Need advice getting back on track (depression recovery)

bbraham · 2019-05-13T11:47:33+00:00

I read everything, you should thank me.

mrmaldoror · 2019-05-13T11:48:07+00:00

Try more hobbies until you find something you like.

I never thought gardening was my thing but turns out it is, took me a while to find it though.

And unpopular opinion, but I personally don't dwell or attribute anything to my "depression". I just call it life and move on.

And it is most likely just your ambition making you depressed. Looks like you achieving 1000x more than most scum bags out there. Take a break, pat yourself on your back for what you achieve and don't sweat the rest.

ThedragonCarnage · 2019-05-13T12:25:18+00:00

I Don't know why no one said it, but have you tried therapy? maybe you need some sort of anti-depressant till you pass that phase in your life. it can be really helpful.

SeamusAwl · 2019-05-13T13:37:58+00:00

Best advice I can give for depression is two fold.

1). Always be doing something. It keeps your mind occupied and you were created for action. Non action is a killer of men.

2). Always talk to yourself as you would someone you love. Best way to do this is to write down 5 things you like about yourself on index cards (1 per card) and read them when you first get up in the morning and before you go to bed. Then each week, add a new card.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-05-13T12:18:30+00:00

Honestly- you’re just making excuses. Everyone has fucking problems and stress. And no one gives a fuck. You have to keep pushing through difficult times and not give up. Eventually you will get to a place where things are easy and even then you have to keep on moving forward because complacency is the first step to losing everything.

do_it_or_leave · 2019-05-13T12:11:03+00:00

Hello bro.

I am in a situation very closely related to yours, but I never took any medicine.

I think my main problem is the lack of goals, and after my gaming addiction.

I set goals 5 years ago that seemed out of my reach, to have x amount of money, six pack, girls etc., I built it and didn't know what to do with it. Now I couldn't care less about my job, left all the girls and the gym, got 25lb fatter, started gaming again.

I believe if I had a reason to get up in the morning I would. My work is got too easy.

Sylvester_Sterone · 2019-05-13T13:05:29+00:00

Keep lifting and building yourself up. Remember things get better when you are 30 pulling girls in their 20s.

Are you sleeping at night?

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-05-13T13:25:22+00:00

I dunno, man. I was going to say therapy, but I see you're already doing that.

You seem to be doing a lot...like, A LOT. That's not usually a symptom of depression. Usually people go the other way.

What exactly are the symptoms? Like, the emotions and feelings you have?

I'm wondering if you're doing TOO much. Maybe you're running from the emotions...when actually you have to go the other way. It definitely sounds like you're a perfectionist. You were doing well, then when a few things didn't work out, you were triggered into a shame spiral.

It looks like you've been trying to push yourself back into a 'high'. Is there something emotionally which happened when you were triggered which you haven't deeply looked at? I'm wondering if something needs to heal. Maybe you need to go the other way, and slow down. I'm aware it sounds kinda blue for redpill, but maybe you need to really get in touch with what you're feeling.

Often the very intelligent, high achievers can lack some emotional intelligence. You had some obstacles. That's going to rock your self esteem and sense of self. With those things not coming through, how do you fill your self-esteem? Maybe let go of judging yourself by your accomplishments. Accomplishments are good...goals are good...but we also need to be cool with who we are along the way. Otherwise, we become 'accomplishment' addicts. If that makes sense.

We build a core belief and rule - 'I am only ok, if I am achieving'. Instead of 'I am totally ok just as I am'.

Also, in my experience, that inner journey of healing our self-esteem takes time. It's a challenge. Sometimes we're up...sometimes down...sometime in-between. Change how you interpret that journey. We're always exactly where we're supposed to be. That shit with your oneitis will take time to heal and change too, because you were emotionally and ego invested.

Welcome to becoming a man. Stoicism, emotional control and intelligence take time to build. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Practice self-care. Keep talking to people. It DOES get better.

