Noticed a difference from women's looks when stoic?

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-04-10T11:38:39+00:00

Women are attracted to a confident, powerful vibe which is what acting stoic can give you in certain situations.

However if you're at a nightclub for example you don't want to be the guy at the bar sitting alone and frowning. It's relative to the situation.

LaV-Man · 2018-04-10T12:14:40+00:00

I do not give a fuck what people think of me * I will give 0 interest to the women around me * I will be unaffected by the world around me * I will be unshaken by the world around me

While Stoics may often appear like you describe above this is only a superficial result (that people perceive you like this) and not a tenant of Stoicism.

Stoicism teaches us to be affected by the world around us, to get involved with it, in essence to be affected by it.

This is why Stoicism advocates involvement in politics and giving charitably.

The point is, that you not let you emotions drive your thoughts. So, a woman laughs at you with in ear shot? The Stoic thing to do is to not acknowledge it because you can do nothing to stop it. However, if they are laughing at you because of something over which you have some control, like because your shirt is dirty, then you should take action and change your shirt (because it is preferred over a dirty one, and not being laughed at in public is preferred to being laughed at). Having your thoughts drive your emotions means that changing your shirt is probably pretty low on the list of priorities for a Stoic since virtue is paramount (preferred indifferents are not).

BeanNCheeze · 2018-04-10T16:11:34+00:00

I did this at the gym without even thinking about it.

Was finishing my reps and was really struggling to finish those last few reps. I get this “let’s fucking do this” face, which is a bit of a grin showing my teeth which I’m proud af of because their straight and really white. my eyes/demeanor looked focused.

Once I was done I realized a couple women catching looks. The guys did not.

nabosch · 2018-04-10T12:24:08+00:00

Want to really get them going? Make eye contact when you catch them mirroring and hold it for a few seconds.

Most dudes freak out so quick and advert their gaze when they make eye contact with a chick, or try to look hard the whole time and never look back at them.

lowjakx · 2018-04-11T20:31:51+00:00

Looking angry has NEVER worked for me, in fact it broke me. Looking approachable is key, not angry/unemotional. You will make people uncomfy.

alpha-zach · 2018-04-10T02:02:24+00:00

Def. Try looking angry. See if it produces better results.

Title	Noticed a difference from women's looks when stoic?
Author	resnine
Upvotes	27
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Date	April 10, 2018 12:43 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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