Been with her for over a year now we’re both 23, recently she has been saying I’m not putting enough effort in through initiating contact and says I’m too stubborn after we argue and she has to make the first move etc, she got really upset and said things need to change.

I’ve put more effort in and I feel she is starting to disrespect me and I feel I can’t win as no matter what I do won’t be good enough.

It seems like if I don’t put in the effort and show that I don’t care as much it upsets her and she thinks about leaving me, but soon as I start putting in effort she disrespects me and walks all over me.

What is the best thing to do to keep this LTR running smooth?