Have no idea if anything I said will resonate.

stemtor · 2019-05-13T14:20:59+00:00

I really feel where your coming from on a personal level. One thing you didn’t address is how you feel about yourself. We live our whole lives though our mind and if your self image is negative every aspect of your life will suffer. You just have to realize that we’re only really on this planet to gain pleasure and you just gotta do the things you like, don’t worry about others and especially the girl I know you’ll eventually get over her but you have to let yourself do that first.

sosex1992 · 2019-05-13T15:03:53+00:00

Do you use substances on a regular?

AccomplishedEase · 2019-05-13T15:31:35+00:00

Do you watch porn/masturbate frequently?

BrodinsOats · 2019-05-13T16:34:26+00:00

Keep doing what you’re doing. Are you feeling any better from your efforts?

I think going back to work or school, or really throwing yourself into your business would help.

I took some time off from work because of neck pain/issues (and resulting depression/anxiety about not being productive at work), and that turned into some of my worst depression. Returning to work a few months later helped a lot.

OlderRedBrother · 2019-05-13T17:03:13+00:00

This is a good thread. Love hearing everyone's advice!

Brother, my advice for you:

-spend some time out in nature away from your cell phone.... at least once a week try to get outside for a several hours and capture a sunset or sunrise

-I know this is some hippy dippy shit but YouTube what Jim Carrey says about meditation, mindfulness.... There's some great videos where he references a lot of Alan Watts quotes. The gist is that we are made up of electricity and atoms that have been in the universe since it's inception. We are WAY bigger than just this human existence! instead of thinking of yourself as a human experiencing the universe... Think of yourself as the universe experiencing yourself as a human. I know it's a bit wacky but it's brilliant.

The main thing they're going to teach you is to stop getting lost in your thought. Thinking is the number one way to kill your happiness. Seriously, just take it one moment at a time. when you catch yourself thinking about the future or the past remind yourself to return to the present.

Remember, you're an expression of the universe, and it's not that serious! when you really grasp this, you begin to realize that this life we live is merely a fucking PLAY(like think of a theater play). It's not that fucking serious. It doesn't matter how much you fucked up in the past either, or how much you've been depressed.

Just realize we're here for entertainment and to do good, enjoy ourselves, become badass guys, fuck girls, touch and love people in a POSITIVE WAY!

this thread actually resonates with me because I've suffered my fair deal of depression as well. I usually keep it to myself. I've noticed that when I'm able to bounce out of it, my life becomes GREAT!

I've actually been trapped in a shity depression spell the last few weeks so I'm glad I saw this thread. Like you I'm trying to bounce out of it and start crushing the rest of this year.

Let me know if you like anything I said in this thread or if it's a little bit too hippy-dippy bullshit. I love the spiritual stuff, but it may not be for everyone.

If you ever want to talk more about this shit, feel free to hit me up!

Best of luck dude!

And like always, keep up the lifting of weights, eating healthy, approaching girls, reading and meditating and sleeping well when you can.... Accumulate money... if you can snap out of the shit and start building up your life again you'll be on the right track in no time!

silent_dominant · 2019-05-13T18:27:26+00:00

Are you sure you're eating enough? 76kg @ 186 is pretty skinny. Are your lifts improving?

Could be you're eating too little and that's part of the fatigue problem.

Apart from that : Get in therapy, try different medication, get some kind of continuous professional help that seems to work for you. Might take a few tries to get it right

OlderRedBrother · 2019-05-13T17:08:39+00:00

Just want to encourage more people to post their remedies for depression since I'm sure many of us suffer from depression from time to time. I've actually really enjoyed reading this thread and it's inspired me to crush this week ahead. Would love to keep hearing more advice/philosophy/hacks from more people!

Title	Need advice getting back on track (depression recovery)
Author	bbraham
Upvotes	4
Comments	50
Date	May 13, 2019 11:17 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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