No one cares

tepper2 · 2015-02-13T21:05:15+00:00

Sure, I can live for myself, and do things that I like to do... but it feels really empty and pointless.

Welcome to manhood in the 21st century. You're expendable, replaceable, and mediocre if you're not exceptional. I've gone through it, and I'm sure most guys here have at some point.

what's the point of living if those around me, especially women, only care about what they can get from me

This is one of my favorite resources on the topic. It's one of the most real things I'd ever heard when I first saw it, and I still watch it occasionally when I'm doubting myself. Sure, it's from a movie, but it's also 100% accurate.

Nobody gives a fuck about you. You're never going to change the way people think. But you're in complete control of how you deal with that reality.

I've found my motivation in business. Building an empire. Partially to show myself that I can do it, partially to send a big "fuck you" to everybody who has ever doubted me or shit on me when I was down. Even my closest friends told me verbatim "I think you will fail."

And after several years of doing things that people told me were not possible, or that I was stupid for trying, I get to enjoy what I do on my own terms. All that "nobody cares about me" shit doesn't matter anymore because I'm far too busy making my life the way I want it to be, instead of complaining about why it is the way it is.

The benefit is that you will attract other like minded people. You'll gain respect. Doesn't matter what it is that you do, as long as you're doing it.

Seems like it makes the most sense to put in as little effort as possible into anything.

Bad attitude. If you think that way, you aren't analyzing your accomplishments and building on goals. Whatever it is, constantly improve at it. Live for the challenge, not the end result.

tombreck2 · 2015-02-13T20:40:48+00:00

Make your own happiness.

If you were the only person on earth what would you do with your spare time for fun

kingofpoplives · 2015-02-13T20:57:19+00:00

You need to find a purpose outside of yourself and give your life to that. Feels good man.

LeGrandDiableBlanc · 2015-02-13T22:38:15+00:00

Life IS pointless! No one lives on purpose bro. You were forced into existence, and at the same time are forced to accept that your existence is finite. You're going to die, guaranteed. I personally don't believe in superstitions, so this life is it.

My advice would be to be selfish. Do as many things that make you happy as you can, and do your best to maintain the minimum standard of living necessary for your own happiness.

My advice would be to look into Epicurean hedonism: http://philosophy.lander.edu/ethics/epicurus.html

SkorchZang · 2015-02-14T01:19:58+00:00

That's just the default, the starting point.

You can make people care about you, and even take it to extremes.

What you see on TRP is a remedy against typical beta thinking: "she will truly care about me, and I will finally feel good". That's not right, you want to modify that: "she will truly care about me, and she will feel good. I will be cheery and indifferent regardless."

Merwebb · 2015-02-14T02:41:36+00:00

No one cares about you and THATS PERFECT!!!! You neither owe shit to nobody, nor need to satisfy nobody, only yourself. Find Your calling, your true calling, and enjoy the trip while doing so. Enjoy it dude, you are making an enormous discovery, use this truth, turn it to knowledge, and embrace it. Part of being a man is to protect something, to build something. Not being guarded or protected by others. Go!

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-02-14T02:44:44+00:00

Find some brothers.

Stories_of_Red · 2015-02-13T21:03:30+00:00

How do I stop this feeling?

I have found my kids to provide me with an enormous amount of satisfaction, relative to other people. Hanging out with them when they were young was just great. Yeah, they can be a pain in the ass, but you are strangely okay with it, even as you correct and end it.

I also have close friends from childhood, who are good to hang out with.

99.9% of the people you encounter, though? You just slide on by them and their BS. That is life. Zen, man, Zen.

Title	No one cares
Author	_penseroso_
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	February 13, 2015 8:26 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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