Incel Conundrum

Give_Praise_Unto_Me · 2021-03-25T20:46:04+00:00

Read the sidebar 👉, start lifting 🏋️‍♂️, etc etc etc.

Musicgoon · 2021-03-25T21:25:31+00:00

You're still young. You've got a lot of time to learn and improve. Like other posters have said, start lifting. Read all of the sideabar and go out and practice your social skills and game. We were all awkward at one time. Expect that to happen you'll go from awkward to smooth.

Talk to a doctor about accutane. That could help with your skin issues. A low carb diet, nofap and sleep will also do wonders.

Keep in mind that you have a while community of guys here to help you. All we ask is that you put in effort, we can help you if you get stuck.

Get it going bro!

chodoboy86 · 2021-03-25T21:44:53+00:00

The first and most important thing you can do is to work on yourself. If you get your body and life right women will come along with you. Focussing on "how to get them" is a bluepill mindset. Men lead from their frame, betas follow in others frame.

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Mustbeaight · 2021-03-25T21:53:11+00:00

Embrace the dark side..don’t fight it😈

Hypnot0ad · 2021-03-26T02:31:49+00:00

For the acne eat healthier, and also try changing your pillowcase or putting a clean towel over your pillow every night. You should also look into accutane. Makes the acne worse at first but after a few months you’ll never have a zit again.

Also women don’t care about your penis size.

PhaedrusHunt · 2021-03-26T06:10:40+00:00

You're 18 you've got your entire life ahead of you.

Don't feel so down in the dumps my man

Something I've always found that helps whenever I start to feel sorry for myself is to think of someone that's in a worse situation than me that still gets up and does something.

Think about someone like Stephen Hawking

Work on yourself get involved in community get out and meet people just develop your personality develop your body you're going to be fine

the more you work out the cleaner you eat the better your thoughts are your body is going to regulate your hormones are going to level out you're not going to believe the difference between what you are now and what you can be later but you have to actually have a vision of yourself and work toward it

Chin up chest forward

Mr-Blonde123 · 2021-03-26T09:12:44+00:00

You’re 18 and discovered this sub. Already you’re ahead of many others your age.

There’s a goldmine of information here and plenty of reading to do, as you read you may experience a wide range of emotions, it isn’t pretty but it’s honest and based on the experiences of those here now and those before us.

The most basic thing you can do is start lifting and taking care of diet, this is advocated not for women but for you. The benefits and mental clarity are the biggest bang for buck you can get whilst you digest the material here.

Ask questions as you absorb, there’s some intelligent and experienced minds here. The truth won’t be pretty but reading your post you seem like someone who has taken a long hard look,reflected and doesn’t like what he sees.

This is good, only you can forge the path you desire.

ScholarLad · 2021-03-26T12:25:18+00:00

You’re very young. Don’t sweat it kid. At your age the number 1 thing should be focusing on your education and your career. No such thing as an incel pulling 150+ k a year or top of whatever social hierarchy.

Yeahrightyeahright2 · 2021-03-26T14:38:18+00:00

Work out min 5 times a week, only one cheat meal a week, stop caring about things you can't change (your dick size), drink plenty of water, change your sheets and pillow case every week, talk to doctor for your acne, don't touch your face

'' I'm deathly afraid of being an incel '' Delete that shit word from your existence, you are a human being before any shitty etiquette

'' Do any you guys have any advice on how to improve on this before it's to late? '' It's only too late when you hit 60. 42 more years left. Start now and enjoy approximatively 40 years of peace.

'' I'm worried I'll end up some man child in his mums basement '' You're going to college right ? Move out when it's a possibility. Or move out early and work/study, up to you.

Do chores or soome shit, responsabilize yourself.

Meditation, cold showers and nofap are great tools for discipline (I don't really do these anymore but they helped me lay a foundation for when I was a fat jobless fuck).

Do everything productive as soon as you wake up to crush the desire to procrastinate. Recognize that procrastination is not weak will but avoidance of negative feelings. Realize that when we do things that are painful but constructive we always feel satisfied and proud of ourselves.

Grab a paper, write how much you think you're gonna enjoy a ''painful activity'' in % then write down how much you actually enjoyed it. Turns out the number is way higher than initially though, always. I'm always at 70% of satisfaction when I work out. That's what made me actually start training.

As for anxiety, it's about gaining self-confidence by doing things you're scared of. Stop avoiding the inevitable. Make it your life mission to crush every fear you have. Find out the exact reasons why you're scared or anxious and come up with fixes. For me it was not making excuses (not letting the hamster spin). I would refuse dialogue in my head and just do it. It's as simple as just walking towards that person or situation and opening your mouth. It always feel anticlimatic when I do it. I barely feel any anxiety and I feel very satisfied. The anxiety is only there when I pussy out or when I overthink it. That's when I get paralyzed. Don't make it stressful. Don't make it ''high stakes''. Learn how to stop giving a shit. Go there, tell them you have something to say. This will force you to commit. Then do it.

Read about cognitive behavioral therapy, consider seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist if the anxiety is intense. Google exposure therapy.

Also I'Ll repeat myself stop seeing this as some high stakes shit. The only high stakes are the fact that if you don't face your fears you're gonna be miserable your entire life while Chad fuck that qt brunette with short hair or the cute fringe or whatever the fuck type of woman you so desire. Be nice to yourself. It's not : ''Oh fuck I gotta become a Chad or people are gonna shit on me''. It's : ''There's literally no fucking reason to not put in the work and face my fears because once I do it I will be so fucking satisfied and it genuinely make 0 sense to be the slave of internal problems for I only have one life''

Title	Incel Conundrum
Author	Flow_Scholar
Upvotes	6
Comments	26
Date	March 25, 2021 8:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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