Background: An ex-coworker and I went out for drinks after work a while back when we were still coworkers. I was in a LTR at the time but she didn't know that. I was flirting hard (happens naturally- I just don't enjoy cheating though) and she gave solid IOI throughout the night. I broke up with my GF a while ago and ran into her at a volunteer club we both are in. I'm probably a pt or two above her in SMV but all the dorks at our old job make her feel like shes a 10 bc they are always creeping on her.

I'll set up the first couple dates so you can see what I'm dealing with here.

First "Dates"

  • Night 1 - Event we both attended separately w/ Drinks - Fingered her in cab but she wouldn't let me come in to her apt
  • Night 2 - Night out at bars with my friends - Fingered her in her apt but she wouldn't fuck and asked me to leave when I kept resetting/restarting the action so I casually got up, put my clothes on and left. She called (I ignored) and texted asking why I left (seriously) and I just said "because you asked me to".
  • Night 3 - Volunteer Event we both went to - took her back to my place after - She wouldn't fuck but she enthusiastically blew me. Twice.
  • Night 4 - We were both out with our friends and we met at her place at end of night - Fucked and destroyed her- squirted all over the place and she came probably 4 times

Repeat night 4 for the last 2 months about twice a week and she shit tests like crazy. "Carry my bag", "you're not being a gentleman", "you're the only one who didn't offer to help me with X" blah blah blah. I've A&A and pressure flipped a lot of her shit and I think I've passed since she usually ends up laughing with me about whatever she shit tested.

Now, there is this dork that she still works with that was dumped by his gf about a month ago. He's probably 5 pts below me on SMV (decent looking face, but skinny fat and no personality) and we have had a TON of laughs at his expense recently. For example, she commented about how sex with him would be missionary only, his dick is probably tiny, etc. etc. She's recently suggested things end between us kind of out of nowhere, and I can only assume its because she wants to settle down and has found her BB target - the dork. I just said "Yea, sounds good" after her page long text.

Should I just soft next, cut all contact until she contacts me or I see her, or what? If things somehow spark back up, is sprinkling some strategic beta traits into our interaction somehow useful (cuddling after sex, a night in watching movies together or something)?

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TLDR - Plate tries to shit test me into her BB, I resist/fight back to stay Alpha, she finds new certified-BB target (at least I think so- she didn't say anything specifically) and she suggests we we end things. I say "ok". What should I do now?