Is game basically Acting?

stylerTyler · 2017-09-08T17:58:29+00:00

It's acting until you internalize it. Once you internalize it, it becomes part of you and most probably it will be the way you deal with everybody not just girls you're attracted to.

WISE_TURD · 2017-09-08T16:24:49+00:00

Read (or listen to) "models" by mark manson

Chief_Leji · 2017-09-08T18:16:14+00:00

It's fake it til you make it. The goal is not to deceive but to show up as your best self and for a lot of us that takes effort because we have not actualized out best self.

Personally I focused exclusively on myself and creating My frame; my values, principles, motivations etc. before even thinking about talking to women. In knowing who I am and doing things I'm proud of, being cocky was natural, being witty was natural, holding my frame was natural. There was still work involved but not as much as someone who doesn't have these internal things in order and tries to approach.

[deleted] · 2017-09-08T19:47:44+00:00

at first, you will consciously make sure to apply the "act." Over time, you will internalize it and it will become fluid and natural. Similar to driving.

Bambam22bam · 2017-09-08T21:19:01+00:00

It is something that may seem that way, but ultimately it should just become your way of life if you are committed to it.

It's acting in the same way the first time you step into a weight room is acting. Eventually, with enough trials and commitment you will improve and become a natural.

chronosthetitan · 2017-09-09T00:05:36+00:00

How about not even bothering engaging ugly and fat chicks?

ScottDurden · 2017-09-08T21:47:59+00:00

Several people already said it but you really do fake it till you make it. It's acting until it becomes natural.

Peter_B_Long · 2017-09-08T23:35:05+00:00

You're playing it fine. Your goal should be for you to act 100% genuine.

In a certain interaction you may "seem" playful, but it is because you are playful.

In a certain interaction you may "seem" arrogant, but it is because you are arrogant.

Men experienced with game are simply displaying those parts of their personality. They do not see a girl and think, "hmm, I read on TRP that I should be cocky, I'm going to try to be cocky." They see a girl and think, "I'm feeling charming, I'm going to be charming because that's how I'm feeling right now and if she doesn't like it, well that's too bad."

kranos33 · 2017-09-09T00:34:17+00:00

Every-time I felt I was gaming and acting for a girl, 9/10 never got her.

Every-time I am more natural around a girl, chances that she will develop a crush on me increase exponentially.

I have wondered why, and my hypothesis:

When gaming hard, it comes like acting aka: trying hard, and it puts the girl in the pedestal, and she looks down on you.
If she feels like she is below your SMV by far, it will come as you are trying to score a quick one.... depending on the setting, she will clamp down.

I know that "game" is sold as some magic elixir that will open all the vaginas you want, but it wont at all. I have had much much better luck by just being natural, and I realized there are few things that happen: I treat her like a normal person, I don't her put her on the pedestal, I get what I want in an assertive but nice and fun way (i.e. not the mythical assehole jerk that has gets in the pants of girls by being just obnoxious or overly rude).. If she is not giving it to me (attention, sex, whatever), I move on. I don't do "push", "pull", as that means it is deliberate. I just move on, and if she feels like she wants in, I escalate give her (one more chance), and if she clamps down, then I just consider her as a 'timewaster', and move on.

Having strong frame, is basically having strong boundaries, and which means that you will not be a try hard 'dancing monkey' for a girl, no matter how golden her vagina thinks she has, and that by itself is attractive. So 'game' is counter productive (especially if you are over 25).

I think the 'game' as taught in the internet it is a good set of training wheels to learn for young borderline aspies, (eg. touching, looking in the eyes, etc), but eventually you have to internalize some of them and move on. Anytime you are acting/trying hard there is a good chance you will not get the girl and you are just devaluing yourself.

Also, things like humour, banter, etc... I don't consider them as 'game' themselves. Thats something that you probably automatically do with your friends without thinking much about it.

DadOnDabs · 2017-09-09T19:50:15+00:00

Basically. I do sales and I didn't start doing good until I sat down and imagined myself as the perfect salesman and what that would look like to a customer. Then I started to act like that and am doing really well. Same applies with game.

Title	Is game basically Acting?
Author	Dio_Brando_Joestar
Upvotes	13
Comments	18
Date	September 8, 2017 3:43 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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