Please help me with my current nexting . Do I call her out?

zuhbooze · 2018-04-02T08:10:34+00:00

They don't need to know why you next them. Nexting is for you, not her.

No, do not call her out. From the looks of things, now is your time to get out. All the signs are pointing towards her not respecting/valuing you the way you want.

Next and don't look back.

redhawkes · 2018-04-02T08:36:59+00:00

Been seeing a girl for 8 months. She’s basically my girlfriend.

I noticed her Snapchat message are nothing but guys and her top list is nothing but guys

Go hit the sidebar, you're delusional. In mean time, hard next.

vandaalen · 2018-04-02T10:22:00+00:00

You are half-assing things. There are no "basically my girlfriends". either she is or she isn't.

I noticed her Snapchat message are nothing but guys and her top list is nothing but guys.

Huge red flag.

One is an ex, some guy she met in Instagram, an old coworker who always is trying to take her out

Red flag, red flag, red flag.

She never opens them in front of me but she knows I see that

Red flag.

I don’t like that so I cut off my attention and validation. Pretty much soft next.

Half-assing. You either soft-next or not.

http://archive.li/Qb83t

And sent me this (see comment).

You are coming off salty and like a little bitch. If you soft-nexted properly, she wouldn't even refer to anything.

I want to continue like nothing happened, but I want her to cut out talking to multiple men for whatever reason WITHOUT mate guarding or seeming like a controlling freak.

Ain't gonna work. You cannot control people. She just isn't relationship material, because she is craving attention and validation from other men.

Next dat hoe.

http://archive.is/yxzC1

refusewool · 2018-04-02T08:39:57+00:00

Pretty much any LTR issues (or ‘basically’ LTR in your case, whatever that means) can be solved by applying dread. Look up the 12 levels.

NewBoomAction · 2018-04-02T17:50:56+00:00

I think you need to read the sidebar and learn the mantra us sidebar vets spew over and over again: "it's only your turn"

let her ride the CC. Become a sick fuck like me and enjoy watching the women around you destroy their lives with horrible decisions. Refuse to date or marry. Let her fuck other men. Just always wrap up. She is a compliment to me. She is not needed.

It's obvious this female shakes your frame. Fix that pronto.

this_parrot · 2018-04-02T08:04:22+00:00

https://i.imgur.com/7d7xyb6.jpg

RedHeMan · 2018-04-02T10:51:53+00:00

Figure out if she's your girlfriend or not, if she is then this is a hard nextable offense or a demotion. If she isn't, then you shouldn't care who she's snapping/fucking/messaging other than the fact that it disqualifies her from being a potential LTR. Either way there's no need to soft next. Hoes are gonna hoe.

nastynickdr · 2018-04-02T13:33:50+00:00

I am really lost, she probably doesn’t know why I’m nexted her. What can I do?

"You are a great person, but it turns out we are not compatible. I want to be single again. Wish you the best of luck".

Do you think that a girl that does what your GF does is what a LTR worthy girl does? You either accept that she does what she does, or you dont and you walk. Dont try to change her, you cant. You can only change yourself.

Title	Please help me with my current nexting . Do I call her out?
Author	this_parrot
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	April 2, 2018 8:03 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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