Laidback vs assertive?

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-01-13T13:24:45+00:00

Hhhmm...it's difficult to tell, because you sort of give conflicting examples of yourself.

All I know is...when it comes to women, they want us to lead. Being laid back is fine, and when it.comes to frame, can be a good thing, because things don't get to you. It can also help neediness and all that shit.

In general though, women want us to lead. If you are too laid back with them, you risk them becoming frustrated. They do not like responsibility, or making decisions...so don't leave it up to them.

If they are saying you're frustrating them, and then losing interest, then you need to look at it. If they are still wanting to fuck you, it's not so bad.

Always watch what they do. If they're losing interest, get more assertive.

rpsheepdog · 2019-01-13T13:34:09+00:00

Like most things, this is context dependent, I'm very laid back also, mostly because there is no point in worrying about theoretical situations and shit which women love to do, but it depends on where these women fall in your life

vandaalen · 2019-01-13T14:45:05+00:00

Still listening to the horseshit they tell you, hm?

resnine · 2019-01-13T17:50:23+00:00

From my personal experience as a laid back guy the assertive type guys are the ones getting the most attention from women. Not just from my perspective but from other laid back guys I've spoken with. I know it is anecdotal experience but I think you'll find it's true more often than not the more you observe. Trp is about truth in lieu of what we hope is reality. Assertiveness is a much better approach.

alpha-zach · 2019-01-13T16:59:47+00:00

You still don’t understand alpha.

Read: https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/20/alpha/

The alpha mentality is this, I am what I am.

Alpha does not care about what other people want or think. Alpha is as alpha does.

This alpha mentality comes in all forms. Some extroverted, some introverted, some reserved, some outgoing.

Our society puts pressure on people to become one thing or another. This creates confusion about who we are, and we become a jumbled mixture of all the different mixtures of what we believe others want. This confuses us and other people largely because we want to be one thing, but also want to act another way to please others(the happy medium is to be one way mentally, while occasionally acting another when necessary for social convention, all the while knowing you aren’t truly like this, this is what is called game)

Do I truly deeply like spending money on flowers that will wither in a week for my LTR? No.

But one of my Airbnb guests left a large vase of flowers at my rental property a couple weeks ago. I snagged them and gave them to my LTR and said some nice guy shit with a smirk. She knew I didn’t buy them because I make fun of nice guys regularly, but she couldn’t piece together the puzzle. So she played along. I let her feel like I was nice for a moment and made it sexual by being sarcastic and smirky. Great sex all weekend. She’s probably still thinking about the flowers and me, trying to figure out how the hell it happened because I clearly haven’t gone soft.

The lesson: it’s not what you do but how you do it.

The loser, nice guy buys flowers because he thinks flowers will get him sex. But flowers don’t get sex, that’s prostitution. The man gets sex. I get sex because I get sex. I’ll use a medium like flowers to enhance my game and create interest. But I don’t expect sex for flowers. I just expect sex because women have sex with me. My mentality exudes this, and its like catnip for women.

Never buy a plate flowers. It’s too deep, they won’t be able to process it. They’ll think you are committing and either run or get clingy.

Next, google sigma vs alpha.

TRP mentality for alpha is what women call confidence, mixed with calibrated cockiness hopefully a little bit of cunning(also called game.)

Society defines alpha as outgoing confidence. You have to get this out of your head. You are still a bit blue pilled in that you think outgoing is an alpha requirement.

Google sigma vs alpha. Sigma is what you are probably looking for. It’s TRP alpha, but with a reserved rather than outgoing personality.

“Speak softly and carry a big stick.” -Theodore Roosevelt

Title	Laidback vs assertive?
Author	Just1515
Upvotes	1
Comments	12
Date	January 13, 2019 12:54 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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