Lifting Help

Hello All,

Long time lurker, first time poster. I like many, have fallen into the throws of marriage. I’m 26 and she’s 28. We have 3 kids together and do very decently with our own respective jobs thankfully. However, as with what I have now come to see as a very common denominator in moral marriages, we have a lack of sex problem. Before what I call the enlightenment (Discovering TRP and MRP), I would beg and plead for sex, only to get it drip fed starfish sex. Bend over backwards and do every little thing asked with no hesitation to make her happy. Then there was the day I was perusing reddit and came across the red pill movement and had my biggest “fuck me, you’re a fucking retard to not have figured this out” moment. Since I have read the sidebar in its entirety and implemented a lot of what I’ve learned. I’m actually on my way to my weekly golf lesson as I type this that would’ve never happened before my enlightenment due to me being afraid to upset her, thus not getting sex. I’ve put my foot down so to say on a lot that I’ve let slide in the past. We’ve had sex more increasingly, but obviously not to the level that we had pre-kids and marriage when she was telling me verbatim to fuck her face. After adopting these principles she actually let doggy happen which it’d been literally 10-12 months since that’s happened. So any progress is good progress. On to my actual question now that you have some context. I’m still getting rejected quite often and tonight when I inevitably will get rejected I plan on getting up and saying I’m going to the gym (out of the norm for me since neither of us leave the house after the kids are in bed). This is an attempt to introduce dread and ultimately get my stomach down and muscles swollen. I need help, where do I start with lifting? Any tips or resources that helped you see success when first starting?

Thanks