I've finally seen the light.

AFPJ · 2016-11-10T20:23:19+00:00

Remember that how long you linger in your current state and when you snap out of it and move the fuck on is entirely up to you. Should probably get to lifting weights (best antidepressant), eating well, sleeping and trying to fuck bitches tomorrow, if not today. Oh & when she eventually does message you (they always do), ignore it. Don't doubt yourself.

You didn't lose access to a single chick, you just gained it to 4.5 billion of them.

redditatt · 2016-11-10T23:02:09+00:00

She didn't move on the next day- she had him lined up a long time ago. You missed the signals.

You will be thankful for her in the near future. Continue RP and become a better man.

FourcasT · 2016-11-10T21:52:32+00:00

It's like a rite of passage for every guy, most anyway, to have their heart torn out over some bitch. But now you realize that she wasn't the "one" and your turn is over.

Lift, work on yourself, get proper sleep, lift, meet new people, fuck more bitches, and lift again.

SkorchZang · 2016-11-11T06:25:45+00:00

She just moved onto someone else the next day! Like it was nothing.

The first few times that hurts like a BITCH. But then you start to pick up on the common theme... They literally all do it: the bad girls, the sluts, the good girls, the nerd girls, the sweet girls, the mean girls, the whatever girls. All girls jump on new cock ASAP because they are insecure. It always happens the same exact way, and from inexperience you assume it's personal, when it doesn't even have anything to do with you. What I mean is, she wasn't even thinking about your feelings or your honour as a man, for a single second, as she jumped on some new cock that was rolling on by in the street.

Her thoughts: "omg, let me just jump on this cock, so I won't feel so sad and unattractive. Ok that was all nice, now let me jump on that one too..."

And so it goes. When you get this aspect of it, when it really sinks in for you, you really get to sit back, smile and relax about it. You're not even part of the picture, it's not personal, not about you and never has been (from her perspective).

vorverk · 2016-11-11T05:31:34+00:00

Welcome to adulthood. Farry tales are for children. Now grind your way to the top! ;)

Juan-San · 2016-11-11T07:31:34+00:00

Been there. Almost 7 years of exclusive LTR. She was my second gf, I was her first, we lost our v-card with each other.

I noticed weird behavior from her, did some research, eventually checked her phone and I found out she started liking a friend of hers. Told her I wouldn't tolerate that shit, she either stopped having any kind of contact with him, or she would have to dump me and I would expose her as the bitch she was. He dumped his 4 years girlfriend, then waited for mine to dump me.

Fast forward a couple months and we kind of worked stuff out, she suggested we go to a couple therapy psychologist. Someone recommended me one, so we went there. First session, the therapist said something about her "feeling in debt to me because I was an awesome boyfriend and she wasn't". Three days later, 10 days before we hit the 7 year mark, she dumps me. Two days later, some friends see her with him. I proceed to delete my ex from every social website and whatever. Had some contact with her as I needed a couple of favors, she brings up "being close friends" and "in the future, we can get back together", I tell her she's a dumb bitch if she thinks any of that is gonna happen.

In spanish, there's a saying, "un clavo saca otro clavo", one nail drives out the other. Contacted some girl who wanted to fuck me 4 years ago and I said no back then, as I wanted my LTR to be exclusive. She was married, but was actually up to it. I told her, over the phone, I wouldn't do it because of that, so she passed me her husband and he said he was ok with it. I laughed at the cuck and fucked that girl on the day I would've hit the 7th year with my ex. Fucked her another couple times, hit the gym, downloaded Tinder, fucked a couple other girls, bought some weights, dropped the gym, downloaded Tinder, now I have a couple plates.

Remember AWALT. Lift, invest in yourself, drop a few vices, go make some new friends, find some hot girls to bang. Swallow the red pill. Your blue pill side might try to resurface, don't let it. Become the man you're meant to be.

stephcurryftw · 2016-11-10T20:58:08+00:00

We've all been through this. It will get better, but only if you allow it to. Keep your head up and good things will happen.

Keep working hard and build your life back up.

InformalCriticism · 2016-11-10T22:54:23+00:00

Always have the long game in mind.

It's very easy to find comfort in a routine that doesn't push your limits, especially if you get another LTR.

Reprogram your mind so that you never place a woman ahead of yourself ever again. See the world and your future through a lens that sees a better you, and you will slay pussy along the journey.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-11-10T21:40:37+00:00

Remember the 'pain of loss' never goes away, it just becomes a small part of you that you can choose to ignore. Move forward, and focus on yourself.

balalasaurus · 2016-11-11T02:45:56+00:00

She moved on long before it ended. You just found out about it late.

Docbear64 · 2016-11-11T04:45:07+00:00

It's going to hurt for a while , it's stinging like a bitch I'm sure but you will be better , I say that someone whose been in that exact place myself ( 6 years was mine). You owe it to yourself to build up into a better man . The hardest reality to accept is that the relationship you ACTUALLY had and the relationship you may reminisce about / remember having are not the same relationship because if they were you wouldn't be here . Take some time for yourself, lick your wounds, delete your ex from everything , You'll be just fine .

beginner_ · 2016-11-11T08:28:33+00:00

Get a trash bag and throw everything that reminds you of her in it (pictures, gifts, her stuff,...) and well throw it away. it's cleansing for the soul and also literally.

Fulp_Piction · 2016-11-11T09:49:23+00:00

Rationalmale year one, Chateau Heartiste's early posts (there's a trp post collating some of them), the trp front page post about self amusement, and the harsh truths article on cracked.com are a good start reading wise. As others have said; lift, self-improve, get your shit together.

Put conscious effort into being happy - it's a skill we learn, not an intrinsic human property.

Good luck!

GayLubeOil · 2016-11-11T11:56:44+00:00

There is a deep spiritual lesson here. In order for men to improve and grow they must suffer deeply. We could have told you how the world works but in order for you to trurly understand you needed o suffer.

MattyAnon · 2016-11-11T18:09:35+00:00

Any advice would be good right now

Build yourself, own yourself, live for yourself.

Title	I've finally seen the light.
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Date	November 10, 2016 8:12 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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