Lift before all else?

MrAgamemnon · 2018-06-29T07:33:17+00:00

Yes, lift and look for hobbies. One does not prevent the other, there are 24 hours in a day, 8 is for sleep, leaves you with 16 whole ours to fill. There is time for absolutely everything.

Don't waste a single hours on gaming, videos, instaface or porn.

I'm okay with just having them as friends for now, if i can manage that.

That's a shitty attitude and it'll get you nowhere but make you a perpetual orbiter.

vandaalen · 2018-06-29T08:38:57+00:00

Sidebar stuff is great and all, but is useless for me.

Since you didn't even really read it, which one can easily tell from the rest that comes afterwards, yeah, it's fucking useless for you.

Black_m0ngoose · 2018-06-29T13:39:01+00:00

Sidebar stuff is great and all, but is useless for me.

Too good for the basics, eh?

JamesP2018 · 2018-06-29T14:03:42+00:00

"Sidebar stuff is great and all, but is useless for me."

Learn the material from the standpoint of maybe this is how it works. Update your belief system. DO NOT accept what you read without critically considering it and being willing to reject all or parts of it. Failure to be your own judge in all areas of life is failure to accept responsibility and the joy of adjusting the outcomes of those areas.

abudun79 · 2018-06-29T09:18:21+00:00

Sidebar stuff is great and all, but is useless for me.

Read the sidebar means, that you should read the books and articles mentioned there, not just the sidebar itself.

And it implies that you understand what you read or re-read until you understand and then start implementing it.

And, as you are obviously looking for a shortcut: The sidebar IS the shortcut.

SirKolbath · 2018-06-29T07:39:33+00:00

The sidebar is the foundation. If you are saying it's useless then you're not really ready to make the changes you need to make in your life.

You need at least six months of monk mode. Work on you, your hobbies, and your personal mission.

AlexanderTheBread · 2018-06-29T07:47:42+00:00

Think about it from a positive place - you never got the chance to be a beta orbiter and now you can start fresh with a more mature brain. You get to start fresh.

That said, yes, please do lift. For an hour a day you can create something better out of your skinny body.

Apart from that, find girls soon and start at least talking to them. For this, find places with girls. Find a dude or two who are into this thing as well, and go together. At least you'll make friends this way.

GayLubeOil · 2018-06-29T13:16:14+00:00

If you want to look like and be treated like the Indian guy from office space continue to not lift.

Morphs_ · 2018-06-29T13:23:05+00:00

Dude, you second paragraph contains a lot of self-deprecation. You really need to stop that. YES you are able to achieve abundance mentality and YES you are able to have girls want to have sex with you and YES you can expand your social circle into a circle of awesomeness.

But you must shut up that voice in your head that keeps saying it's not for you, you're not good enough, etc. Stop that, it only hinders you. Go out and lift, and make every rep one where you choke that voice in your head to death. It needs to be rooted out for you to become the guy you were to become.

bluechipmonk · 2018-06-29T16:10:32+00:00

Read this and lift https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5fihmu/how_to_get_laid_like_a_warlord_37_rules_of/

FieldLine · 2018-06-30T03:42:53+00:00

I'm starting to accept it and want to move on. Nothing i could have done about it then, and no use crying about it now.

You'll do well here, because you are willing to take responsibility. Most guys refuse, blaming everything and everyone for their lack of success.

Sidebar stuff is great and all, but is useless for me. Abundance mentality? Yeah not happening.

It's about getting into the right mindset, even if it doesn't seem immediately practical. Do the required reading, even if it takes you a while.

Girls would also be nice but I'm being realistic so I'm okay with just having them as friends for now, if i can manage that.

You have that backwards. You get laid a bunch of times and then decide if you want to keep women around as friends. It's amazing how much less interesting women become once you aren't so thirsty.

Personally, once I became more successful with women, I discovered that women make shitty friends, so I don't really have any. I'm friendly with lots of women -- they'd probably consider us to be friends -- but it's rare that I'll call one up for a casual hang when I can invite a guy friend out instead.

Lot of stuff is new to me right now and I can't focus on too many things at once.

Smart. First thing to do is get your ass in shape.

Eat a lot, as much as you can get down. If you're skinny then don't worry so much about the particulars, just focus on getting a lot of protein. Lift hard and heavy (squats, deadlifts, look up the "Stronglifts" program) so you'll put on good weight, also throw in ten minutes of jump rope every day to improve your stamina.

Should I try to be more social

Yup. Just practice. This doesn't have to be a "habit" that requires discipline.

hobbies

Martial arts is a great one.

But do one thing at a time, like you said. Get into the habit of cooking healthy meals and working out. As you get better at the social thing, you'll fall into your hobbies, others will introduce you to what they like to do and you'll inevitably find something you are interested in.

Killing__Time_ · 2018-06-29T07:41:36+00:00

Stop being a fag.

Title	Lift before all else?
Author	SignificantLettuce
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	June 29, 2018 7:02 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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