Problem with nerves/sex, need some advice/solutions

Invalidity · 2017-09-18T07:00:06+00:00

You've got performance anxiety. You don't think you're going to be good enough. There's no comforting advice on how to deal with this; you're either going to get over it, or you're going to get more practice.

If you're insecure about how big your dick is though... either find techniques on increasing length (ie. jelqing) or consider surgery to improve girth.

You've got a mental roadblock. You've got to immerse yourself in those moments and accept that you may or may not be good in the sack. Whatever you do, if you want to get through it, you can't avoid it.

WISE_TURD · 2017-09-18T09:20:04+00:00

Before you go out: lift then meditate for 20 mins

During the date: have a few drinks and think about fucking her. Get graphic.

During sex: leave your body. Only focus on her and stay in the moment. Use all your senses. Breathe her in. Think about her entire body and how it belongs to you. Take deep breaths and look her in the eyes. That will help you to stop thinking. You need to stop thinking.

On the flipside, if you don't want to cum, think alot. Think about a sport or math problems: "man on 2nd, one out, if i'm the shortstop and a grounder is hit to me, what do i do?" Absolutely elongates that shit.

Overall: read "the sex god method"

max_peenor · 2017-09-18T05:06:20+00:00

Take up a combat sport. You are having a hard time converting fight-or-flight into your desired action. This will fix it. Yes, I'm serious.

Bkblul · 2017-09-18T08:07:34+00:00

Some people are naturals, some aren't. You need to hop in and go for it, it's the only way to improve.

I used to get anxious sending a message on tinder - now I can be balls deep in a girl within an hour of meeting.

Most women won't lead during sex so see this as your opportunity to just do what you want. If you're into it then chances are she probably will.

You can drink a little bit of alcohol to beat the anxiety, like 2 standard drinks max (Ill stress the word little - too much and you'll have whiskey dick)

If you really feel lost, you could pay for an Escort to 'show you the ropes'. My advice there would be to spend a little extra for a better experience.

quicklogaccount · 2017-09-18T14:10:07+00:00

It's performance anxiety. Only experience eases it, get yourself a steady plate. It'll help.
Where's the nofap squad?

Edit:
Answering the guy made me think. I suppose beta blockers should work like magic for this sort of stuff? I'm guessing you won't want to rely on it forever but it might ease the first steps.

JohnFapWick · 2017-09-18T15:06:04+00:00

Do you watch porn?

waylonw · 2017-09-18T15:42:59+00:00

Find an ugly fat girl that way you don't expect to much and she will be grateful regardless of the outcome... build your confidence and you'll see you are hyping it up way too much!

nujjj80 · 2017-09-18T17:48:48+00:00

https://youtu.be/NEhSbUwHqFI

Title	Problem with nerves/sex, need some advice/solutions
Author	GettingShitTogether_
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	September 18, 2017 3:54 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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