Oneitis

FuckboyAWALT · 2017-06-12T10:40:03+00:00

it was an LDR...

Should have stopped reading. Check sidebar and top posts.

Get rid of your scarcity and pussy mentality and start living in the presence. Fucking and approaching other girls is the cure for oneitis.

Sbdaq · 2017-06-12T10:43:15+00:00

Get tested for OCD. To have an LDR stuck in your mind after a year sounds like mental illness

Dirkz · 2017-06-12T13:20:51+00:00

The only thing that fixes those things is time. And it appears you've had plenty of that so you gotta get out of your scarcity/depressive mindset that has you thinking you'll never be happy with someone else again.

Stop sitting around feeling bad for yourself. Get rid of all the shit and all the habits that remind you of her; this means stop creeping on her social media, delete her phone, unfriend her friends, throw out the shit that she got for you, etc. Now go out and start making yourself better, no more zero days. A zero day is where you do nothing to become the man you want to be. If you want to be a jacked guy, with a kickass job, masters degree, living in some tropical place and banging beautiful women then every day you must take steps towards that goal. So in this case lift, study, talk to women, do all the shit that is preached here. A zero day is a day where you skip the gym and blow off your responsibilities of moving towards your goals. If you have a zero day you will feel like shit about that day and the next.

Also, working every day towards moving to your goal has the added benefit of distracting you. When you are sitting around playing video games, watching Netflix and creeping on Facebook you have a lot more time for shitty thoughts to creep into your head and make you feel bad.

Then if you fill all your time with productive activities you'll start having better results in life. More money, more looks from women, more meaningful relationships and more interesting experiences. These results will make you happier and doing the productive activities becomes easier... then even more results will come. You essentially create a positive feedback loop of your life.

Go lift.

Willow-girl · 2017-06-12T11:41:02+00:00

Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

VladvonK · 2017-06-12T13:52:44+00:00

I can't give you advice for how to enter an abundance mindset as my body is fucked from being obese so I literally have zero abundance with women.

I started doing this little mental technique that helps. I see negative thoughts about my oneitis like paper in the process of being printed by my mental printer. On the paper are the thoughts and negative feelings associated with those thoughts. But the printer is slow, so I yank that shit out of the printer before it's finished and shove it straight into my mental shredder. I envision myself doing this and it usually helps quell the thoughts before they develop substantially.

In other words just catch yourself when you have negative thoughts and quell that shit fast before it balloons up. It's all I can do besides stay busy.

numandina · 2017-06-12T13:53:05+00:00

Sounds terrible. Only solution is to distract yourself with activities, and seeing other women.

Mudpielol · 2017-06-12T14:21:00+00:00

do you honestly think you can't do better? If you do, work on yourself until you know you can.

Title	Oneitis
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	June 12, 2017 10:35 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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