Interesting Development

kingofpoplives · 2014-07-09T15:07:34+00:00

And this is why I enjoy spinning plates. The familiarity of the LTR is so de-sexualizing that your romantic partner is genuinely surprised and indignant that you had the nerve to interrupt TV time by trying to have sex with her.

With plates, the entire purpose of our spending time together is to have sex. There is no time they are in my presence when were are not about to have sex (within a few hours tops), having sex, or just finished having sex. As you'd imagine this context leads to a lot of sex.

If you want to re-sexualize the relationship you need to shake her out of the comfort zone created by the belief that you are a fixture in her life, regardless of her meeting your sexual needs or not. If she sees you as a sexual being, with needs that must be met by someone, and possibly by someone who isn't her, her attitude will change, assuming she wants to keep you. What you need is dread game.

LukeMooney · 2014-07-09T14:57:52+00:00

"what are you doing"

"shh" (with more kissing)

Is just a shit test, which it sounds like you failed. When she gets mad just ignore her tell her to shut up, or if she persists, go nuclear, don't supplicate.

Geocan001 · 2014-07-09T17:53:07+00:00

At the point where she get's mad, I'd pretty much grab the car (or even motorcycle) keys and leave. I'd also leave my phone in an obvious place so she knows I don't want to be contacted. I'd then go visit family/go have a coffee/login to facebook at an internet cafe and see what my friends are up to.

The trick to this is to come home before sundown, and be prepared for hardcore shit tests. You'll have to hold frame like a motherfucker to pull this off.

The other things you'll need to know for this:

My phone is set up in such a way that nobody could hack it without my fingerprint (I swipe my thumb over it, so it wipes it as I go, and my password is written down in the phone only for changing security features, a.k.a - my thumb is the only way anybody is getting into that thing.)
I come home before the sun goes down. Not that you would have to, that's just my arbitrary decision I made a while back and I've stuck to it.
Don't check your phone right away. It'll just be full of spite, hamstering, dread game and poison that'll throw you out of frame. Talk to her directly first and diffuse the situation with your frame intact. Then disregard anything said in text.

caxica · 2014-07-09T17:19:32+00:00

Dread game her hard. Hell, breaking up with her for this wouldn't be unreasonable although I'm obviously not familiar with your situation so you may have too much to lose by breaking up with her now.

[deleted] · 2014-07-09T14:31:10+00:00

she was responding to your off put remark. when she asked what it was that you were doing you shoulda layed on the lush, aloof shit.

"tryin to live out a dream i had last night gurl."

"just wanted a taste is all"

its a game. shes playing. and you spoiled it by pretty much calling her awkward. she wants you to tease and pry not shut her down. im not sure how you come back from this without being a bit beta or just dropping it from your concerns all together. im really interested in what advice someone would give you to recover.

captainbloodd · 2014-07-09T16:49:21+00:00

Why is your SO off put when you make a move?

yummyluckycharms · 2014-07-09T19:34:38+00:00

Dread game is the way to go, but always be prepared that she might call you on it. You havent made it clear if you are living together (mistake if you are), but you need to shake her out of her complacency. Otherwise, you might as well get a penny jar for the limited times that you will have sex in the future.

[deleted] · 2014-07-09T22:06:44+00:00

I read this as "what are you doing? You're supposed to be my little emasculated bitch!"

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2014-07-10T01:06:54+00:00

"Doing what I wanna do. Don't worry, in about five minutes it's gonna be what you want, too".

LibertarianLibertine · 2014-07-10T13:15:49+00:00

You answered with a rational view of the truth. Women don't want that.

niczar · 2014-07-09T14:53:41+00:00

"well I was kissing you, and now we are awkwardly talking about it".

I chuckled; it's clever but you're not keeping frame, so it's no good. "You know exactly what I'm doing" and keep going. Or "look, I have something important to tell you -- What? -- Well I have that friend who's a psychologist, and she told me that there's something very wrong with me. -- What is it? -- Well it's embarassing. Promise you won't tell anyone? -- WHAT IS IT? -- Well apparently I'm a sexaholic, I can't help it I have to sex my girl up all the time."

But I think it's time for some dread game, buddy.

Title	Interesting Development
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Upvotes	9
Comments	12
Date	July 9, 2014 2:10 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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