TLDR: hot girl was very attracted to me and very interested, texted me every day and said how much she wanted to be with me. I got too drunk and had horrible sex with her, now she keeps cancelling on me and rarely texts me. Is there any coming back from bad sex now that it seems she lost all interest?
Met a girl who is a 9, double D’s great body, great face. I’m just a newbie red pill I usually only get 5-7s and I don’t have a ton of experience. We had a lot in common and she seemed really interested in me. I’ve never had a girl this hot be that interested in me. I tried to use everything I’ve learned here, and past mistakes to make sure I didn’t screw this up, but I’m not perfect. We had a date for Friday but she texted me Tuesday that she wanted to see me before then because of how well we got along.
I went to her place Tuesday night and she was all over me. She kept asking me why I was still single and saying how amazing I was. I told her I was picky. She said I was different than all the other guys she meets. She kept saying how strong of a connection we had and how interested in me she was. We started making out and she said she wanted to have sex. I said I didn’t want to without a condom and I didn’t even think to bring one because it was so last minute. She told me I was an amazing kisser and how bad she wanted sex because of how wild she felt I was. I told her we would Friday when I saw her again. When I was leaving she told me how amazing I was and that I could come over any day she was always available and always bored, and I could sleep over whenever I wanted to. I told her I wasn’t going to come every day she would get sick of me, she said she could tell she would never get sick of me and I would get sick of her first.
We had our scheduled date on Friday and everything was going well. I had taken a few shots before she came over just to get more loose which was a mistake. When she came we went to a bar and she kept ordering shots. I just wanted to have fun and not be nervous, I didn’t realize how drunk I was getting. I realize now that she drinks a lot and has a very high tolerance and my tolerance is low and that I got much drunker than she was which was a huge mistake. We went back to my place and I don’t even remember much, but I just remember how bad the sex was. It was good for maybe 5-10 minutes but I couldn’t stay hard because of how drunk I was. Even when I’m sober I have a hard time staying hard with a condom on. I have no idea why I couldn’t stay hard with this hot girl in my bed. I’m fine without a condom and fine Staying hard getting a blow job, it’s just with a condom I can’t stay hard long. (does anyone have any tips for me?) I just remember her saying she’s sorry for getting me so drunk and that my dick was sleepy, and how sorry she was that she was so tight and sex wasn’t working. She left quickly after that (probably to get dick from a real guy) and I passed out. I was too drunk to realize how bad it was until I woke up the next morning.
I woke up to a text from her saying how good of a time she had and she wanted to see me tomorrow. I texted back asking if she still wanted to see me that day and she told me to come over at night. At night I texted her I was coming and she said her friend just came in from out of town so she wanted to go out with her, but she would call me after they were done and come over. She never called, but I saw on her Snapchat she was out till 6am drinking. The next day she said she wanted to see me on Monday. On Monday she texted me saying her friend needed a place to stay for the week so she couldn’t hang out. She said she would Friday. On Friday she said she was busy but she for sure could on Monday. It’s not Monday yet, but I’m sure something will come up.
Sometimes I ask if we can reschedule and sometimes she offers days when she can, so she is offering a little bit. I’m a very emotional person I’ve had to do everything in my power not to text her every second asking what is going on. I know it’s blue pill but I texted her that I was worried she was losing interested in me. I tried my best not saying anything but I couldn’t stop it. She told me she wasn’t and that it was just a busy week for her because of her friend. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I should react? Do I just stop texting her? I don’t want to lose her although I probably already have.
She went from being so interested in me and having all the time in the world for me to not seeing me at all. She was constantly texting me before, saying good morning, asking how my day was etc and now nothing. I knew it wouldn’t last long but I thought it would last longer than a week.
I had a Snapchat story of me out at a bar with friends and she texted me “did you replace me? :(“. I replied not yet, and she said she promised me she would have a lot of time for me next week. I also said blue pill things like it’s hard to replace you, and that I can wait until she’s free as long as she doesn’t forget about me. She responded that I had nothing to worry about. I know she is busy but I’m not stupid, I know whatever feelings she had before are gone, and I’m 99% positive it is because of how bad the sex was. I’m sure there is also another guy (or many guys) in the picture, probably someone she met out at 6am, but she’s also offering to reschedule instead of just ignoring me so I don’t know if there is any chance or not.
I just really need help on how to stop this from spiraling into something worse, and if there is any coming back from the bad experience? I know that you can’t make someone have feelings for you, but maybe they will come back if I’m not as drunk the next time? It’s just crazy to me how strong her feelings were and now they’re nothing. I know of the light switch effect but I didn’t think it can happen in just a week. I could use any advice, I know most answers would be to “next” her or move on, but I really don’t want to give up on a 9. I know she’s nothing special, there’s lots of 9’s out there, but not very many 9s that were interested in me. I have 5’s, 6’s, 7’s that I’ve been hanging out with to keep my mind off her but they’re nowhere near as good. Is there any saving this or is it over? I honestly think it would have been a lot easier on me to not have had a 9, then to have had one and lost one.
Do I bring up the bad sex if I meet her again?
Edit: she just texted me at 2am saying she was drunk at a bar 2 min from my place asking if I was still up. I said I was and not to drive home drunk, and then she ignored me. I don’t even know what games she is playing unless she was just drunk texting everyone in her phone looking for a hookup and found someone else.
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