Need help with major ONEITIS.

seattleron · 2016-10-07T19:17:14+00:00

1.) DO NOT LET HER KNOW YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE! Keep your got damned mouth shut.
2.) Act like nothing is wrong. Treat her like a 400 pound girl you grew up beside that you have absolutely no romantic feelings for.
3.) Immediately go fuck other women. If you have other plates, or old plates, or girls that you know are DTF, go smash them. Just get some smashing going on. It instantly makes you feel better, builds confidence, and is almost like a pain pill that dulls the sting.
4.) Approach like a motherfucker. Go on an approaching spree like you've never went on before. Talk to more girls than you ever have before. Go with wreckless, confident abandon. Get as many numbers and leads as possible. It is similar to the above scenario of getting immediate ass in that it dulls the pain because of the confidence it builds.
5.) Make it a point to approach and engage with women hotter than this chick. Why? Because there is no better way to relieve the pain of a woman than to get the attention of one hotter than her. I am not kidding, and anyone on here who's done the same will tell you the same. Your ego is hurt, and the best way to build it is to get one hotter who's willing to give her your number, stick her tongue down your throat, or bend over for you. I promise you if you do this your ego will be soothed like never before.
6.) Block her ass from ALL social media, get rid of her pictures, and throw shit away around the house that reminds you of her. All your doing is hurting yourself by keeping this shit around. It is a great way to start getting over her.
- 7.) Get into shape. Hit the gym harder than ever. Get your diet dialed in while you don't feel like eating from the depression.

Once she sees all of the shit above (hopefully word will get back to her) she will most likely come running back. I would suggest only FWB on your terms if she does. And if she doesn't, you're already on your way to a better life than what you had when you were with her.

Good luck.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2016-10-07T19:16:08+00:00

How do I build the mental tenacity to really move on.

I don't know. How do you have the mental tenacity to do anything that your body or your instincts oppose? When your alarm clock goes off, and the rational part of your brain remembers that you need to go for a run, and knows that's what's good for you, but your body wants you to hit the snooze bar, how do you have the mental tenacity to get up and run? If your job is at all dangerous - let's say you're a fireman, you're standing in front of a burning building and your amygdala is screaming, "get the fuck out of here before you die!" how do you have the mental tenacity to do your job?

A key thing to remember here is that following your instinct and continuing to think about this girl is bad for you as a person. So, whether or not I or someone else has some amazing advice that makes you forget her, you need to forget her.

rayyaal · 2016-10-07T19:35:03+00:00

It's all ego - you think her leaving reflects on your capacity to attract women; you're caught up in imagination and considering all the possible reasons why she left and how you could've done better and... and... and...

Just distract yourself in the short term, and a more long term one is get more options. Start sleeping with other women etc, the ECs have already addressed your problem better than I could.

NICOLAWRITES · 2016-10-07T21:20:24+00:00

You need to bail and find something better, that is obviously what she has done. You are only doing damage to yourself on this one, if you keep this up you will end up in a death spiral.

lanky32 · 2016-10-08T12:23:57+00:00

What you are feeling is absolutely normal. Hundreds of people on this sub have felt similar emotions.

The only solution is to have other women. That will help you move on faster.

Title	Need help with major ONEITIS.
Author	throwawayy4649
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	October 7, 2016 6:59 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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