LTR of 2.5 yrs has started doing more stuff without me. She recently hangs out with her girlfriends a lot more (goes to girls dinners, birthday holiday planned for one of them). She also decided to apply to a college graduate house without really consulting me at all (co-ed for post-graduate students - so more like serviced student accomodation without the full party experience).

Thing is, she has never really done this kind of thing before plus I’ve noticed she’s been slightly less willing to see me, makes subtle excuses and has become a bit flaky.

I withdrew attention and told her I’m busy this weekend. She texted and called so I gave her my schedule and said you can see me at X time to which she shit tested saying I was being sulky and I haven’t replied.

I’m probably overthinking all this but need the homies advice. What’s the play, keep doing what I’m doing AKA lift, work, study Or, pull back and initiate dread. Any other suggestions? Thanks