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[–]opening_eyes2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Everyone else has said any advice i would offer about the relationship. .. but your career? You act like there is only one job for someone with a chemistry degree, and that you have it and it sucks. There are companies all over the world from meaningful nonprofits to gigantic inhuman megaprofits that need chemists. And fuck chemistry, any job needing someone with a technical ability (which is actually what your degree says), from investment banking to Google to b2b sales to marketing departments could be an area for you. Maybe talk to a recruiting agency.
Your decision to go to dentist school sounds less like a passion and more like "an easier, more profitable way to become a doctor." Guess what, you will be miserable there, too.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
This is a blessing in disguise breh. If you guys can't plan a wedding together, you shouldn't be getting married.
You are engaged. Your balls are hers now.
[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]Str8_Pillin0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup
[–]aditas-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Agreed, it does not appear that he has his financials in order yet. He has no business getting married and starting a family.
Bail
That's only .0003% of why he shouldn't get married
[–]JinSantosAndria1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Look at you and your frame. You sound like a bitter and old person, complaining at every opportunity he gets, negating any kind of responsibility, trying ignore stuff rather then challenge them. You let yourself go, now fucking go change it. You gave a women a budget for your wedding, that's ridiculous. You complain about your job like an old, depressed man that fears any kind of change to his miserable, daily routine.
Right now it would best to pause this red flag ridden thing, because there is no frame you can hold onto.
[–]SureImShore1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She then texts me saying that she should't be the only one having to apologize all the time
Whoever is acting in the wrong is the one who should apologize. It has nothing to do with equality or balance.
I should care more if I was to loose her
You should not care at all if you were to lose her. She should care about losing you.
the ball is in my court now and that isn't going to talk to me until I call her and tell her why I love her and that she means a lot to me
Do not do this under any circumstances. If you feel you disrespected her and feel remorseful for that, tell her. But be ready for a massive shit test; any sign of weakness or apology to a woman is like blood in the water for a shark. She will turn this one tiff into a referendum on your relationship, try to get you to apologize for everything and accept her every demand. Just repeat that your sorry for x, but that is all you're sorry for.
I don't want to loose her, I have invested a ton into her and I do love her but things have been going downhill since the engagement.
Own this and tell her. I care about you very much but I have been very unhappy since our engagement. It makes me question whether marriage is right for us.
Don't let her think that slipping the ring on her finger means, "you're the boss of me now and you get to run the show." Fuck that noise. An LTR is TRP on hard mode. Marriage is TRP on Legendary with no shields. As she gains more investment from you, your frame and game must improve as well.
[–]ControversialAcc0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just recently got engaged to a girl who I had dated for a year. Met in school.
RED FLAG
I have been complaining
So I have been venting to her
you are right, I REALLY need to stop complaining and bitching to you. That is not what the man should do. I will stop doing that
What do I do?
Leave her.
[–] points points points 56 years ago | Copy Link
While I do partially agree with that, I feel like this is more of an example of me having lost some of my footing over the course of the relationship. I realized I failed a shit test by letting her get to me by her hanging up and then disrespecting me, when I should have just ignored it all together. But I need to know some opinions on how I fix the situation and move on. I can work on gaining my footing back later.
[–]idgaf-5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago [recovered] (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro you failed at about every step in this interaction.
You refused to help her plan the wedding. News flash, women need help making decisions in just about everything. Making a decision (in anything) and taking full responsibility requires balls. If you really didn't care just make ridiculous suggestions. Your outburst of not wanting responsibility is a show of weakness.
You told her you need to stop complaining to her, because that's not a man should do. You overtly communicated that you are not a man, AND that you currently don't think you're a man. Any subconscious feeling she had about it became intensely real. This is not something she can help you with, so why bother telling her? Naturally, she hangs up on you out of frustration.
You ignore a call and send a butthurt text, displaying extreme weakness and desire to play manipulative games.
She tries to take the high road and apologize. You threaten her in response, but in a high-investment (long text) way. Because it's a long text, it's not believable. But she continues to apologize anyway until she realizes you're acting extremely childish and realizes a soft approach won't work. So she decides on a power play / shit test demanding you call her and profess your love. You are both trying to manipulate each other for some outcome.
The other poster has a great response. Apologize if you need to, but your feet need to be pointing to the door.
I don't want to loose her, I have invested a ton into her
She will destroy you.
[–]purecyse-2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If your woman has the BALLS to hold her ground based upon her "principles" then what the f**k is YOUR problem?
You're worried about losing her? She's so worried about losing you that she has actually made silly demands for you to "win" her back. Damn near holding herself hostage as you give her more and more commitment AFTER knowing she was sleeping with other people and you when you first met?
Your thoughts should be about how she's going to miss out ON YOU!
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