Invite for drinks vs over

slippersweatpants · 2021-04-23T10:34:57+00:00

If you’re going to be brazen / autistic enough to invite someone to delete (???) a bottle of tequila before you met in person, I hope you are accustomed and ready to deal with ASD. Either that or she’s a 304.

Play it cool, slow it down and for the love of god don’t invite someone over before you meet them at a public place - been there before, not fun.

Am I saying you can’t smash on first date? Hell no, but I’m saying you need to be tactical about it - this is what I’ve done with last plate added to my rotation.

Step 1: Cheap, cheerful date in a public location - that you WANT to do

Bitches love ice cream, don’t know why but it’s foolproof. If you don’t like ice cream though don’t invite for it. Personally last time invited her out for a McFlurry, those smarties are too good.

Step 2: General Date Shit

Talk, walk, bit of kino, flirt, tease - basically try to suss out if she’s into you. The key here is not to be autistic. Take note of SOMETHING that you can call upon later.

Step 3: Invite Back

It works wonders here because cold as shit in the evenings but my go to is “is it me or is it freezing? You want to come back to my place for a tea?” Bitches love tea. I like tea. So it works. It does not matter what the excuse is but you need to have an excuse that offers that magical plausible deniability. Maybe just a side note but try to say after she is laughing about something - seems to be better results.

Step 4: Do Something With That Thing That Was Mentioned

Just get something that she mentioned or you talk about - I put on a documentary about Somali pirates or something because was mentioned in the news, and we talked about it saying how crazy it is and Captain Philips being a good movie or some shit???

Step 5: ESCALATE

If you get this far it’s hard to fuck up. Sit beside her and find a reason to touch - look at jewellery is a foolproof one.

Not rocket science , but took me a while to understand and get my few own tips with it. Might take a bit of tweaking but it’s a start.

TLDR: Unless you’re dealing with a thot, or thoroughly enjoy ASD or like living on the edge with the risk of a freak (not the butt stuff kind) knowing where you live and turning up unannounced (not a good thing), I would not invite straight over. Also never say delete a bottle of something again - that still has me speechless.

kclanton80 · 2021-04-23T12:41:20+00:00

If she is responsive....stop taking so long to respond. She will grow annoyed with that eventually. I like to mirror behavior. If she is slow...I will be slow. If she is responsive I will be more responsive. It's a subtle teaching tool...if she wants faster communication then she needs to act faster as well.

I will take just slightly longer than she takes to respond. If it takes her an hour...I wait 1.5 hours. If it takes her 5 min I respond in 7-10 min....

As for the " date"....don't overthink this shit. Ask her to.meet for a drink somewhere near your place. Then invite her over more more drinks after.

MikeAlphaGolf · 2021-04-23T12:15:45+00:00

Inviting someone to your place for the first ‘date’ is fine. But you need to be pretty sure she’s going to agree before you ask, or else it will get awkward as fuck and you’ll end up backpeddling which will cost you frame.

If she’s coming over, you can safely assume she’s dtf, and in that case why would you get drunk? It can only complicate matters. You’re either not confident that you can close sober, or you need it for your own Dutch courage.

CompetitiveAd4912 · 2021-04-23T10:23:42+00:00

Meet outside and find any plausible excuse to go back to your place

phisch13 · 2021-04-23T14:35:27+00:00

Go out first. Just like a woman shouldn’t meet a man at a private location for the first time, you shouldn’t meet a woman in a private location for the first time.

For her, physical safety. For you, you don’t want a psycho with your address and inside your home. It ain’t perfect, but you can at least feel her out a little bit. I promise, it only takes one nut job with your address for you to switch up your tactics forever lmao.

2021-04-23T22:33:19+00:00

just invite the bitch over, fuck all that date shit. OBVIOUSLY, vet the bitch out through text/call/facetime whatever, then invite her over or vice versa. she’s texting back fast, that’s an indicator of high interest. get the fuck off snapchat, get her # and take it from there.

you can do a date if you want, but keep that shit bare minimum as possible (ice cream/coffee/slice of pizza AT THE MOST) obviously you’re red pill so you know no dinner dates or stupid shit like that

keep your investment low

DullIntroduction · 2021-04-23T10:27:38+00:00

Why not both?

TeddyMGTOW · 2021-04-23T11:09:58+00:00

zoom and chill, lol

Title	Invite for drinks vs over
Author	Iticip
Upvotes	9
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Date	April 23, 2021 10:03 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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