My girlfriend made a comment that made me thinking

CasaDeFranco · 2019-02-04T10:23:31+00:00

Look at her actions rather than her words.

RP0986 · 2019-02-04T11:15:58+00:00

Maybe worth reviewing the sections of “epiphany phase” in rational male 2/3 just to understand a common trajectory.

From my experience there are situations where a woman approaching this phase will “lock in” the provider male with overt displays of affection that tail off once the male succumbs to being deeply over invested.

But really nothing changes for you, RP principals still apply - abundance, frame, self improvement and plate potential.

wobbleelbbow · 2019-02-04T10:30:58+00:00

As long as sex is on tap and in various positions don't stress too much. She probably ride CC before meeting you. Sure you may have been boring to her when she was younger but again, why do you care how she sees you as long as you get what you want? She's desperate. She wants kids. You are stable. If you do not want this - leave. If you do - stay.

vandaalen · 2019-02-04T10:22:10+00:00

What would change?

rugged79 · 2019-02-04T11:46:11+00:00

Do what you want.

But if you really want to figure it out, take a long hard look at yourself.

Are you Chad? Check yes or no.

If yes, then no you're not beta bux. If no, then guess what?

Seriously, look at your various SMV indicators. Do you walk around telling you LTR what to do or does she plan shit and tell you to come along? Is your SMV skewed toward financial shit and WTF you can provide for her? Do you throw heavy weight around for fun or does she spend hours gazing and touching your abs that look like the Greek gods formed them themselves, hence your name: Chad Thundercock?

You Know the answer. You know if she's in charge of you or if you're in charge of her. Other than that, if you actually read this forum, you'll know what to do.

R3ginal · 2019-02-04T15:18:55+00:00

29 is in the epiphany phase. Read "Preventive Medicine" by Rollo Tomassi.

As someone else said pay attention to what she does, not what she says. I know you said that her behavior is good at all times so that's a green flag. But a woman saying something like that during the epiphany phase would instantly start ringing alarm bells in my head. I'm not telling you to overreact here and dump her but just keep what she said in mind as you move forward. If things start changing like she gets pushy for marriage/kids then you have some indication that you're the beta bucks/provider.

Women have the capacity to "fake" being a "quality girl" for a long time - like up to 18 months. But eventually the mask falls off and their true self is shown. Just make sure you take your time in vetting her.

maljo24 · 2019-02-04T12:14:21+00:00

She's happy. You're happy.

sandal_on · 2019-02-04T12:40:17+00:00

I am assuming from the given information.

Women at young age because of their nature, they go for bad boys and Chads. Then when they approach the wall age where they are not attractive (25-35 depending on the woman's looks) and their friends start having kids or such, they look for non Chad and not bad boy for stability and to get a family, NOT because they realized that is the choice. They go purely after tingles. They failed to make Chad/bad boy commit and thus go for average guy who has their stuff together to get commitment.

This shows, to my unwillingness, that she views you very likely as a beta provider and not a lover. (Hopefully she does view you also as a lover)

What she is doing is very common, before making the guy commit firmly in the relationship, the sex, gifts and cooked meals are abundant. Some girls give just a lot of sex while others give more than sex. Then when she got your commitment or when she gets bored, she'll move on or cheat on you if she can't get commitment from the other guy.

There's plenty of girls that have not ridden the cock carousel and only had a few relationships. I advice you, as a fellow male, for your own good to try to work on your sexual market value. When your smv is high enough, cooking, gifts won't be a bonus but something the girl willingly does all the time.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-02-04T16:12:00+00:00

What Vandaalen said. Who really gives a fuck how she sees you. You're showing fear that her frame (whatever it is) will be the dominant one.

It's not...you set the rules, you put what YOU want first, and how you expect her to behave if she wants your attention. If she doesn't, then next.

If you can assert your frame and make it the dominant one, nothing to fear.

creating_my_life · 2019-02-04T20:17:21+00:00

Does she see me as a beta provider?

She's not CONSCIOUSLY doing this. It's just how women act. Yes, she sees you as a beta provider, and is ACTIVELY selling herself to get upgraded from GF to fiance to wife. She instinctively knows she's hitting the wall and needs to seal the deal.

she wouldn't have known to value me when she was younger.

Are there any clearer ways of saying, "I don't see you as Chad"?

Sure, keep enjoying the LTR, but you can NEVER give up staying attractive, having passive dread, and KEEPING THE ABILITY TO WALK AWAY WHEN (not if, when) she starts to negotiate sex.

imtheoneimmortal · 2019-02-04T12:24:37+00:00

expensive gift cook meal sex I’m beta provider

thetrpdino · 2019-02-04T20:15:18+00:00

thatbadrogue2 · 2019-02-05T06:55:56+00:00

i mean honestly sounds like she's the orbiter

Title	My girlfriend made a comment that made me thinking
Author	onpuzzle
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Date	February 4, 2019 10:16 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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