TLDR Ex-GF keeping me in orbit for 2 years now.(LJBF). It's fucking with my self esteem. Take the machiavellian approach and keep her for the provisioning she provided in the past and probably will in the future, or hard next her?
Background Popped my cherry with her. LTR for almost 3 years. Was a high-ish beta when we came together. As you might guess, failed all of her shit tests and turned me into a wussy lowly beta. Decline in the bed after about 1.5 years. At this point we didn't have to say anything to each other anymore, as if we'd been married for 20 years. Hung around until a better branch appeared. Lo and behold! Eventually it did appear - who would have thought - and I was a goner. She broke up and immediately fucked the other dude with no remorse and hamstered it all away. Turned our relationship into a LJBF. All the while were we still living together. She couldn't move in with him and I didn't want to throw her out, cuz that's not nice, right? Oh what a nice guy I used to be.
Situation She doesn't give me prime time; no weekends, no holidays. Only disposable after-work I'm-on-my-way-home time. With new-found redpill awareness I know she's keeping me in orbit for 2 years now. Texts me how she's missing me. Gossips about her boyfriend in front of me. How his behavior pisses her off and how everything was better with me. Yeah right. Calls me sweetheart and darling yada yada yada. All that bullshit. The medium is the message. I'm getting sick of that shit and it starts messing with my self-esteem because I've become aware of the dynamics. Makes me wanna puke.
As of recently she became aware of my rapid progress and started shit testing me again. Attraction emerging... Interesting...
An hour ago she wrote my mother how she misses me and how she dislikes the contact becoming less and less. My mother calls me, asks me WTF she's using my mother as middleman and doesn't initiate contact with me instead. My mother also tells me WTF is wrong with that behavior as she was the one breaking up etc. Love you mom!
Epiphany right now: I still have feelings for her or I wouldn't write this wall of text here. Oneitis much?
Anyways the Machiavelli (or the Beta?) inside of me tells me to keep her around for the possible provisioning she might provide in the future, as she has in the past "to help me out". The man inside of me is sick of her garbage and wants to ghost her completely.
Clearly the only option - if any - would be plating, if that's even possible due to emotes...
What would you do?
Thanks in advance, much appreciated.
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