About 1-1.5 years ago (back when I had way more beta tendencies than I do now), I got a girl's number (let's call her Sarah) and made a date to go out to bars with her one night. I went in for the kiss at the end of the night, but got the cheek.
Because I was such a beta then, I figured I'll try to be friends with her and try again after a month or two. We hung out a couple of time and did shit such as hiking/dinner/working out together/etc but I never escalated sexually again because at the time I was terrified that she would label me as a creep if I tried again. Over time our "friendship" just fizzled out and we stopped talking (looking back through some old texts, I was the one who stopped texting her and there was never a moment where she had started to ignore me or blow me off)
Fast forward 1-1.5 years later to Feb 2018. My current apt lease had ended and I was going to go visit my parents in a different state for a month before coming back to town. The day my lease ended, I was technically homeless for a bit because I had planned to started driving to my parent's place the next day. That night the plan was for me to crash at one of my plate's place once she got home from work.
While I was waiting for my plate to get home from work, I was just chilling in a Walmart parking lot with my car filled with all my stuff. It just so happened that Sarah parked next to me and recognized me. We talked a bit and she offered me her place to crash if I didn't have somewhere to sleep that night but I told her I had arrangements made. She then said we should hang out once I get back into town a month later.
I'm finally back in town and I hit Sarah up to see if she down to hang out. And now tomorrow we made plans to go mini-golfing.
Being more red-pilled now than I was before, I'm faced with 2 choices now
1) Try escalating sexually again. However I suspect she only sees me as a beta-friend/nice guy whose not going to escalate with her because that's who I was the last time I saw her. I could prove her wrong and escalate but I feel her sexual interest is low so there's still a relatively high chance of another rejection
or
2) I can genuinely be friends with her (I honestly don't mind being platonic) and use the friendship as social proof or dread game when I'm meeting other girls and/or her friends. For example, I can post snapchats of me doing shit with her that my other plates and girls I have recently met would see and assume that I'm getting with Sarah
It would be great to get with Sarah but at the same I completely ok with also just being friends if that aids me in attracting her friends or other girls.
Thoughts? What would you guys do in this situation?
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