So there’s this girl I’ve been fucking for a couple months. She says she doesn’t want anything serious, and I believe her. However sometimes her actions speak otherwise. She has done shit like accidentally blurt out the L word, always saying she misses me and being the first to initiate meet ups. She is sexually submissive and does anything I want. As a plate it’s been pretty good. However I feel like she has too many red flags to consider an LTR. She has an army of simps and orbiters and constantly posts attention seeking shit to social media/loves to do drugs and party. She’s 20, fairly standard stuff
My problem is that I fucked up turning it into a FWB dynamic, and that’s where things starting turning sour for me. I made the mistake of inviting her to a gathering with some people I know. While we were there I was spending some time interacting with people and not really mate guarding or anything like that, letting her wander around and do whatever. At a certain point she starts talking to a dude there a little too much for my liking. She ends up wandering off with him(her friend who I let her come along with was there too so i know nothing crazy happened.)
This annoys me, kind of disrespectful and the event is dying down so I text her that I’m leaving and if she wants to come with now is the time. She returns and acts like nothing is wrong. There was a good amount of alcohol involved FYI.
I keep my cool and drive her friend home, she’s telling me all about how much fun she had and how hot I am. We get back to my place and she initiates really hot sex. Next morning I act a bit cold and take her straight home. She could probably tell I was slightly annoyed, I just told her I was tired. She added the dude who is an acquaintance of mine and I noticed she liked a bunch of his pictures and even posted a photo he took of her and tagged him in it. This shit got me pissed and now I’m looking for advice for how best to deal with it.
The shitty part of this is despite my best efforts, she’s my only plate at the moment. I am actively gaming other girls, but unfortunately nothing has come to fruition as of yet. I had a nice roster of plates that has dwindled and thus she has become my main source of pussy unfortunately.
Talk some sense into me guys.
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You’re right about this. It’s been a bit of a dry spell for me outside of this one. Any advice on how to break it during COVID? My state in the US is locked down pretty strictly. Online game has been dog shit lately. It also doesn’t help that she’s the hottest plate I’ve had since before COVID hit.
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Can you elaborate on this ?
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It’s pretty figured out. She will never be my girlfriend, she disqualified herself long ago for that. What I want to prevent is her damaging my image and status in my circle by flirting with some dude I know at a party I was nice enough to invite her to. If she wants to fuck another dude, fine, but my boundary is that it’s not gonna be someone in my social circle that I introduced to her nor do I tolerate a plate/FWB flirting while I’m around. She should do that on her own time.
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Definitely trying to angle that, she was into the idea at first but now claims she would get jealous. I hope to god you’re not suggesting a devils three way, because I’m ONLY down for a MFF interaction in which my body is appreciated by two sexy women. Not sure what you were implying there.
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lmao mUh BoUnDaRyyyyy me so aLpHa, too bad she don't give a f
know your place lil plate
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Ideally a FWB situation would be cool. Honestly I want that but without her fucking other guys because I’m selfish. But I do not want to be exclusive. I want to keep my options open and be fucking other girls. It’s just logistically been difficult due to COVID making my night game handicapped. It’s not oneitis because I know I can and will fuck other girls at some point. It’s just this disrespect that has me feeling a bit ticked off
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Yeah exactly. I realize this isn’t always possible. I guess the main answer I’m searching for is how to best manage dread in order to keep something like this from happening again. I’ve pretty much written off ever bringing her to an event with me ever again already.
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Appreciate the response, I agree that my actions weren’t congruent with my intentions. My initial plan about bringing her to this party was I was showing up with two attractive girls, possibly preselection combined with my already high status among the group. Unfortunately it was a bit of a sausage fest and it backfired
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