offers. That's why she'll "let you know". She has to make sure she can't scare up anything better to do on the weekend first, and that's if she remembers you at all and doesn't decide to just go to bed.

The fact that you're free all weekend reflects badly on you.

Send her something like: "Hey. My weekend just got kind of crazy. I can still do Friday at 9:00. Drinks at (place 5 minutes from residence) after work. If not then, maybe Sunday at 8:30, same place."

I wouldn't expect a positive response. Keep setting up dates with other women. But it's just a 5-second message, so you might as well make the hail mary and see if it sticks.

Whisper · 2019-03-27T18:02:40+00:00

There are only two answers a woman gives you. "Hell yes" or "no".

Anything that's not the first is the second.

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-03-27T16:39:33+00:00

So you told her you have no other plans Fri-Sat-Sun. That's not projecting abundance. She's trying to make other plans with other guys. Now she has you as a backup plan, knowing you'll buy her dinner & movies. Without an alternative date from her, she's just not that interested in you.

Of course she will keep texting you, to keep you around as an orbiter.

redhawkes · 2019-03-27T16:36:12+00:00

If it's not fuck Yes, she's not interested. Smells like orbiter, no reply for sure. The ball is in her court.

Another thing, be specific when you're setting up a date. Not wishy washy around the bush bullshit.

jh1871 · 2019-03-27T17:05:27+00:00

Try to schedule a date with a different girl. If you get a date and then she gives you a time, tell her you can’t anymore. She will learn to jump at the chance eventually. Abundance.

frick-a-frack · 2019-03-27T18:23:57+00:00

You’re her texting buddy. If you were her fuck buddy, welll...

McCarthyCohn24 · 2019-03-27T18:50:39+00:00

Delete block and ghost

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-03-27T19:05:00+00:00

Here’s what you do when she says that. Find a different girl. For Thursday through Saturday. Whenever she hits you up, tell her- you said you’d let me know so I made other plans. Reschedule for Wednesday. If she doesn’t hit you up then you don’t care bc you found another chick to bone down.

XT3M3 · 2019-03-27T20:28:56+00:00

"i let you know"

start finding other plans. and go thru with them. if she ends up seeing you great. in the 90% chance she doesnt, you still didn't miss out

RuleTheOne · 2019-03-27T22:14:40+00:00

NEXT her, find another girl to replace her slot.

IssaBigLife · 2019-03-27T18:59:22+00:00

The best response for the "I`ll let you know line" is:

You: We should meet up at....

Her: I`ll let you know

You: Let me know by tomorrow lunch-time

This is a great response because not only does it show you aren`t keen on waiting for her response but you probably have other options .

redpillparis · 2019-03-27T17:39:08+00:00

After a reply like that:

Ghost her; or
Reply K Number 2 is my all time favorite.

Title	"I'll let you know"
Author	redensigncanada
Upvotes	5
Comments	19
Date	March 27, 2019 4:27 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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