Not Giving A Fuck What Others Think

RedCrotch · 2016-04-13T02:24:48+00:00

Monk Mode is the right direction to have some foundation for positive feedback loops/self-validation. One thing that I believe will help the most with anxiety like this is to practice mindful meditation (I am a big believer in the free 10-day Vipassana Meditation courses.) Actual practice, not just reading books and intellectually understanding mindfulness and a truly balanced mind.

I have been practicing for about 2 years and the first technique that they introduce to sharpen your mind (anapana meditation) is kind of like a brain hack to shut off the mind chatter instantly. This is mostly second nature to me by now and sometimes I get social anxiety/depressed feelings/any negative thought loops and all I have to remember is to bring my awareness to my nose intently for a minute or so until I settle out of the emotion and can think from an objective standpoint.

Feel free to PM me any questions you may have

ouselesso · 2016-04-13T01:56:33+00:00

Realize that you're nervous about what others think because you probably have little to show. Fix that, and you'll fix your problem.

fuckin_retard · 2016-04-13T04:51:46+00:00

Its not that you don't give a fuck about what others think, its that you don't care too much about what they think. Why do we groom ourselves? It is so people think we are attractive. We naturally tailor our appearance and our behavior to fit in socially.

The problem arises when you are too preoccupied with people's perceptions of you, and there is a fine line here. What you want to do is look as good as you can, and then go out and be yourself.

How do you free yourself from the anxiety you talk about?

Practice. Go out and be with people. Unless you have a condition like aspergers (in which case this advice might even be harmful), all you really need to do is spend lots of time socializing, and you will become comfortable. Its like playing a sport. The better you get at it, the more comfortable you feel in the field of play. When you feel like you have the verbal dexterity to participate and/or dominate any conversation or social setting, you will feel as comfortable as you've ever felt, in fact you will feel better than comfortable. At that level, socializing is downright enjoyable.

I don't know how old you are, but if you're in high school or college, you should join organizations that give you a lot of social contact. If you're out of school and in the workforce, you should take breaks every once in a while to engage in small talk with your coworkers.

Cheers, and good luck.

Redpill876 · 2016-04-13T03:53:00+00:00

Everyone else is worried about how your percieving them they don't have time to give a fuck about every little disicion you make.

This mentality helped me

Also try talking to a girl with lower smv than you. You literally won't give a shit because she's ugly then apply that to hot chics.

JimFury · 2016-04-13T02:22:26+00:00

For one, I can't see how nofap could help this. Nofaps benefits are greatly exaggerated. Fake it til you make it applies here. When I started high school and first started learning pick up shit I was super nervous I couldn't talk to anyone guys or girls and I cared what everyone thought about me. As I started learning I went from nice guy pussy to huge asshole all the time. It got me my first girlfriend and got my first bj at 15. The more I followed the asshole path the less I cared about what people thought. Even when I did I would force myself to say stuff. The more I forced myself out of my comfort zone the more I got used to it and could handle other people's thoughts. I toned it down and I'm not full on asshole anymore I found a good balance. Work on your humor that is a huge thing that helped me. As a ginger growing up you either learn to laugh it off and get thick skin or you blow your brains out.

You will always have someone try to amog you or be better than you so that'll never go away but if you can think of yourself as the confident charismatic alpha male than you won't be bothered because you know you're King shit. When I walk into a room I know that I'm in the top percentage of guys personality wise, people love me. Also bringing up my previous point of being a ginger I constantly have women tell me that ginger guys are usually super unattractive but I'm one of the few sexy ones. This gives me a huge advantage of being a visible minority of men, only like 2% of people are gingers and an even smaller amount of men are actually attractive gingers. I have super ripped friends who bomb with women because their confidence is shit and I have ugly bros who slay because of their confidence and charisma. It's not about if you deserve your confidence, it's if you have it and if you pretend to have it eventually your mind will default to it because acting confident feels way better than acting like an easily hurt and offended man.

dark_dragoon10 · 2016-04-13T01:07:24+00:00

"Know thyself" -some Greek guy

Monk mode. Once you are working on yourself you know where you stand. No one can take that away from you. Therefore you will naturally not give a fuck.

Zinamam · 2016-04-13T01:23:22+00:00

We're just living on a rock floating around in space and you'd have to do some pretty extraordinary shit to be remembered in 100 years. So who cares?

As long as you're doing what makes you happy then why would you give a shit about what random people think?

massageanest · 2016-04-13T00:40:26+00:00

Monk Mode.

oldslut · 2016-04-13T08:57:25+00:00

that comes with confidence. when you are confident in yourself and your abilities, you just don't give a fuck what others think. lifting, learning, and finding your path will all lead to confidence. until then, fake it. this has nothing to do with fapping.

RPAlternate42 · 2016-04-13T03:12:28+00:00

"This guy learned how to stop giving a fuck about what others think using this one weird trick. Masturbators hate him!"

648262 · 2016-04-13T06:38:16+00:00

It can't be done.

But stay busy with your own projects and you tend to forget about other people.

Tauger3 · 2016-04-13T00:25:33+00:00

I don't give a fuck about this shitpost.

Title	Not Giving A Fuck What Others Think
Author	Snow_Dreams
Upvotes	10
Comments	20
Date	April 13, 2016 12:20 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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