Lifting has given me a short temper

cazzah123 · 2015-04-06T18:22:30+00:00

Basically, you've always been a cunt, but never had the courage to act on it.

Now you've gained a little muscle you think you're a big shot and think its acceptable to act like an angry child when stuff you dont like happens.

You wont like reading that, but its the truth. Lifting cant turn you into something your not, only help manifest what you might have been hiding.

My advice? Go do some BJJ or MMA sparring and watch your ego get destroyed when some 5'9 165lbs kid fucking wrecks you

vicious_armbar · 2015-04-06T18:02:24+00:00

I had a similar problem after doing Jiu-jitsu for a while. I used to be a very chill guy. You'd have to work hard to piss me off. After a couple years of bjj, putting on some muscle, and seeing my fighting skills go though the roof as evidenced by my performance at the gym; and at competitions I started to to get a much shorter temper.

I realized that this was because:

I was no longer scared of fighting someone. In fact I started to enjoy fighting and looked forward to the chance to fight.
When you spend a large amount of time and energy building a big ass hammer; then everything starts to look like a nail.

I started having trouble with my knees so I had to stop bjj. After doing some rehab, and taking a few supplements I'm ready to start again. But I guess you just have to be mindful of the fact that you're naturally easier to provoke when you're in this state; and keep yourself in check.

I remember reading about a study that statistically found that physically larger men, and hot women have shorter tempers. The author speculated that this is because evolutionarily they can afford to be less forgiving. So this seems to be somewhat of a universal phenomena.

krustytheclown2 · 2015-04-06T17:13:05+00:00

I highly doubt your problem with anger has to do with lifting. Meditation has helped me and perhaps it will benefit you.

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-04-06T16:04:35+00:00

There's a few possibilities here. One is that what you're really seeing is an increase in testosterone, which would increase aggression. Punching a hole in the wall is not a normal thing to do though.

I would say that it's just a matter of self control. If you put a hole in the wall every time you break a glass cup you will have some serious issues in your life. I would recommend meditating or something like yoga.

kozlek · 2015-04-06T19:21:42+00:00

you just need to stop dropping glasses bro

BPtoRP · 2015-04-06T16:13:01+00:00

You need to internalize the concept of frame more realistically, it's not just a concept out there, you need to be proud of yourself for knowing how to act calmly in intense situations, let alone a glass falling. First thing that jumped in my head when an accident happened on the road right behind us recently was "Wow everyone's actually freaked out but thank god I'm psychologically jaded enough to stay cool as a cucumber, take action quick and calm."

Meditation will give you that cold demeanor that everyone wants a part of. 20 mins a day, no rules, no exceptions, just close your eyes and separate yourself from your body, release any attention to bodily stimuli.

Bronze_Bound · 2015-04-06T17:30:11+00:00

Lift harder, you are obviously not leaving all of your stress in the iron Temple.

[deleted] · 2015-04-06T17:34:59+00:00

I've definately gained some muscle, and more of an ego, but the downside is the effect it's had on my temper. Last week I dropped a glass and was so frustrated that I punched a hole in my wall. This is negative in terms of controlling my frame. If I'm this loose with my temper it makes me look weak, even if I'm getting stronger.

I have a hard time believing that body building has made you angrier unless you're simply not telling us about some sort of testosterone supplementation you're doing on the side. Whatever you're feeling now sounds like it was always there.

Has anyone had a similar experience with anger issues when lifting or does anyone have advice or resources on controlling it?

Pick up a martial art. Getting your ass kicked a few times puts everything in perspective. That and either reading up on stoicism or certain eastern religions such as Buddhism, which happen to have a lot of in-roads with stoicism.

InformalCriticism · 2015-04-06T19:14:56+00:00

If you were using any mind-altering substances that could have amplified any lack of control you have in the increase of testosterone. You may end up leveling out, but just try to eat clean and stay away from any drugs and/or alcohol until you're able to handle the natural changes in your psychopharmacology.

Poldonis · 2015-04-06T19:32:26+00:00

Combanation of ego/new hammer effect. Chill out your not that awesome. Use that aggression in the gym before you hurt yourself and take 3 steps back.

After a few months you will get "bored" of your new toy guns and realize they are a tool. Take them out to work then put them back on the rack.

Zanford · 2015-04-06T20:30:26+00:00

Your temper is more likely b/c of your LTR or other life changes than b/c of the lifting.

It could also be b/c you've gotten a big ego due to the lifting. Your ego comes through in your writing style.

Actual testosterone increase due to lifting is the least likely explanation, esp. if it's only been a few months.

rockmasterflex · 2015-04-06T16:56:18+00:00

Uhh maybe u got some bad supps there bro

Title	Lifting has given me a short temper
Author	thebadmanpuntdbaxter
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Date	April 6, 2015 4:00 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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