Losing weight

[deleted] · 2019-09-03T14:45:19+00:00

Are they also a little fat? If they are also somewhat fat, you are making them realize that if you can do it, they should be able to do it too. Basically you walking around infront of them without all that weight is indirectly saying to them: "You're a fucking fat loser and you know it!"

Anyway, if they're not fat. It's because you're changing and taking charge of your life. People don't like change and want you to stay in the little box they created for you in their mind. If you get out of that box, they'll try to push you back into it. Mostly it's just their own insecurities which you are triggering when you change.

FinancialThanks1 · 2019-09-03T14:42:57+00:00

Tell them to fuck off. At the same time some people go over the top with trying to get ripped. Unless it’s your job don’t let it get in the way of other aspects of your life

i-am-the-prize · 2019-09-03T16:58:29+00:00

just smile and say: "i'm doing it for me, i feel better when I'm healthier" and change the subject.

who cares why they're doing it? (ie: get out of her/their heads)

you know why you're doing this, that's all that matters. be your own mental point of origin.

but as a though experiement, it may be

crabs in a bucket
jealousy
people fear change
that's how they identify you

about girls likeing chub... how many "chubby chaser" websites exist for men seeking chubby women (many), and how many websites exist for women chasing chubby men? (none). leave it at that :)

boy_named_su · 2019-09-03T18:37:42+00:00

Hell is other people

Eyes on the prize motherfucker. Do this for you, and no one else

They are fucking lying. Go to / r / blackpillscience . Women mostly care about looks and only care about lean men. Get down to less than 15% body fat

BusterVadge · 2019-09-03T18:34:37+00:00

Once you start eating at or reasonably above your TDEE, lifting 4-5x a week and cutting out shitty junk food your body finds homeostasis. If you're losing weight then it's meant to be. Nothing wrong with packing on 15-20 pounds of muscle after you drop the extra body fat though.

SirAttackHelicopter · 2019-09-03T17:44:12+00:00

Don't ever show them anger or resentment or anything of the sort. Smile, be happy, and show them you are taking the right path. Because you will be much better off with a healthy body than any hater. There is that old saying "misery loves company", and this is a thing happening to the modern world of political correctness and identity politics now.

Hennythepainaway · 2019-09-03T17:46:14+00:00

Once you lose all that fat and start gaining muscle, you'll see women start to treat you differently (assuming you weren't born with a truly unfortunate face). I hope you're lifting while you're also losing weight because you can gain muscle on a cut if you're a true noob.

A sad truth in life is that a lot of people close to you want to see you do good, but not better than them.

RPthrowaway123 · 2019-09-03T18:52:32+00:00

This happens frequently when you start making changes to better yourself. People that aren't better themselves don't like seeing other people do it, i.e. the crabs in a bucket mentality. They want to feel better about themselves so they try to dissuade you from improvement.

Herdsengineers · 2019-09-03T19:20:36+00:00

don't listen. don't get mad. stay composed. you have goals, pursue them. period. don't let other people dictate your goals. don't justify yourself to them either. next time they start in on you, instead of saying "well, i'm just doing this for me..." or some other such otherwise seeming rational explanation, instead ask them why they think they get to dictate or have a say? what gives them the right to tell you one way or another? who are they that they get to do that?

don't justify or explain yourself. set boundaries instead that tell them that their input on your health and workout goals are not invited and not welcome.

Protocol_Apollo · 2019-09-03T20:16:03+00:00

Crabs in a bucket: they don’t want you to change and upgrade your standing.

They want you to be like them or below.

When people telling you to stop losing weight, you should push yourself harder to lose it.

It’s good you at least subconsciously know this as you smile, nod and agree and then keep doing what you are doing anyway , instead of DEERing etc.

ComfyBiscotti · 2019-09-03T20:53:33+00:00

two reasons.

they are jelly, especially if they are chubbed. and dont want you to outshine them.

and also could be they are used to everyone around them being obese (75% of america is obese/overweight), so they think you are getting "too small" when in reality ur headed towards a really good healthy weight. ignore that bullshit.

make sure you lift too. cuz one thing i've seen before is when a guy is really fat, people think of him as a "big strong guy" just cuz hes padded with so much fat and takes up space. and then when they lose weight they look really weak, even if you are the exact same strength, you lost the "padding". so make sure you lift to look even better.

Variatiion · 2019-09-03T21:18:19+00:00

They are scared that you're increasing your smv to be higher than theirs. They liked it when you were that fat loser who made them feel better about themselves.

seriousgourmetshit · 2019-09-03T22:23:25+00:00

Bruh I have to deal with this shit from my mum all the time. I fast semi frequently and you'd think I was dying from cancer with all the "concern" she expresses.

ScooopWoopScoup · 2019-09-03T23:27:12+00:00

Do it for yourself

GatienCash · 2019-09-04T00:47:09+00:00

Those people see women as the prize. If you are losing weight, it's primarily for you, not to appeal to women.
They don't even consider the health benefits. Losing +100 pounds will change your life in so many aspects.
You have lost +70 pounds in 1 year. Congrats, it's a great achievement. By succeeding, you become the projection of their own failures and insecurities.

topkar · 2019-09-04T13:58:26+00:00

They want to see you doing well but not better than them. Read: yes they want you to be in shape and they're happy for you, but they don't want you to be in better shape than them.

Title	Losing weight
Author	Pokeylaw
Upvotes	14
Comments	18
Date	September 3, 2019 2:24 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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