Physically can’t approach anymore

nobody_thinks · 2019-09-25T00:22:29+00:00

your smv is too low for cold approach.

lower your standards and wait for a girl to show signs of interest.

acp_rdit · 2019-09-24T21:40:57+00:00

Collect 1000 rejections, write a book about it

FereallyRed · 2019-09-24T23:02:39+00:00

If you're doing the same approach and getting nowhere then change your approach.

buttgoogler · 2019-09-24T21:33:59+00:00

Keep lifting and keep getting better.

It'll come eventually, don't worry. Just do it for yourself and not for some hoes.

Schhwing · 2019-09-25T03:07:04+00:00

Disgust is a strong term. If girls are repeatedly disgusted by you it usually comes from a girl sensing your neediness. Your neediness level must be high. So do things for the fun of them not in some form of validation attachment. “My self esteem depends on this girl giving me a good reaction.” Is not a good frame to have.

Consider an approach as an interested exploration of her. “I wonder what she’s like?”. This means you are just getting to know her and she’s getting to know you as a result of your initiative. This is the basic human interaction stuff which you need to work on.

Strange_ghost · 2019-09-24T23:57:16+00:00

Dude, just do '' Mode one'', you will time wasters and being ghosted

IXseed · 2019-09-25T04:20:02+00:00

If you're trying to get a gf girls can smell the needy on you like a bad odor. No amount of game is gonna help you if you have that much emotion in it. It'll give you a weak frame, make you fail shit tests, etc.

You need to harness that IDGAF attitude and abundance mindset. Are you on your purpose in life? It is your purpose just to get in a LTR?

Distractingyou · 2019-09-24T23:32:13+00:00

Rest for a moment and think again back in a few days, wanting a girlfriend means you are still on your blue pill days and you are not looking plates but for emotional conection which in turn gives off a subconcious vibe of needy and insecure. If nothing ever works simply downgrade to another country where your whiteness or whatever boosts your smv by 2 or 3 points.

Also maybe change your approach going directly and ask for a girls name is sometimes too overt for them something like waiting on the line of the cafeteria and cracking a joke about your surroundings (like laughing about why she takes so long) works to start small conversation. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt

amwfhunter · 2019-09-25T01:35:12+00:00

Are u broke or ugly? Poor hygiene? Or just a fucking unlikable prick? Tell me about your friends. Are they successful? Do they get women?

proplfax · 2019-09-25T02:20:50+00:00

record your approaches and post them here. the fact you're posting here implies ure not ugly as sin.

i've gotten 2 lays now in my last 40 approaches. but the first lay came in the first 5 approaches and i thought i was god or some shit lol. both girls 6s so nothing to write home about. about 1 number out of 5 approaches. this is after gyming for about 1.5 years (can bench ~230 for reps and accessories are solid). when i was skinny i did about 30 approaches and got jack fucking shit which is when i started reading book of pook and lifting. girls probably can't tell i lift right now with a shirt on, but i look a lot bigger in any case.

[deleted] · 2019-09-25T04:04:12+00:00

Stop jerking off.

thebadguy89 · 2019-09-25T06:08:01+00:00

What exactly are you saying and exactly how are you saying it? It's important to open up with a neutral question that does NOT have anything to do with the girl. Imagine if it was a guy, would you open up with the same line on a fellow man? Also you need to sound confident and chill while saying it, and then act like you just noticed her "Oh do you come here a lot?" And go from there.

Basically you have to be smooth as butter in breaking the ice and segueing into a conversation. Unless you're really cute, chicks hate it when you make it awkward in the beginning because then it makes it seem like you're just talking to them to hit on them.

ngyuhnang · 2019-09-25T08:22:02+00:00

Dress better, find clothes that actually fit. Stop wearing chunky sneakers and start to wear boots. Do your grooming properly, find a good barber shop and get yourself some cologne (samples from Sephora or Nordstrom will be fine).

First impression is key when you are doing cold approach, lifting is good and those I mentioned will definitely help.

AloofusMaximus · 2019-09-25T11:10:27+00:00

You mention lifting, but I don't see anything about your appearance. How's your grooming, style, fatness?

I can't ever remember a time I've tried to talk to a woman and saw contempt/disgust.

deathhandmachiavelli · 2019-09-25T13:27:07+00:00

How many approaches have you tried?

I decided to try lots of approaches, and I had the OPPOSITE impression (from rejection), I completely lost all fear of rejection after rejected a few times.

I've now hooked up with lots of girls on approaches, including my current LTR.

rpnavi · 2019-09-25T15:34:55+00:00

Sounds like you haven't internalized the red pill. Are you lifting to get women or are you lifting for yourself? A few months of lifting is hardly enough to shake off incel-ness. More details. Where do you put yourself in the SMV scale.

And game. What game are you playing? Cold approaches are needy. Your post is needy. If you get anxiety from multiple failed approaches, you're needy. I mean why the fuck would you care about rejection.

Know the difference between game and internalized game.

Swallow the pill. Don't just keep it in your mouth. Work on yourself, improve, and women will come naturally throughout your journey.

Edit: bad question deleted

XXXMersenne · 2019-09-25T17:26:16+00:00

There's a video that describes your situation pretty accurately, switch off notifications and watch from start to finish - nice and stimulating too to keep your attention.

Good Luck

Jabbermouth · 2019-09-25T19:04:24+00:00

Switch your approach up. If you do indirect, switch to direct and vice versus.

unholychadproject · 2019-09-26T02:36:06+00:00

What's your physical stats? Your groomin' standards good? Dressed well?

Title	Physically can’t approach anymore
Author	Kuzonite
Upvotes	15
Comments	38
Date	September 24, 2019 9:31 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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