new plate busting up the stack

FrameWalker · 2016-09-06T16:03:01+00:00

Big picture looks like things are on track - this is just a minor beta blimp so don't sweat it. Don't sweat the girl, don't sweat the shit-tests, don't replay it in your head. There's a kink in your process, and you'll iron it out for next time.

Cruising from 10,000 ft first thing that jumps out is that she's still too old. For 2+ kids aim for 21-25. Younger the better for fertility and health of the baby. That way she has 6-12 months to earn LTR status from you, and another 1-2 years minimum to prove herself over and over again. Advanced degrees on her part shouldn't be a factor - better off focusing on family values and a properly vetted family.

As far as your process, every girl should be fuck-zoned by default - including the young ones. The only way she gets upgraded is through continued non-sexual investment in you and your life - she gives you gifts, makes you food, cleans your place.

Against this girl, my frame is getting obliterated somewhere between Hiroshima and the Haitian earthquake.

Well said. A 28 year old is a seasoned man-eater. I know 21 year olds who are man eaters - 7 extra years can make anyone formidable. The 30+ gals are post-hump and they're strategy no longer involves going for total victory - no scorched earth. 25-30 different story.

how do I pull her back into my frame?

Here are the plate guidelines tattooed to my inside wrist so I don't forget them.

See them no more than once a week or 2x every 10 days.
No sleepovers (rule I break most often- do it cautiously)
Every THIRD meetup includes an activity outside the bedroom. Making dinner, grabbign a drink, playing pool, going hiking. The standard is we meet at my place or hers just for sex, maybe watch a show afterwards if I feel like it.

Over time as she ups her feminine charm, and does nice things for me, I'll do more nice things for them, following the 2/3 rule. She brings me food 3x, I take her out twice.

So I don't focus on the microinteractions - facial expressions, individual shit tests, the conversations, the retorts, the headgames., rather do the big picture stuff and the rest will fall into place. If she calls you sweety don't react. You're getting what you want if you follow the workflow. The rest is just flavor. If you don't like the flavor try a different candy.

boolshynet · 2016-09-06T16:00:40+00:00

fuck zoning haha

tslextslex · 2016-09-06T18:26:55+00:00

In addition to some of the other suggestions here, you can also introduce more pure dominance to the interactions you do have. If she pulls the thing where she gets naked and summons you to bed, try telling her to get out of your bed and get her clothes. Then -- only then -- tell her NOW she can get undressed.

She shows up in sweats, tell her you don't mind waiting "while she gets dressed."

When are you are bedding her, you still want to make it mind blowing for her, but go after that in a little more dominant way -- edge her, don't let her orgasm until you are ready for her to. When she tells you "oh god stop" make sure you put another aftershock or two into the mix. Nothing sets frame like her saying "more please" and "please no more." And don't underestimate the effects of a nice little spanking.

Once you've done some of this, she's going to find it harder to shift frame on you. She's going to know that you've seen her like that.

WakkoMarine · 2016-09-07T03:03:49+00:00

. Yombnu

yellowmonkeyzx93 · 2016-09-06T15:44:09+00:00

You probably have to reset yourself.

First, soft-next or ghost her for quite some time.

Probably a few weeks or a month. Go do stuff and see other people. DO NOT EXPLAIN YOURSELF.

Have options. You're having beta behaviour because you're putting her on a pedestal. Don't answer her calls or messages. Let her hamster work itself. You'll restore your status as an alpha in her mind.

Maintain your frame by not getting overworked about what girls say or think. You are the world. You are the prize. That's who you are. Like no matter what happens, be the sun. The sun will still shine no matter what happens.

If she nukes an entire plan last minute, then soft-next her. You want to nip her disrespectful behaviour right in the bud.

Title	new plate busting up the stack
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Date	September 6, 2016 2:27 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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