I really need help with this. I'm making decent-ish money which I'm not too concerned with. I'm 5'11 180lbs at age 26. I'm very good at talking to strangers (guys or girls, younger or older, heads of projects or janitors). Girls do get interested after talking to me.

My biggest problem is that I'm not in shape, by which I mean it's not a lean body. I'm a bit flabby like the left photo here.

The fact that I'm not lean and muscular is really fucking me up mentally. I don't let it show and I guess that's why most girls respond positively to me, but in my head I can't help but think they'll find me disgusting in bed and I'm too afraid to make the move.

I'm also aware that Patrice was a fat fuck and still rocked and I know there are others like him who are RP but out of shape and still win, even in some stories on the main sub.

I'm just not able to accept myself while also working on myself. I'm afraid this will permanently fuck me up mentally in the long run; I'm just not able to self love.

What on earth do I do?